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RE: Shhh..I don't want to jinx it.... - 11/21/2013 5:55:03 PM

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I'm so curious to know how this is going.... Any updates? Hope you're still so happy....

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RE: Shhh..I don't want to jinx it.... - 11/24/2013 2:52:33 PM

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(whispering..... Sorry for the apparent bad form asking this question... I can't find an edit button to get rid of it.)

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RE: Shhh..I don't want to jinx it.... - 11/24/2013 7:19:13 PM

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No. Don't be sorry for asking!! It's sweet.
After several weeks of dating, we are still in the "lets see" stage. It's all good. :). It's a marathon, not a sprint!!!!

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RE: Shhh..I don't want to jinx it.... - 11/27/2013 3:56:08 PM

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Glad you are still positive about the relationship...I looked at your other pics here and I see why he was smiling...you are lovely!!!

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RE: Shhh..I don't want to jinx it.... - 11/27/2013 8:28:43 PM

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^^^Yeah, and she's a really NICE person, too!

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RE: Shhh..I don't want to jinx it.... - 11/28/2013 6:27:19 PM

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So glad it's going well. And amen to taking your time.... No point rushing. :)

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RE: Shhh..I don't want to jinx it.... - 11/28/2013 7:58:01 PM

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^^^Yeah, and she's a really NICE person, too!

Awww. ~hugs~

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RE: Shhh..I don't want to jinx it.... - 12/7/2013 5:21:25 PM

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Okay. I hate to post this, but I will for closure. He was a very nice man. But not a match for me. Turns out he has a long-standing relationship with a married woman that is on-going. That is not something I want any part of. Added to that, he was not forthright from the beginning, and it's a deal-breaker for me.

Back to the drawing board!!!! ~smiles~

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RE: Shhh..I don't want to jinx it.... - 12/8/2013 2:44:32 PM

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Sorry he wasn't a match for you. Hope you had fun . . . um . . . exploring each other.

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RE: Shhh..I don't want to jinx it.... - 12/8/2013 3:29:47 PM

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Hope it was fun while it lasted. It's hard to keep a positive attitude when you are misled that way. But there are a few good ones out there. It took me almost 2 years to find Master. Had a few learning experiences in the meantime. I can appreciate Him more bc of the experiences I had. None were bad. Just not ideal.

Good luck and have fun.

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RE: Shhh..I don't want to jinx it.... - 12/8/2013 3:43:24 PM

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So sorry to hear that...It is rough to connect with the "right" person. The good ones live too far, already involved, have one "deal breaker'.. Hopefully you will find someone who makes you even happier.

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RE: Shhh..I don't want to jinx it.... - 12/8/2013 4:43:21 PM

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So sorry he wasn't the one.

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RE: Shhh..I don't want to jinx it.... - 12/8/2013 5:49:09 PM

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Thanks so much. It was fun! I'm not discouraged. I've only really been seriously looking for a few months. I knew when I started I was searching for a needle in a very large haystack. It's all good!

Nice to feel your concern....hugs.....

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RE: Shhh..I don't want to jinx it.... - 12/8/2013 8:33:14 PM

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Okay. I hate to post this, but I will for closure. He was a very nice man. But not a match for me. Turns out he has a long-standing relationship with a married woman that is on-going. That is not something I want any part of. Added to that, he was not forthright from the beginning, and it's a deal-breaker for me.

Back to the drawing board!!!! ~smiles~

Huzzah for standing your ground. Anybody in his right mind would meet you and say, 'OMG, here you are, I realize I've been doing it wrong!! Why was I settling for a married woman who could never truly belong to me <uhhh, commitment-phobic much, dude?> Wow, to think I might be yours alone!'

So frankly, though you have been very generous and nonjudgmental, I'll take the low road and say he was another dumb*ss who played all angles thinking he could have his cake and eat it too, and you deserve much better.

And better you shall have...New Year's is right around the corner, Sweetpea, and I have a 5-alarm dancing pineapple kind of feeling something awesome is on the way Jan 3 or 4 if not sooner...

