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TheWillToThrive -> RE: Question about meeting Doms who are not local (12/20/2013 6:06:15 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Rawni
Personally, I feel it is foolish to think that meeting in a public place will protect you from harm. How many rapes or beatings happen from home and public places? I take my security within myself, having prepared to defend myself after I was old enough to do so, because I have been taken right off the street and pulled into a car by someone local to me, known to many. I also had a friend that said, I could take you out of this establishment and no one would do a thing. I said he was wrong. So this six foot three man that looked like a real rough biker, picked me up and carried me out of the place and set me down outside. He said, where are your saviors? He proved to me that a woman has to be her best self defense. I also came down my stairs from putting my kids to bed and found a man there to greet me, someone that had seen me from a place he was visiting.
It can happen in lots of ways. I recommend being prepared for anything, anywhere, anytime. There are things we do that can be a false sense of security for us and we lower our defenses. For me, there is no security... no for sure anything, but I do take care and I am prepared. I will not live in fear, but I will live prepared and aware. Anyone can be fooled... anyone. Anyone, male or female can be set up and taken advantage of or made victim.
To sound as if one way is more secure than another in the society we live in... is fool hardy. There is a chance at every time with anyone that we could be placing ourselves at risk and to take security in a hotel room... rofl... is just not something I would trust. Have you heard or seen what happens in those places? Without living in fear I have met a number of people local and not local, in various situations and only one was an issue and it wasn't physical safety I had to worry about... but his lies and manipulations and coming to a public place.. here, to bring his drama.
We are responsible for our own safety, however we do that and we can be what some might say is wiser and safer, but the facts are, there are no guarantees. We are our own best weapon of protection by many means... but with my experiences, I feel better about meeting them in my home because there I have better protections than hoping a stranger might see and hear and help me in a public place. Tell this protective measure to all those taken from public places that didn't survive. My home is my castle, I reign there and I feel better about it. Yet, I could still be victimized there. Victims can often be people that look like victims to others. This is why they say that when in public and alone, to walk aggressively and look like you know how to take care of business. I know this works and in some places I have lived, it served me well... and that knife I carried did help a time or two when someone got pushy about wanting a 'date'. The worst hours in that area were between five and seven in the evening when all the men were coming home from work and no one expected something to happen in broad daylight. Please don't tell me I should have lived in better places, when I was a single mother, ill and not getting any child support and my income was the only income supporting the kids with specail health problems that cost me over four hundred a month for just one of the kids, that wasn't covered with insurance.
Things happen. The best advice is to teach women to be strong, to not fall for anything that spins a pretty tale or gives them attention and give them self defense classes. Teach them to be badass and to never think no one could take them down... anywhere they might be. Anyone can be taken down... but if you are strong, able and have confidence, you may survive it.
Everything said here is perfect. Excellent post Rawni!
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