FriendlyMuppet -> RE: Wwyd? Sub I play with says he loves me. (11/14/2013 6:22:49 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Lisfor It's a bit late, but I would allow it if the sub is happy to just be in love with me and doesn't need me to actually love him back, and if it doesn't get weird for me. Some people like the pain of unrequited love. Yeah, I'm in agreement here. I've been in a few romantic relationships over the years that upon reflection I realize were basically me in love with her and not the same in return. And I've been fine with that. Sometimes, a bdsm relationship becomes so strong and so deep for a submissive that he (or she) falls in love with the dominant and continues to serve her because nothing makes him (or her) happier. As long as the submissive understands that it's most likely never going to turn into a romantic relationship or lead to something other than the limits of a bdsm relationship (which can go pretty damn deep), and everyone is cognizant of that fact, then I don't see what the problem is. It's like guys who date women until they hear the words "I love you" and then freak out and have to end it immediately. One dominant once stated to me: "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" and that slowly baked in until I realized the power of that statement. And once understanding it, I was fine with it, and we still have a great relationship to this day. She's never going to marry me, but she does still visit my city at random and shows up at my door, where our relationship goes right back to where it was before, until she's had her need filled and moves on again. As long as everyone is getting what they desire out of the relationship, I just can't see the problem. But that's me. And I'm just a friendly muppet.
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