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RE: Why do men pretend to be sub woman ?? - 12/14/2013 5:38:33 PM

Arturas

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ORIGINAL: NaturalAlphaUK

Seems I have just been told I have rep in these forum !
(funnily enough I find nothing when I search on my username)

But just had one Current name of [name removed by moderator], the text in ad and variations on the basic premise of a 40 something wife abandoned for a younger woman and now she will do "anything" just to be held and feel wanted, has appeared on maybe 6 or 7 ads so far

Anyway the ad owner called me out as a fake due to the forums (I assume I get bad mouthed by the fakes I out) and When I pointed out it was probably a man playing games came back with give me your number and I'll prove I'm a women, yet since the message I sent with my number all messages since have been deleted unread ? Funny that

Another one today would be a couples Ad of [name removed by moderator] who claims to be an American cuckold wannabe who has moved to London for work, just everything he types in English not American (example Maths not Math as an American would) He also forget the name of his fake wife and use the name from his previous ad (since deleted)

Am I the only one finding this ?

Steve

LOL. I've not seen so many of the herd pile on so fast since Star changed her userid and was "outed" by a "friend" who was one of the herd that year. They come and they go.

But, enough of a history lesson and back to your question. There are many reasons this happens and it might not be because they are trying to be fake, perhaps they are hiding their identity and true location just because they are worried about their security and safety and privacy here, and really, who can blame them especially if after contacting them they correct these white lies? People can be afraid and nervous about exposing too much about their locations and who they actually are for perfectly good reasons.

In any event, all you really have to worry about not being a "fake" is yourself and if you do that then you will find those who are also not being a "fake". Naturally, you might run into some who want to take you for a ride and you are smart enough to handle this I trust and let them go by the wayside and trust your instincts, don't worry about the "fakes" and instead focus on the serious and desirable people you make contact with here because being truthful and honest and not pretending to be something you are not will always be the wise course and will earn you the respect and even the companionship of that special person or persons. I am certain that works and works well in all attempts to develop relationships here and in the vanilla world.

Happy Holidays to all.

Arturas and star

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RE: Why do men pretend to be sub woman ?? - 12/15/2013 6:47:58 AM

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RE: Why do men pretend to be sub woman ?? - 12/15/2013 6:58:05 AM

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Maybe to get some insight into what women go through and to learn how to stand out from the crowd.

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RE: Why do men pretend to be sub woman ?? - 12/15/2013 7:13:44 AM

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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

There is a vast difference between real people who don't engage every yahoo out there and therefore get called a fake every now and then, and the actual fakes who are actively holding to be themselves something that they are not with the goal of purposefully leading people on for whatever motive.

Agreed. There are fakes and scammers and people living a fantasy life online, just like there are on every other social networking site.

I do think the profile side has more males pretending to be female than the average site. The why of it is easy. Male subs pretend to be female subs as a way of getting some of their needs met. It's hard for a male sub to connect, and female subs have a much better dom to sub ratio. I'm sure some dom males pretend to be female dominants, same thing, in an attempt to improve their chances of making a connection.

For obvious reasons, none of these connections can proceed to real time, a very good reason to plan to meet early on, like in a week or so.

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RE: Why do men pretend to be sub woman ?? - 12/18/2013 6:33:57 PM

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Eh, here's a comment I was going to make on a thread that just got locked.

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There are a lot of men on here hiding behind female profiles using pics they grabbed off the internet. Can you guys explain to me what you're getting out of this? I've noticed many of you ask to have people talk dirty to you. Is this the best you can do. Can't you just imagine what people might say to a pretty girl when encouraged to say something dirty? You really need to have them spend time typing it out for you?

I once asked Support if I could create a femdom profile for a particular thing, and they said sure, go ahead. I never wrote back to anyone, but damn I got a lot of mail for not trying to attract people.

A few people here on the message boards crowdsourced a female profile that one of the male subs administered. He said it was a really eye-opening experience. I think it's worth understanding how the "other half" experiences the site.

I don't think any of that is inside the demographic you're really asking about though. All I can say is that there are a lot of lonely people in the world, and they want attention too, just like almost everyone else.

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RE: Why do men pretend to be sub woman ?? - 12/18/2013 7:27:58 PM

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I think that demographic falls into two categories:

1) The people trying to scam "relocation" money

and 2) they can't get Dominant women to talk about wank fodder, so they present themselves as female subs and get the wank fodder from Dominant males and pretend on both ends.

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RE: Why do men pretend to be sub woman ?? - 12/19/2013 4:30:03 PM

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From the thread that got locked:

Why do men pretend to be women online?

Breaking: Sometimes men pretend to be women online!

This shocking revelation comes courtesy of Markus Frind, founder of the immensely popular dating site Plenty of Fish, who explained his reason for shutting down the site’s casual sex section by announcing that of the site’s 3.3 million daily U.K. users, there are only 6,041 “women” looking for a no-strings hookup — and, even still, many of them are actually men. He told users that the “Intimate Encounters” section “can be summed up as a bunch of horny men talking to a bunch of horny men pretending to be women.” Of course, I’m kidding about this being surprising news. Isn’t it, like, Rule No. 1 of the Internet?

Speaking of, why is that the case? Why do men pretend to be women online?

In the 2004 academic article titled “Do Boys (and Girls) Just Wanna Have Fun?” psychologist John Suler lays out a handful of theories. First is the hypothesis of feminine exploration: “Due to the pressure of cultural stereotypes, it may be difficult for some men to explore within themselves what society labels as ‘feminine’ characteristics” and the “anonymity of cyberspace” allows them to “express their ‘feminine’ side which they feel they must otherwise hide.”

Second is a theory of attention-seeking. “Donning a female name and/or avatar, especially a sexy one, will almost instantly draw reactions,” he writes. “The gender-switched male may even like the feeling of power and control over other males that goes along with this switch.” (Somewhat relatedly, Suler suggests that being a female in certain online games “may be advantageous.”) For some, posing as a woman online is a form of detective work,” he says. “Some males may adopt a feminine identity to investigate male/female relationships.”

Read more: http://www.salon.com/2013/05/22/why_do_men_pretend_to_be_women_online/

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RE: Why do men pretend to be sub woman ?? - 12/19/2013 6:37:14 PM

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Sometimes I pretend to be a hot sub chick. And then, when I'm drunk, I open an account in another window and try to cyber with her. But she's blocked me now. :(

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RE: Why do men pretend to be sub woman ?? - 12/19/2013 7:19:24 PM

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ORIGINAL: Apocalypso

Sometimes I pretend to be a hot sub chick. And then, when I'm drunk, I open an account in another window and try to cyber with her. But she's blocked me now. :(

Another slant on onanism. Did she have the courtesy to reply at least, or just thoughtlessly ignore you?

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RE: Why do men pretend to be sub woman ?? - 12/20/2013 4:34:07 PM

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ORIGINAL: orgasmdenial12

They're not fake, they're just not that into you.

The other day, some Dom messaged me with a complete wankfest of a first message. I replied in the repulsed negative and he screamed that I was a fake.

We're not fake, we just think you're weird and unappealing. Get over it :-)

I'm still pretty upset about that. I was confident that calling you a fake would slap you right in line.

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