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ng33m -> RE: Christmas gifts (12/24/2013 2:09:18 PM)


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ORIGINAL: MAINEiacMISTRESS

Not everyone is big on giving Christmas gifts, many don't even do Christmas. Some cannot afford to give everyone in their life a gift, and choose to limit it to only immediate family.
What about birthdays?

Sounds like your presence has been accepted by the husband, and that's a positive.

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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady


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ORIGINAL: ng33m


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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady


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ORIGINAL: ng33m

She is married and we are not intimate, but I do serve her in all other aspects, lots of housework, massages, not as much play as I would like and that bothers me as well since I've been with her for 20 months.

I got her a great the gift the best gift she has gotten in a long time, I wish I recorded it so I could see ther facial expression over and over. We had to do it early cause her daughter came home from college, so I set up a little tree for her with several gifts underneath and suprised her when she got home from work and she opened them saving the best one for last which I wrapped in six seperate boxes, with little notes on each one. The first one after the orignal box reading "oh no he didn't" and the second one reading "yes he did" anyway it was very exciting, even now thinking about it makes me smile.

I did get a hug though, but that's it


Does her husband know about you? If not, then you are nothing but someone who offers her services she wishes not to do, like cleaning house. Although, most people who can afford a maid at least give them a cash bonus during the holidays.

In my opinion, her not giving you a gift tells me you really don't mean that much to her.




He knows, he's around a lot of the time, I help him outside as well and yes it feels like I don't mean all that much to her at times...


Well,, I'm glad he knows. In any case, do you want to continue your involved with someone you don't mean much to? You sound like a decent guy and a decent sub. Maybe fond someone who appreciates you all the time.




They have plenty of money, that's not the issue and for my birthday she did make me cupcakes, which made me happy and she actually stepped on one for me, the only problem was that her husband bought it up and he physcially put the cupcake in a plate and placed her foot on to it, so it was bittersweet i guess.

They do buy me food and feed me, but I do treat them from to time. As far as the husband goes if anything he likes me more, but than again I help him outside, not only at his house but at a rental property they own and I helped him get his 45ft boat ready for the summer, which I did on my vacation, which I offered to do on my own....I should've known when she didn't appericate my help and didn't do a single thing with me play wise, unless you count one to two hour foot rubs after hours of work play time.





kalikshama -> RE: Christmas gifts (12/24/2013 8:46:47 PM)

I've been in a few service-only relationships, and while they were fun at first, I knew I wanted more, and moved on. I've now found someone who is a perfect fit.

It sucks to be taken for granted, and not get your needs met. Best of luck to you.




DesFIP -> RE: Christmas gifts (12/25/2013 12:24:01 PM)

Next time talk about what you need before hand so that you're both on the same page.




ConfusedGal -> RE: Christmas gifts (12/25/2013 1:41:55 PM)

I bought Him massage gift certificate for him and his wife. His pet got him a wallet.




MistressDarkArt -> RE: Christmas gifts (12/25/2013 11:06:17 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ng33m

Not anymore I don't, I'm gonna talk to her thrusday and see if we can find some common ground and if not I'll do my best to not come around as much and try to find someone, it won't be easy to stay away though.



I'd advise you get yourself completely free before you begin looking for someone else. If I was looking, I'd want a totally clean slate to work with. No leftovers, thank you. If you currently had something going, even 'not coming around as much', I would pass you by in an instant.

Pull up your big boy panties and move forward until you find a good match.




MAINEiacMISTRESS -> RE: Christmas gifts (12/26/2013 12:04:11 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ng33m

They have plenty of money, that's not the issue and for my birthday she did make me cupcakes, which made me happy and she actually stepped on one for me, the only problem was that her husband bought it up and he physcially put the cupcake in a plate and placed her foot on to it, so it was bittersweet i guess.

They do buy me food and feed me, but I do treat them from to time. As far as the husband goes if anything he likes me more, but than again I help him outside, not only at his house but at a rental property they own and I helped him get his 45ft boat ready for the summer, which I did on my vacation, which I offered to do on my own....I should've known when she didn't appericate my help and didn't do a single thing with me play wise, unless you count one to two hour foot rubs after hours of work play time.



Actually, I'm a tad jealous of Her for having a husband so accepting of you. My husband is EXTREMELY vanilla and though he knows about My subs and has a "whatever, just don't include me" attitude about them he's simply a very introverted guy who wants NOTHING to do with ANYONE, including our vanilla friends we've known for years, even though there are loads of vanilla things they share in common. :(

Given Her husband's acceptance of you, yeah, I'd expect some gift from them JOINTLY. It is kind of weird.





LadyPact -> RE: Christmas gifts (12/26/2013 2:30:46 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MAINEiacMISTRESS
Actually, I'm a tad jealous of Her for having a husband so accepting of you. My husband is EXTREMELY vanilla and though he knows about My subs and has a "whatever, just don't include me" attitude about them he's simply a very introverted guy who wants NOTHING to do with ANYONE, including our vanilla friends we've known for years, even though there are loads of vanilla things they share in common. :(

Given Her husband's acceptance of you, yeah, I'd expect some gift from them JOINTLY. It is kind of weird.

It's always interesting to see the differences in various households. My other half and I are a D/D couple, but we don't share the dynamic with the submissive. Since I'm the one with the intimate relationship, anything along the line of presents is My area.

I'm lucky though. They get along really well and that's a huge benefit. The only thing My other half doesn't want to hear about are certain types of play that I enjoy that he isn't fond of. Think areas like needles and cbt.





ng33m -> RE: Christmas gifts (12/27/2013 7:24:32 PM)

Thanks to those who took the time to respond, every bit of advice helps.




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