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poachers...why - 12/26/2013 10:58:37 AM   
badgirl81682


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Status: offline 		if youve known a guy for a long time and he's your friend and he tells you he's a Dom and tries to get you to send naked pics but you don't want to betray your current Master...why do guys do this? Is this a true Dom?
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RE: poachers...why - 12/26/2013 11:09:14 AM   
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if youve known a guy for a long time and he's your friend and he tells you he's a Dom and tries to get you to send naked pics but you don't want to betray your current Master...why do guys do this? Is this a true Dom?


What if I rewrote your question like this...

if you've known a guy for a long time and he's your friend and he tells you he 'likes' you and tries to get you to send naked pics but you don't want to betray your current boyfriend...why do guys do this? Is this a real friend?

...what would you think?

There's your answer.

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RE: poachers...why - 12/26/2013 11:09:16 AM   
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RE: poachers...why - 12/26/2013 11:30:45 AM   
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ORIGINAL: badgirl81682

if youve known a guy for a long time and he's your friend and he tells you he's a Dom and tries to get you to send naked pics but you don't want to betray your current Master...why do guys do this? Is this a true Dom?


God, only knows if he's a true Dom, but you can be certain that he's not a true friend.


< Message edited by OsideGirl -- 12/26/2013 11:43:46 AM >

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RE: poachers...why - 12/26/2013 11:33:05 AM   
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if youve known a guy for a long time and he's your friend and he tells you he's a Dom and tries to get you to send naked pics but you don't want to betray your current Master...why do guys do this? Is this a true Dom?

He doesn't have strong boundaries. And maybe you don't either. You clearly don't think your dom is enough if you're actively looking for playmates. And poly is fine, but: Would any of those playmates ever see you naked? Then maybe old friend guy thinks if it's good enough for them, it's good enough for me.

So my answer to your question is: because you allow it. If you told your old friend, "I don't think of you that way, it's never going to happen, stop asking me for pics or I will block your emails and stop answering your calls," he would stop. Either voluntarily or involuntarily.

But maybe he's your backup dick-in-a-box, or was at one time, so you can't say that to him.

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RE: poachers...why - 12/26/2013 11:51:05 AM   
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RE: poachers...why - 12/26/2013 12:11:28 PM   
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RE: poachers...why - 12/26/2013 12:24:04 PM   
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My thought is that your "friend" (quotes intentional because a real friend wouldn't screw with your relationship) is just an ass. Its ultimately up to you to set the boundaries.

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RE: poachers...why - 12/26/2013 12:44:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: badgirl81682

if youve known a guy for a long time and he's your friend and he tells you he's a Dom and tries to get you to send naked pics but you don't want to betray your current Master...why do guys do this? Is this a true Dom?



Why Does it matter? If it doesn't matter why ask? And if your curious, what you are curious?

Frankly, it don't matters me and I am not curious to know why either.

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RE: poachers...why - 12/26/2013 1:28:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		Why do guys do this? Testosterone and lack of many things, like class, morals, respect for another man's woman, respect of a friendship. Whether or not he's a true Dom, a true friend wouldn't do that.



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RE: poachers...why - 12/26/2013 3:36:56 PM   
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God, only knows if he's a true Dom, but you can be certain that he's not a true friend.



THIS!


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RE: poachers...why - 12/26/2013 3:55:57 PM   
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I'm a Dom. I want to do what's best for me, what's best for my sub, what's best for our relationship, and what's best for others. I've tried to keep a good reputation both online and in my community.

I'd be a moron if I interfered with another relationship, causing possible harm to it and damaging my own reputation, for the sake of a few naked pictures. Especially when they're readily available online anyway.

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RE: poachers...why - 12/26/2013 4:07:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: badgirl81682

if youve known a guy for a long time and he's your friend and he tells you he's a Dom and tries to get you to send naked pics but you don't want to betray your current Master...why do guys do this? Is this a true Dom?


The massive thought that is going through my head.....is that you do not want to betray your current Master.....are you joking or what? You do not take the current relationship seriously enough to take the lead and say...NO..in the first place and then go for blocking the pathetic wannabee Dom. I have no concern about the length of time for the friendship, but if you want to seriously take the current relationship then your Master has to trust you in your decisions and so far I find you lacking.

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RE: poachers...why - 12/26/2013 4:14:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant


quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


God, only knows if he's a true Dom, but you can be certain that he's not a true friend.



THIS!


Exiled



Oside gets the award for the most succinct, hit-the-nail-on-the-head response EVER!!!


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RE: poachers...why - 12/26/2013 4:17:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: badgirl81682

if youve known a guy for a long time and he's your friend and he tells you he's a Dom and tries to get you to send naked pics but you don't want to betray your current Master...why do guys do this? Is this a true Dom?


Why bother worrying if He's a true Dom?
He obviously has no consideration for your present relationship, or for the trust instilled in you.

what is the point of sending someone pictures like this? you already had your creepy feeling enough to post about it, and where would it go in the long run anyway when this is obviously the kind of guy who has no concern with anyone but himself.
as a wise man once wrote: if it's that hard to decide that yes is the answer, then the answer is No.

Btw,
I assume your Master knows about this?
What does He say?

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RE: poachers...why - 12/26/2013 4:50:00 PM   
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RE: poachers...why - 12/26/2013 5:43:10 PM   
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Why? Because you allow it.


This, and what Oside said.

He is not your friend.

Maybe the real question here is, why are you even having these types of conversations with him?

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RE: poachers...why - 12/26/2013 6:40:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: badgirl81682

if youve known a guy for a long time and he's your friend and he tells you he's a Dom and tries to get you to send naked pics but you don't want to betray your current Master...why do guys do this? Is this a true Dom?

Kana also notes that this is a violation of guy rule #1-there's plenty o'fish in the sea. No need to mack on your buddies gal. That shit's just lacking in couth

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RE: poachers...why - 12/26/2013 10:37:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: badgirl81682

if youve known a guy for a long time and he's your friend and he tells you he's a Dom and tries to get you to send naked pics but you don't want to betray your current Master...why do guys do this? Is this a true Dom?



How did it make you feel when he tried to get you to send naked pics of yourself? Would you have sent them if you weren't in a relationship, did you entertain the thought, were you flattered, did you laugh it off? I suspect some sort of similar reaction or at least not a direct and firm stop his inappropriate behaviour (I'm assuming he knows you're in a relationship). I'm guessing he got a thread of hope from your response or simply because you were having the sort of conversation that would lead to such a request in the first place. So rather than looking at him and his behaviours perhaps looking at what you could do differently may not be a bad idea.

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RE: poachers...why - 12/27/2013 3:30:02 AM   
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ORIGINAL: badgirl81682

if youve known a guy for a long time and he's your friend and he tells you he's a Dom and tries to get you to send naked pics but you don't want to betray your current Master...why do guys do this? Is this a true Dom?

why do people not use block ignore and move on? My view point is this...no one can come between me and my partner unless one of us lets it happen.

Is this a true Dom? Good question because I have no idea what a true Dom is however, I doubt very much that I would want any Dom who claims to be true.

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