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Limbo - 1/5/2014 12:15:24 PM

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ok so here's my predicament so to speak.

I am 50 yo

I have been a y dom for as long as can remember, except - I didnt know ther were such a thing as doms.

I have only recentlly become aware that there is this enormous crowd -for a better word .

All my life I have known what I wanted but not how I'd get it.

and now I have found THIS....this vast forum of seemingly endless wisdom...if only you knew how much I love you all

if I have to pose a question, it would be this:

how did you survive this long? or how did you survive without knowing about this forum??

Chris

RE: Limbo - 1/5/2014 12:20:46 PM

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Like you, I've been dominant as long as I can remember. I think I found this place in 2009.

Life has a way of providing what we need when we're ready to receive it. And thanks for the love; we can all use more of that these days.

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RE: Limbo - 1/5/2014 12:43:35 PM

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hahaha MistressDarkArt, I thank you for responding

ok so you dont remember further back that 2009......well alcohol can be a bitch

sorry..was funny at the time...

no, but I ment: did you go a long time WITHOUT knowing about the scene?

sorry, thats the best I can formulate at the time

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RE: Limbo - 1/5/2014 1:29:05 PM

Rawni

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I had male wives and a poly family long before I knew what to call them. lol I found out about bdsm and the net I guess about nine or ten years ago. I was reading about male dom's and said... omg... that's me.

I actually did better finding partners outside of the net and so called lifestyle. That is still the case.

You are not alone and I hope you find lots of responses that you can relate to! Spread that love... it's a good thing.. but be careful. Some of us aren't so loveable. lol

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RE: Limbo - 1/5/2014 1:29:19 PM

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Porn. Lots and lots of porn.

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RE: Limbo - 1/5/2014 1:36:37 PM

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When I first discovered BDSM this web site wasn't even around. I was hanging out in the CompuServe human sexuality forums. For those who have never heard of CompuServe, phone used to be THE way of hooking up to the internet and CompuServe was the best of the dial up companies.

I remember how it felt when I discovered that others had similar feelings. It was great!! I couldn't do enough reading and I spent months reading everything I could find online even though I couldn't act on the feelings. A few years later my life was changed and I could explore this whole new world.

You still have your first munch and your first event to look forward to. How exciting! You will love them. When I attended my first event I knew what Dorothy felt like going from Kansas to the Land of Oz.

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RE: Limbo - 1/5/2014 2:18:08 PM

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hahaha peppermint....my first "non-magazine" indused wank was from CompuServe......we will speak no more of this...

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RE: Limbo - 1/5/2014 2:20:45 PM

Rawni

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Oh why hold back? Come on... Curious minds want to know! Wasn't this a thread about sharing?

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RE: Limbo - 1/5/2014 2:20:51 PM

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sorry, got carried away there, my question was really "how did you survive this long without what makes you today!!!!

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RE: Limbo - 1/5/2014 2:22:06 PM

Rawni

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ROFLMAO!

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RE: Limbo - 1/5/2014 2:54:56 PM

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Real world BDSM before 'this forum' or any other forum, for that matter. I didn't even own a computer until after I was already involved. I started out learning with books that were recommended to Me when I attended My first munch.

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RE: Limbo - 1/5/2014 2:58:50 PM

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I knew of the scene as a teenager, I had a deviant best friend with deviant older brothers. For my eighteen birthday we went to a dungeon club night. I knew I was a masochist when I was 15, and had already acted on it.

Though for years I didn't seek out the scene and had a knack for finding people on my own. That kinda energy is either there or it isn't.

After my divorce I kicked my habits up a bunch of notches and have found community great for terrible ideas. Though honestly the best partners I've met in vanilla contexts.

I'm in my 30s so when I was a teenager industrial and goth was everywhere, and kink was not hard to find.

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RE: Limbo - 1/5/2014 3:10:07 PM

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I was 40-something when I discovered my submission/masochism. And I survived to that grand old age by living my life day by day. And having unsatisfactory sex with my husband. In fact, in general my social life was unsatisfactory.
But you know, unless you don't have enough to eat, or dirty water to drink, you survive. You go on. You don't cock up your toes and die because you don't have someone to dominate or submit to.

About the only satisfactory thing I had as far as bdsm goes to that point was erotic fiction that had a lot of bondage and nonconsensual sex in it.

Now I have a lovely sadist in my life, a social life with people who are like-minded and a contentment level that is about as high as it could be.

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RE: Limbo - 1/5/2014 3:13:50 PM

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I was beating girls ages before the interwebz was a dream in Gores eyes.

Before I actually did it, I jerked off a lot.
There was some amazingly twisted porn out in the late 70's, early 80's (RS will back me up here). Shit that could no way be sold now. Torture Galaxy type crap was everywhere (WTF is up with Germans? Those are some seriously fucked up people there) and stuff that made that look tame. I somehow gravitated there and there found my home.
Call it Future Sadist 101 and you wouldn't be far from the truth

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RE: Limbo - 1/5/2014 3:20:53 PM

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How did I survive before the internet showed me possibilities? I taught vanilla girls to thrive on it.

All the while I felt bad about it because Americans don't believe in slavery and Jews sure as hell don't. The first time I put a girl in a collar I felt like a king. I never looked back.

See we Jews also have a story about a woman who looked back. She got turned into a pillar of salt. On the plus side she is licked every day. By sheep and goats but why quibble?

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RE: Limbo - 1/5/2014 3:23:37 PM

Rawni

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Damn it, I nearly lost my coffee on that one!

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RE: Limbo - 1/5/2014 3:25:46 PM

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I'm young.
I was an ugly teenager in a frustratingly small town.
The internet was my playground. I had weird fantasies I still don't admit to cause I frighten myself.
I went to college. Met some guys. Had a good time.
Met one guy, had a REALLY good time, the rest, as they say, is history.

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RE: Limbo - 1/5/2014 3:42:39 PM

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well I'm impressed,
mostly at your willingness to share!

my first was my 9th grade teacher!

she was this reall voluptous(sp) female

I was a fairly developed 14 year old....ok so things happened with a ruler!!!!

dont judge!!!

well ok that was my first time....I never looked back

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RE: Limbo - 1/5/2014 7:37:40 PM

NiceButMeanGirl

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I suspected I was different even as an older teen but I didn't know there were others like me. So I tried to ignore it for most of my life after that. Then, when I was 50, I was directed to a website, which piqued my curiosity and I Googled for more websites, during which time I found this one. That was in 2008 and I found out that, at that time, I was submissive. Over the years, I've switched and then, as of a couple years ago, became Dominant. The CM message boards did a lot of educating me during those years, them and also the people I met at local munches/play parties and so on. But my initial education was, yes, from the CM message boards.

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RE: Limbo - 1/5/2014 10:21:51 PM

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~FRing it~

In looking back, I've always marched to the beat of a different drum. I got involved in this in my early 20's (Im 40 now), but didn't start using the Internet until 1996. So I've been at this long before CM or the forums. I joined CM originally in 2006 under my old individual profile. Finally met my guy in 2012 and the rest, as they say, is history.

Survival (if you call it that) just kind of came out of necessity and knowing I needed to live my life true to what I was. Didn't need a forum for that, but I do think this place is pretty fucking awesome and I find myself with new ways of looking at things because of the collective pool of knowledge people here bring.

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