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Ladybug88 -> Punishment suggestions needed (12/23/2013 6:38:47 PM)
Dec was my exam month and I was super bitchy (I could not sleep much and I was under a lot pod stress). As a result I was a total total bitch to my Master on more than one occasions ( I even yelled at Him and hung up on him a few times). Now that my exams are over , my Master told me to think about my behaviour and pick a punishment for my nasty behaviour . I have already apologized and wrote him a long letter ( I haven't given to him yet . He leaves 2 hrs a day and he will be here tomorrow to spend the holidays with me). He has spanked me with hand before but since I was disrespectful on more than one occasion what object do you suggest for spanking ? Any other suggestions for punishmrnt ? i really want Him to know that Im sorry . Thank you in advanced and merry christmas :)

Rawni -> RE: Punishment suggestions needed (12/23/2013 6:45:17 PM)
What punishment will actually have an effect upon you? Really? Does punishment work? A dominant in my opinion, should be able to know his/her submissive enough to know what punishment would fit the dynamics they have and the person you are. If he is going to use punishment as a tool within the dynamics, then he really ought to be up on what could be harmful emotionally, physically, etc and what will encourage you not to enjoy so much that you would continue poor behavior. He is the only one that can really say what that would be unless by having you chose, he is defaulting to your whatever you might call it. Just my opinion... Now, if he is using this to make you think or suffer... okay... whatever... but really... are you thinking about it if you are asking us to?

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Punishment suggestions needed (12/23/2013 6:51:05 PM)
If there is a punishment dynamic in place, then the consequences for bad behavior should be hashed out between the two well before hand, at least in my opinion. Which is why I never understand these sorts of requests.

MsMJAY -> RE: Punishment suggestions needed (12/23/2013 6:52:30 PM)
Honestly I suggest you two talk. If you are still in school this will come up again and communication beforehand will be important. While you need to be more mindful of your mood swings when you are under this type of stress, he should be more mindful to give you a little more space during finals week. As for his punishment. I suggest he send you to bed early. I bet you can use the extra rest. I just finished an incredibly difficult finals week and during that week I didn't want to hear anything from anyone. I was stressed to the point of being physically ill some days. Finals week IS punishment. quote: ORIGINAL: Ladybug88 Dec was my exam month and I was super bitchy (I could not sleep much and I was under a lot pod stress). As a result I was a total total bitch to my Master on more than one occasions ( I even yelled at Him and hung up on him a few times). Now that my exams are over , my Master told me to think about my behaviour and pick a punishment for my nasty behaviour . I have already apologized and wrote him a long letter ( I haven't given to him yet . He leaves 2 hrs a day and he will be here tomorrow to spend the holidays with me). He has spanked me with hand before but since I was disrespectful on more than one occasion what object do you suggest for spanking ? Any other suggestions for punishmrnt ? i really want Him to know that Im sorry . Thank you in advanced and merry christmas :)

DarkSteven -> RE: Punishment suggestions needed (12/23/2013 7:07:37 PM)
Sorry, but this is something the two of you need to work out. Good luck going forward!

DesFIP -> RE: Punishment suggestions needed (12/23/2013 7:15:31 PM)
So how will hurting you now stop you from being stressed out in future? What rules can he put in place to keep you in better condition? Why not figure out a better way to handle exam stress, and other life stress?

littlewonder -> RE: Punishment suggestions needed (12/23/2013 7:37:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Ladybug88 Dec was my exam month and I was super bitchy (I could not sleep much and I was under a lot pod stress). As a result I was a total total bitch to my Master on more than one occasions ( I even yelled at Him and hung up on him a few times). Now that my exams are over , my Master told me to think about my behaviour and pick a punishment for my nasty behaviour . I have already apologized and wrote him a long letter ( I haven't given to him yet . He leaves 2 hrs a day and he will be here tomorrow to spend the holidays with me). He has spanked me with hand before but since I was disrespectful on more than one occasion what object do you suggest for spanking ? Any other suggestions for punishmrnt ? i really want Him to know that Im sorry . Thank you in advanced and merry christmas :) I would ask him to break up with me because I'm not worth his heartache and pain for being a bitch to him for no reason whatsoever. Sorry, your exams are not an excuse.

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Punishment suggestions needed (12/23/2013 10:44:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP So how will hurting you now stop you from being stressed out in future? What rules can he put in place to keep you in better condition? Why not figure out a better way to handle exam stress, and other life stress? This. Rather than 'punishment' I would be thinking 'consequence'. The two of you now know you do a poor job of keeping your stress under control at school, and that you tend to take your stress out on others. If I were the dominant here, I'd be creating a consequence to fix this. For example - putting you on a strict sleep, exercise and study schedule to reduce the stress, and probably having you contact the school's counseling department to get some advice on stress management. I would also be refusing to talk to you every time you were 'bitchy' to me until you got control of yourself. I'm not against punishment, but it's not going to fix your problem. Once both of you have really worked through how to fix it, then by all means get your spanking or whatever makes you both feel better. But don't kid yourself that a beating now will make you better tempered next time you have some stress in life - it won't. As for suggestions, if you do decide to go ahead with punishments - pick something you strongly dislike but that doesn't impact him too much. The two of you will know what that is.

