The Ancient Greek aphorism "know thyself" (Greek: γνῶθι σεαυτόν, transliterated: gnōthi seauton; also ... σαυτόν ... sauton with the ε contracted), is one of the Delphic maxims and was inscribed in the pronaos (forecourt) of the Temple of Apollo at Delphi according to the Greek periegetic (travelogue) writer Pausanias (10.24.1)
Normally I'd stay out of here, because I do not have any relationship with Switching, and not having a relationship impairs my ability to relate to the subject. However, I posted the aphorism above, because it is the key to happiness and deep meaningful relationships.
After a few threads, posts, and a long history of the great switch debate here on CM, I'd like to point out that the only way you are going to be truly satisfied in life is to know yourself. As a switch, identifying as a switch, and the nature of the OP, it's fairly clear to me that you "know" your likes, dislikes, wants and needs. We get so much cut and dry, black and white, heavily laden with "one true wayism", the teaming masses have given you pause. DO. NOT. LISTEN. TO. THEM. listen to you.
You are dancing to the beat of your own drummer, which is what I do, but I'm not altogether sure mine is even a drummer. Evolve your personal dynamic, know what is bringing you the highest quality of hedonism you can muster, and stick with it. In your above scenario... Admittedly it was HOT... I appreciate the Dominance you initiated with, and I relished the submission you fell into. That is the glorious advantage you have being a switch, and it is working for you. Do not fret the niche, just allow the haters to hate, while you embrace your happy. For in the end, at the end of the day, you're living with your decisions, not them.
To lead, first follow: Aurelius, Epictetus, Descartes, Sun Tzu, to name a few.
Semper fidelis (which sometimes feels like a burden)