Do you watch Bondage moves and do they turn you on? (Full Version)

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive



Message

Blueswordsman -> Do you watch Bondage moves and do they turn you on? (1/16/2014 6:25:59 AM)

There are a million Bondage sites with tons of bondage, S&M and sex. Do they turn you on? Do you watch them with your Dom or Alone? Is their something you seen that you would like try? e.g. waxing, whipping.



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Do you watch Bondage moves and do they turn you on? (1/16/2014 6:54:02 AM)

Not usually, and no.

If I do watch it's probably alone. I suspect he watches more dirty videos than me, though not really many. He prefers to view alone also. Perhaps he's into some kinky shit he doesn't want to admit, like missionary sex.

I'm not against the idea of it, but inevitably someone ends up doing or saying something that I find either gross or stupid and spoils the mood. For example - gaping holes of any variety, spitting etc

I have seen a few with a certain technique that looks interesting, but I'm not turned on by the film itself. The idea might later get folded into my own fantasies, minus whatever off-putting stuff is in the video.



Missokyst -> RE: Do you watch Bondage moves and do they turn you on? (1/16/2014 8:57:22 AM)

I sometimes watch them. They rarely turn me on to any significant degree. There are very few things I see in them, whipping, waxing, ect. that I have not tried.
I have watched them alone, in groups or with an SO



myotherself -> RE: Do you watch Bondage moves and do they turn you on? (1/16/2014 10:55:12 AM)

I've seen a few, and both Master and I agree that they are badly acted, totally unconvincing shite.

I don't find porn particularly sexy and I've never seen anything in porn that's ever made me think 'mmmmm...that looks like fun!'.

Most of our ideas for new stuff comes from real-life interaction with kinky folk at play parties. Or our sick and twisted imaginations. [:D]



SoulAlloy -> RE: Do you watch Bondage moves and do they turn you on? (1/16/2014 1:22:57 PM)

Yes and yes, but then I'm quite visual, and it depends on the porn lol. Some is absolutely dire. Have watched it with a partner, alone, in a club

They've made me want to try waterbondage, and it was the first place I'd seen a peg zipper used.

Though myotherself is right, the most evil ideas come from our own imaginations ;)



kalikshama -> RE: Do you watch Bondage moves and do they turn you on? (1/16/2014 3:11:45 PM)

I'll take this opportunity to ask for suggestions for lesbian BDSM movies with good acting and a plot. Anyone seen any Anastasia Pierce movies? I found her online but didn't want to buy without recommendations.



kiwisub12 -> RE: Do you watch Bondage moves and do they turn you on? (1/16/2014 4:02:05 PM)

I like the bondage/pain videos from kink.com. My dom downloaded many of them and we'd watch them together - and I'm a bit embarrassed to admit that I didn't realize they were considered porn. They weren't badly acted, no-one had tube socks on, and they didn't have "music" playing that composers would be ashamed of . They also had a very straight forward plot - usually something along the lines of "man and woman meet at the armory and man beats woman".

I found/find them arousing because I'm masochistic and they appear very real.



windchymes -> RE: Do you watch Bondage moves and do they turn you on? (1/16/2014 5:46:18 PM)

Yeah, I like watching it. I've actually watched some episodes of SVU and Criminal Minds that I thought were erotic, even though they were perverted and resulted in violent horrible deaths. Obviously, since it's network tv, it's not all that visually explicit, but mostly implied with just flashes of what's actually going on. I didn't like the horrible death parts, but I wished it could have been just focused on the bondage and non-consent, like the one recently where a hooker takes a guy on spring break up to her room, ties him face down to the bed and anally rapes him. Don't get me wrong, that's a horrible scenario for real life and I don't wish it on anybody. But since it's supposedly a fictional storyline, filmed by consenting actors...I found it erotic, till she put a plastic bag over his head and strangled him.



sexyred1 -> RE: Do you watch Bondage moves and do they turn you on? (1/16/2014 6:01:44 PM)

Yeah, the strangling part ruins it, doesn't it? [;)]

I don't like porn, I have said this before, the best stuff is either what I did myself with my partners and my own twisted mind.

