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RE: Harassment - 12/21/2013 12:09:07 PM

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It was his friend, not his GF that was getting phone calls, so I would think that his friend's cell phone wouldn't be in his name.

Gotcha.

When we had to do this, we had to do it in a certain way because MP is the primary name on the account and the thing goes through his automatic bill pay. We actually had to do it through two different carriers.

I will say this, though. Absolutely stellar customer service in both instances.

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RE: Harassment - 12/21/2013 12:16:59 PM

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Look, I simply think that you do owe someone some explanation. Poor communication creates a lot of these issues in the first place, and while it's certainly not an entitlement, it would prevent a lot of chaos.

If you want to argue semantics, go ahead. People don't want to be accountable, and there are reasonable consequences. We're inquisitive creatures by nature. Don't lead someone on and then go away like a "gunshot" went off in the car. If you slam on the brakes and throw someone through a windshield, they're going to want answers.

A million people will argue against this viewpoint, but if there was better communication, I don't think there would be nearly as many sociopaths on Earth as some of you would have us believe.

I agree that if people stopped doing things just to be polite, if they had clear boundaries which they did not let others cross simply because they want to be seen as nice or not rude, that there would be less confusion.

Given someone a cell phone number is an invitation to call it.

But owing a stranger anything?
No.

I think there would also be much less confusion if people stopped investing in 'relationships' with people they have never met.

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RE: Harassment - 12/21/2013 12:58:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: DauphinDior

Look, I simply think that you do owe someone some explanation. Poor communication creates a lot of these issues in the first place, and while it's certainly not an entitlement, it would prevent a lot of chaos.

If you want to argue semantics, go ahead. People don't want to be accountable, and there are reasonable consequences. We're inquisitive creatures by nature. Don't lead someone on and then go away like a "gunshot" went off in the car. If you slam on the brakes and throw someone through a windshield, they're going to want answers.

A million people will argue against this viewpoint, but if there was better communication, I don't think there would be nearly as many sociopaths on Earth as some of you would have us believe.

No, some stranger is not owed anything. If I tell you (general you) to leave me alone, take home that take-home message by leaving me alone. It's not "call me a few thousand more times just to see if..." How much clearer does it need to be made for someone to get the hint? If I say leave me alone leave me the hell alone.

There are a number of reasons why someone might initially converse with someone, yet change their mind. Just because you initially participate, it is not blanket consent to have it continue until the end of days. Sometimes people just need to acknowledge when it's over and move the hell on.

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RE: Harassment - 12/21/2013 2:18:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: Raizzor

Greetings,

I would like to get some advice and suggestions outside of what I have already done, in regards to reporting two users on Collarme that have been harassing My girl.

Last night My girl received an email from a guy who first called her cute (fine by Me) but then tried to get her to meet Him for dinner (her profile CLEARLY states she is spoken for an only on here to talk). I recognized the name immediately from the same user who spent the last 4 weeks harassing My good friend who is also on this site. She made the critical error of giving Him her cell number; so for weeks He blew up her phone, emailed her, attempted to get her to meet (He says He's a truck driver) to the point she was frightened. We have all those emails saved and printed.

I have called the police and will be filing a report today about this.

I am wondering if anyone else went through a similar experience and how they proceeded with it.

Thank you.
Chris

Sorry Chris, I cannot say that I have been through a similar experience. I tend to avoid allowing stupid bints into my life. Unfortunately you are in a relationship with one. Choose smarter partners and you will not have this sort of drama in your life.

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RE: Harassment - 12/21/2013 4:36:03 PM

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Sorry Chris, I cannot say that I have been through a similar experience. I tend to avoid allowing stupid bints into my life. Unfortunately you are in a relationship with one. Choose smarter partners and you will not have this sort of drama in your life.

I do so LOVE the word "bint".

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RE: Harassment - 12/21/2013 4:56:44 PM

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I've often thought the famous Monty Python, Holy Grail, line..... quite apropos for many on here.

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RE: Harassment - 12/22/2013 5:28:46 PM

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ORIGINAL: Raizzor

Greetings,

I would like to get some advice and suggestions outside of what I have already done, in regards to reporting two users on Collarme that have been harassing My girl.

