Domnotlooking -> RE: submission training for a proud woman (11/25/2013 9:25:15 AM)
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How much are you really suffering from (or possibly secretly enjoying) your ambivalence? Was this struggle with the leash and collar down to genuine resistance or more part of your own unique couple's sweet psychodrama of fighting off/giving in? My off the top of my head, know-fuck-all-about-you internet diagnosis is that you give plenty of clues here (the "strong willed woman" trope, the dream of "completely" submitting), that reluctance and ambivalence are big turn ons for you. If that's true, you should be working towards milking that quirk for maximum hotness rather than trying to shut it down to no useful avail. In our deal, her submission is never "done", it's something we continually gently buff and prod as our ongoing sex and intimacy product. And: In MY experience (mine alone, blah, blah, blah), tasking a submissive partner with drafting make-her-more-submissive-plans is always a non-starter. Sub partners want top down direction, period. Up the road, with discussion, you can amend or augment the big dom-plan to fit the situational realities, but having the sub draw up the big blueprint always goes nowhere -as your sketchy example seems to prove.
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