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RE: Shhh..I don't want to jinx it.... - 12/8/2013 8:46:53 PM

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I will admit. I was pissed. And to be perfectly honest, I took a day before I told him I wouldn't see him again. I really really liked him.
You know, there is that little voice that says "he is soooooo close to exactly what you want!" Then I did a fast forward into the future, and I had to walk. I don't want to be anyone's consolation prize.

I try not to judge ~cough~ most of the time. But I am perfectly ok with being alone until I find what I know I want. It took me a while to really define to myself what I need. Now that I have a pretty good grasp on that, I can't settle for less.

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RE: Shhh..I don't want to jinx it.... - 12/8/2013 8:49:32 PM

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Okay. I hate to post this, but I will for closure. He was a very nice man. But not a match for me. Turns out he has a long-standing relationship with a married woman that is on-going. That is not something I want any part of. Added to that, he was not forthright from the beginning, and it's a deal-breaker for me.

Back to the drawing board!!!! ~smiles~

Huzzah for standing your ground. Anybody in his right mind would meet you and say, 'OMG, here you are, I realize I've been doing it wrong!! Why was I settling for a married woman who could never truly belong to me <uhhh, commitment-phobic much, dude?> Wow, to think I might be yours alone!'

So frankly, though you have been very generous and nonjudgmental, I'll take the low road and say he was another dumb*ss who played all angles thinking he could have his cake and eat it too, and you deserve much better.

And better you shall have...New Year's is right around the corner, Sweetpea, and I have a 5-alarm dancing pineapple kind of feeling something awesome is on the way Jan 3 or 4 if not sooner...

Okay. I'm dying to know. Wazzup with the predictions??? (Sincerely hoping MD has a crystal ball)

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RE: Shhh..I don't want to jinx it.... - 12/8/2013 8:55:53 PM

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I will admit. I was pissed. And to be perfectly honest, I took a day before I told him I wouldn't see him again. I really really liked him.
You know, there is that little voice that says "he is soooooo close to exactly what you want!" Then I did a fast forward into the future, and I had to walk. I don't want to be anyone's consolation prize.

I try not to judge ~cough~ most of the time. But I am perfectly ok with being alone until I find what I know I want. It took me a while to really define to myself what I need. Now that I have a pretty good grasp on that, I can't settle for less.

Your whole post is great, including admitting feelings of pissedness (very understandable), but the bolded parts tell me you are a woman with backbone, respect and a deep understanding of yourself.

So guys? Get crackin', 'cuz this little missy will be off the block soon and he who snoozes, loses. Big time!

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RE: Shhh..I don't want to jinx it.... - 12/8/2013 8:55:57 PM

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Okay. I'm dying to know. Wazzup with the predictions??? (Sincerely hoping MD has a crystal ball)

Pssst. Tarot cards.....

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RE: Shhh..I don't want to jinx it.... - 12/8/2013 9:06:02 PM

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I'm glad I posted on here when I started seeing him. It was good to go back and read it from the beginning to remind myself that I didn't misunderstand anything. I sometimes have a tendency to take on blame that doesn't belong on my shoulders. This one was all on him.

But damn. He had nice big ......shoulders.

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RE: Shhh..I don't want to jinx it.... - 12/9/2013 12:45:27 PM

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But damn. He had nice big ......shoulders.

Heh...I'm sure. ;) I'm sorry to read what ended up happening, but your attitude about it is wonderful. Your journey sounds very similar to mine thus far. It's been a learning experience thus far, and I am sure will continue to be. The Dom I posted about in this section disappeared off the face of the earth after three in person meetings and ongoing communications for several weeks. Just 'poof', gone. Then I met with someone from another city (but not too far) this weekend for a drink, only to be told afterward that "oops, its farther than I thought, can't do it..." My ego is suffering a bit, but I just keep reminding myself that as you say, it's a needle in a huge haystack, and when the right one does come along it will all be worth it. Also, I am approaching this from a place of self-confidence, not neediness, so eh....I'll bounce back and be able to say "it's THEIR loss, not mine" in a day or two....sorry, didn't mean to hijack your thread...just feel so much the same as you that I wanted to say thanks for expressing it so well....good luck as your search continues. As George Carlin said, "Santa is so jolly because he knows where all the bad girls live...", so perhaps he'll bring you just what you want this year now that you're on his naughty list. :D

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