Last night My girl received an email from a guy who first called her cute (fine by Me) but then tried to get her to meet Him for dinner (her profile CLEARLY states she is spoken for an only on here to talk). I recognized the name immediately from the same user who spent the last 4 weeks harassing My good friend who is also on this site. She made the critical error of giving Him her cell number; so for weeks He blew up her phone, emailed her, attempted to get her to meet (He says He's a truck driver) to the point she was frightened. We have all those emails saved and printed.

I have called the police and will be filing a report today about this.

I am wondering if anyone else went through a similar experience and how they proceeded with it.

Thank you.
Chris

You obviously don't know what harassment is. Your girlfriend received a message complimenting her looks, and then an invitation to dinner. That's not harassment. All your girlfriend had to do was say no, and if he emailed her again, ignore and block. Sending an unsolicited email or two on a dating site is NOT harassment. Although I would suggest that you take some classes on dealing with your jealousy and learning what harassment is.

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RE: Harassment - 12/24/2013 8:16:58 AM

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Not sure where to post this. I met a "DOM" recently [Mod Edit: Removed member name] and he is not what he claims to be. He took my money after restraining me then left. Just want others to beware of him. I believe he can be dangerous. I have gotten a new profile on here due to this.

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RE: Harassment - 12/24/2013 9:23:56 AM

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Not sure where to post this. I met a "DOM" recently [Mod Edit: Removed member name] and he is not what he claims to be. He took my money after restraining me then left. Just want others to beware of him. I believe he can be dangerous. I have gotten a new profile on here due to this.

Did you report it to the police?

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RE: Harassment - 12/24/2013 9:39:40 AM

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Yep - sounds like robbery to me. Or is it theft?

and OP - two emails is not harassment.
Even if the same fella annoyed a friend of yours.

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RE: Harassment - 12/24/2013 10:26:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: wantaluvernow

Not sure where to post this. I met a "DOM" recently [Mod Edit: Removed member name] and he is not what he claims to be. He took my money after restraining me then left. Just want others to beware of him. I believe he can be dangerous. I have gotten a new profile on here due to this.

He perpetrated a crime. Report it to the police.

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RE: Harassment - 12/24/2013 11:55:19 AM

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Not sure where to post this. I met a "DOM" recently [Mod Edit: Removed member name] and he is not what he claims to be. He took my money after restraining me then left. Just want others to beware of him. I believe he can be dangerous. I have gotten a new profile on here due to this.

Next time don't let your little head think instead of your big head.

aka....next time don't park your brain outside the door.

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RE: Harassment - 12/27/2013 3:41:49 AM

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Okay, too clarify a few things here.

1. My friend was the one who was harassed for about two weeks by this 'guy'.
2. Then one night he suddenly started messaging My girlfriend. The reason for her discomfort was that he called her by NAME and mentioned meeting her at her work place. These are pieces of information that is not easily or publicly displayed on her collarme account. She told him to stop, immediately and he refused.
3. The phone of My friend is on MY account, so if the one poster is right, I do have the right to call the police. Which I did, a report was filed and actions are being taken to dissuade this person from further incursions.
4. My GF did not initiate contact, so she is not at fault.
5. My friend did initiate contact, and then after realizing this person was no good; asked him to stop and he refused.

I filed the report for a multiple set of reasons.

1. This person refused to stop contacting both My friend and girlfriend when asked. I do not see how in any circumstances this is allowable.
2. His knowledge of My girlfriend's real name and her place of work put her in a state of fear.
3. I filed the report to protect the people I care about and to have it on record should anything ever escalate.
4. I will also be taking them to file PPO's, as some of this guys messages have said he plans to 'visit' the area soon.

I apologize if my OP was not clear or precise. I took the precautions of blocking his account(s) *4 in total, one being 'female*, and blocked his phone numbers on My friend's phone. The harassment comes from not taking NO for an answer and that some of his messages were threatening. We have printed copies of chat logs and PMs on Collarme with him being very abusive. So I firmly believe I am in the right to file the report.

I thank you all for your time and opinions.

-C

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RE: Harassment - 12/27/2013 7:56:02 AM

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If a member creates new accounts to contact a poster who has blocked him, please send a list of all the accounts to Support: http://www.collarme.com/personals/support.htm

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