ExiledTyrant -> RE: Punishment suggestions needed (12/24/2013 1:20:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Ladybug88 Dec was my exam month and I was super bitchy (I could not sleep much and I was under a lot pod stress). As a result I was a total total bitch to my Master on more than one occasions ( I even yelled at Him and hung up on him a few times). Now that my exams are over , my Master told me to think about my behaviour and pick a punishment for my nasty behaviour . I have already apologized and wrote him a long letter ( I haven't given to him yet . He leaves 2 hrs a day and he will be here tomorrow to spend the holidays with me). He has spanked me with hand before but since I was disrespectful on more than one occasion what object do you suggest for spanking ? Any other suggestions for punishmrnt ? i really want Him to know that Im sorry . Thank you in advanced and merry christmas :) First, had you been in his presence would you have behaved the same way? If you answered yes, then let him decide the punishment. Clearly he's the one with the problem. If you answered no, I'd have your tongue split down the middle to remind you that a forked tongue isn't all that it's cracked up to be. YMMV Exiled

OsideGirl -> RE: Punishment suggestions needed (12/24/2013 1:33:27 PM)
Athena and Des are correct. Your Dominant should be setting you up to succeed. He should be helping you to figure out how to deal with the stress of exams rather than punishing you for focusing your energy on your education. (Not to mention punishment will only add to your stress the next time you have exams) I'll also add that at this point, your education is more important than your D/s dynamic. Your education will determine your life's path. Your Dom may not be there tomorrow.

MariaB -> RE: Punishment suggestions needed (12/24/2013 2:32:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant quote: ORIGINAL: Ladybug88 Dec was my exam month and I was super bitchy (I could not sleep much and I was under a lot pod stress). As a result I was a total total bitch to my Master on more than one occasions ( I even yelled at Him and hung up on him a few times). Now that my exams are over , my Master told me to think about my behaviour and pick a punishment for my nasty behaviour . I have already apologized and wrote him a long letter ( I haven't given to him yet . He leaves 2 hrs a day and he will be here tomorrow to spend the holidays with me). He has spanked me with hand before but since I was disrespectful on more than one occasion what object do you suggest for spanking ? Any other suggestions for punishmrnt ? i really want Him to know that Im sorry . Thank you in advanced and merry christmas :) First, had you been in his presence would you have behaved the same way? If you answered yes, then let him decide the punishment. Clearly he's the one with the problem. If you answered no, I'd have your tongue split down the middle to remind you that a forked tongue isn't all that it's cracked up to be. YMMV Exiled Wow what a great imagination!!

kiwisub12 -> RE: Punishment suggestions needed (12/25/2013 9:45:52 AM)
Shesh - if you have to apologise by letter, then maybe he could do something equally long distance - like make you stand in the corner with your nose on the wall, and have to stay there for 12 hours, not moving. Of course, he would watch you by webcam for the whole time. I agree with one of the above posters - your education is way more important than your dum....er Dom. I don't care how much you love/like/adore him, he is most probably not going to be in your life in 10 years, but the regret from not concentrating on your exams would be. Your uterus shouldn't be making decisions for your brain. Perhaps your punishment should be spending the next week concentrating on studying.

lilcracker -> RE: Punishment suggestions needed (12/25/2013 11:46:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Ladybug88 Dec was my exam month and I was super bitchy (I could not sleep much and I was under a lot pod stress). As a result I was a total total bitch to my Master on more than one occasions ( I even yelled at Him and hung up on him a few times). Now that my exams are over , my Master told me to think about my behaviour and pick a punishment for my nasty behaviour . I have already apologized and wrote him a long letter ( I haven't given to him yet . He leaves 2 hrs a day and he will be here tomorrow to spend the holidays with me). He has spanked me with hand before but since I was disrespectful on more than one occasion what object do you suggest for spanking ? Any other suggestions for punishmrnt ? i really want Him to know that Im sorry . Thank you in advanced and merry christmas :) In my household, it would be...I have been stressed about my exams and I am truly sorry I took it out on you. Him to me: Understood, I am sorry you had to stress so much. Kiss make up...done. Actually he probably would have picked up on my stress before I became bitchy and did what he could to relieve that stress for me like back rubs....and spanking to loose the stress if he felt it would benefit me. I dunno it sounds to me like this....here take the car...oopppss you ran out of gas....oooppps I forgot to fill the tank...forgot to make sure you had money so you could get gas and oooopppps forgot to get triple A because you never reminded me...so guess what you get punished for it.

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