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ManOeuvre -> RE: So you are a Master! (11/9/2013 9:11:08 AM)
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Unfortunately (fortunately) I can relate quite a bit to JeffBC's bullet-pointed first post;
I jumped into my first situation unprepared, if there is such a thing, and yes, found out in due time that owning a parachute does not make one a parachutist.
The second situation I cultivated was a little better, lasted longer, had more stability, etc. In fact it paralleled my life rather well, in terms of where I was in my career, etc (early 20s).
Of course, most people, myself included are still a touch wet behind the ears in their early 20s...
My third, after a couple years' worth of semi-celibate concentration on education, training, career, bohemian jazz musician-lifestyle, saving and personal development was with a woman whom I'd sought across the earth from the middle east to the middle west. Well, I'd sought her name anyhow, as Lord Byron had quite enchanted me with it some decade ago. I found her on this site in fact, and was she ever perfect.
Yet, still, I was not up to the task, and after a little over a year, my record up to that point, things fell apart. Whether you're a captain in your heart, or just because of the hat, when the ship sinks, it's your fault.
Now I'm on the eve of 30. I've been with this woman for a little over 5 years. Another collarme.com diamond in the rough. I shouldn't say diamond in the rough, actually, as the women on collarme outnumber the men who deserve them 100 to 1 (and that's not just another argument for polyfuckery).
We let our relationships evolve organically. Took things slowly. We knew the roles we wanted to play but decided to allow ourselves to grow into them. My career is stabilizing and hers is also. We have plans, and the means, for growing our family both horizontally and vertically. German shepherd is here, and the suburban homestead is on this side of the horizon.
We're at the point where we're dabbling in playing with others. Isn't that neat? I read those profiles, too, by the way "I'm so excited! After only 2 weeks, Master wants me to find another to be my sitser [SIC]."
Yes, after 5 years we're just starting. Maybe I'm a slow learner like DarkSteven.
Two rings. One finger-sized in a clamshell box in the gunsafe, another (axsmar permanent, you know the one) has been around her throat for 4 years. I've got a few axsmars and eternities in reserve, just in case a gorean capture scenario comes up in real life, but I'm not holding my breath.... that or her hot friend we've been angling for a couple years now...
One cage, under my king-kong height bed.
My point after the ramble is that we know these bad things are going to happen. They'll be learning the hard way. While I absolutely agree with Frank from counter-earth (or at least counter-England?) that one's material affairs MUST be in order prior to taking on such a piece of property as another human, I get the feeling aspiring masters of the Xy variety will continue to think with their 'swords', and fall upon them.
There are certainly some obvious warnings I would encourage the ladies to avoid, and the aspiring maestros to cause an introspective re-examining of their priorities:
- Living in one's car.
- Living in parents' basement.
- Camera is excited by their penis (or is it the other way around....)
- Pictures of their AR collection hanging on the wall behind their computer monitor.
- "Gang gestures" in their pictures (sorry I'm Canadian)
- Major grammar issues (does he 'think' in mixed tense and case?)
- More cash in their pocket than their holdings (be it bank account, gold, w.h.y.)
- Unemployed/unemployable
Of course, those could all be totally off the mark. There could be a master out there who is a genuine gypsy, who occasionally stops off at the ole' homestead and sleeps in the basement, has an astonishing penis that he feels would be a crime to keep off the internet, feels that as a 2A activist, that showing pictures of guns is the best way to get the good word out, is a member of some fraternal order that uses handsigns and yet doesn't engage in goofy risky criminal business, composes with bad grammar/orthography in order to convey a deeper meaning or emphasis, with the mistakes being the clues to his hidden messages, keeps 3 million in a suitcase because he doesn't trust the banks and is unemployed because he wants to be.
Generally though, I think the neophytes (such as myself, with fewer than 10,000 days experience) will have to learn it and earn it. Won't be easy. Tony Robbins books might help. Probably won't though.
It will be worth it.
In my opinion, Blonderfluff, with "Learn it and earn it." you laid the queen of spades, but JeffBC takes the hand with an ace - "Just do your best."
PS To Dark Steven's signature, I'd like to add that my penultimate woman had long 'model pins' and wished for plumper, 'cute' legs while my current lovely lady is short and sweet and prays for the long thins. Such is life.
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