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Greetings - 12/17/2013 4:25:19 AM

Dane81

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Greetings.

I'll just be flat out here.

I've recently become aware of my Dominant nature, and by that I mean that it's always been there, I've just not quite been aware of it, mainly due to some mix-up with some behaviour-inhibiting medications that I was given by doctors for a series of years, before they figured out that "ooops, you really didn't need those meds in the first place. Sorry about having you on those meds for years and clouding your mind to the point where you were more or less a walking dead" (AND NO, I AM NOT UNSTABLE AT ALL. I was only misdiagnosed with ADHD, which it turned out that I never had. Score 1 for the medical proffession)

Well, after the medically-induced haze had subsided, I started to notice that call of control. and you got it... that didn't sit well with the now-EX wife, since she had grown accustom to the "nice life with a passive husband that didn't ask to have anything his way", so as the meds gradually wore off, so did her interest. As the meds were all gone, so was she.

So, I started to explore my Dominant side a bit more, but found it rather frustrating, because... tadaaaaaa, who wants a Dom with little experience? And here in is my question: How do you get experience, when everyone seems to want perfection from the word go?

Anyhow, I was hoping that I might find some answers here, and hopefully someone willing to take a chance and grant me the experience that is needed.

Mind you, whoever you might be, I am not a traditional Dom, as I find it more interesting to let the sub/slave break away her own rebelious nature that lies in all, rather than I fight with treats and commands all the time in order to break that nature. But I do enjoy the challenge that such a "fight" presents.

Respect and trust are paramount to me.

Well, that's enough of my jappering. If you want to know more about me and possible take a chance as well, feel free to look me up.

Respectfully

Dane81

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RE: Greetings - 12/17/2013 4:38:08 AM

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Welcome to the site!

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

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RE: Greetings - 12/17/2013 4:47:25 AM

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thanks

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RE: Greetings - 12/17/2013 5:45:22 AM

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Hello and welcome to the discussion side of the site. I am sure you will find a lot of info if you do a search here for you question. Also as a sub I rather like no experience as it gives him and I chance to learn together what works best for us.....that's my two cents anyhow.

Its nice to have you here good luck in your search.

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RE: Greetings - 12/17/2013 5:51:53 AM

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Welcome to the discussion side Dane.

Where on earth did you get the idea that subs need to be 'broken' ??? We're not horses, we're humans.

There are some newish subs that tend toward brattiness, or ignorant ones who goad a dom to 'tame' them. I consider most of that behavior blatant manipulation.

Good dominants don't allow themselves to be mercilessly manipulated.

Check out the clunky search feature, once you have it mastered you can bring up tons of threads on most any topic. Feel free to begin your own thread if you have a specific question.

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RE: Greetings - 12/17/2013 6:00:07 AM

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I do not mean "broken" in the litteral sense, physically or mentally. Such a thing would only do more damage then good. What I mean is that most Doms that I've talked with, have all been like "I am the Master, and you should call me such", as if the title alone would give them respect. when in fact it will have the opposite effect, since it would only inflate their ego. On the subject of titles and many other things, I think that a Dom should not push those things down anyones throat, as it would only have a very negative effect. that was what I was trying to say, in my own blunt way. I am sorry, if there was any misunderstanding in my statement before.

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