myotherself
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Joined: 3/9/2006 From: The cold bit of the UK Status: offline
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Four years ago I started dating this guy I met on cm. He was really nice, fun to be with, and seemed to tick many of the boxes. Both of us had been single for a while - he'd been divorced several years and I was an expert at living alone First 2 dates were great. We went out for a drink on the wednesday and then for dinner on the saturday. Work commitments meant that we couldn't see each other until the following friday. I said to come round for dinner and, if things went well, he could stay overnight. They went well. But by the sunday morning and he was still here, I had to ask him to leave because he just wasn't getting the big hints I'd been dropping. I gave him the benefit of the doubt, and we had a discussion about taking things slowly and getting set for possibly the long term. Well, the next date a few days later started out fine. He told me he'd been offered the job he'd wanted, but it was in a town a few hours away. He had a sister that lived nearby, and he said he could come and stay with her for the weekend and we could go out. I thought that sounded good...it meant I had my independence and I still got to date him. But by the end of the date he'd decided (without any any input from me at all) that he was going to stay with me from friday night to sunday evening every weekend. And then he dropped the 'L bomb'. That was our last ever date. He was a really nice guy, but smothering. If he'd taken it slowly we'd possibly still be together. If he'd actually listened when I explained how I was feeling, things might have improved. Not every woman is the same, so the only thing that you can do is talk to her, listen to her and actually follow her lead in this. Master did with me, and we've been together 3 years now and planning on moving in together.
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