I do like erotica though; I have a great collection of novels, that I have used as fantasy fodder. Again, the common denominator is that there is no visuals other than what I am visualizing.



theshytype -> RE: Do you watch Bondage moves and do they turn you on? (1/17/2014 6:41:12 AM)

Yes, I enjoy watching them but usually by myself. I don't like ones with too much acting. Or any acting. I'll skip right over ones with a storyline. I get more turned on by ones that include things I say I will never do.



orgasmdenial12 -> RE: Do you watch Bondage moves and do they turn you on? (1/17/2014 10:35:41 AM)

I always get confused when people ask if I am into bondage. No - I'm not into being tied up. Not sure (and I'm not blaming you) how s&m is called bondage.

So, anyway, no, I have never watched a bondage (tying up) movie in my life.

Once or twice I looked at s&m porn but it bored me. Anal is another thing, I can't get enough of seeing that.



LittleGirlHeart -> RE: Do you watch Bondage moves and do they turn you on? (1/17/2014 11:23:28 AM)

Bondage, no. Sadomasochist masochist yes. It turns me on. Yes I watch both alone, and with daddy, but I like more extreme stuff than he does.



humble75 -> RE: Do you watch Bondage moves and do they turn you on? (1/19/2014 7:27:38 AM)

Yes, I like some movies, but it is hard to find something to really live myself into.

I have never watched erotic movies with a woman, but I imagine it would be both embaressing and good at the same time. But I would never dare to sugest it.



shiftyw -> RE: Do you watch Bondage moves and do they turn you on? (1/19/2014 8:37:23 AM)

I like porn. But not specifically bondage. My man doesn't usually watch the same stuff as I do. I tend to like things I couldnt/wouldn't otherwise indulge in...and sometimes its too unrealistic for him.



MasterCaneman -> RE: Do you watch Bondage moves and do they turn you on? (1/19/2014 9:01:47 AM)

I hate to say this, but most of the movies in this genre I've seen are more humorous that anything. The plots (hah) and premises are so weak, and couple that with the vague music (chosen because they don't have to pay royalties I imagine) just makes the 'scenes' more amusing. I've got 6 VHS tapes I've seen once, and frankly, they're more entertaining played at high speed. One strikes me as particularly hilarious, Extreme Measures, which was shot in what looks like a gym or dance room with a mirrored wall. That you can see the film crew sitting behind one camera that never moves. For the whole hour and a half (?) running time.

What I'd like to see it a decent genre film, with a believable plot, script, and camera work. Yeah, make sure all the ficky-fick goes on, but I'd like something that engages more of my mind than just my lizard brain. Just stringing together several loosely-woven vignettes that seem to do little more than to show off a couple of bored strippers pretending to be top and bottom doesn't do it for me. Or the ones where the male antagonist is most likely the "producer and director" as well. And for the love of all that's unholy, no more painted dungeon walls, people. I mean, really, how believable is it when the scene is taking place in a set that looks like it was made by a high-school stage crew?

I will issue a caveat that I haven't watched a 'scene' movie in more than a decade, mainly due to the reasons above. Won't waste my time or money on them until someone comes along who's willing to try to do it right. No sloppy ropework. No cuffs so loose they can slide their hands out without touching the sides. No snaplinks or trick cuffs. No 'slaves' with perfect hair and makeup from start to finish of the scene. I warmed a bit to Insex and Shadowplayers, (stills only), but they were guilty of it as well at times. Also, no dommes with the ridiculously skimpy outfits trying to do a decent whipping scene. I remember one evening at the club and watching a couple trying to do that. Every time she drew her hand back to take a swing, her boobs would fall out (not that that was a bad thing), and she'd have to stop and re-adjust.

When I sit down to watch a movie, I want to be told a story, one that I can call up in my head when needed. Sexy scenes and outfits are all well and good, but is there anything wrong with asking for someone to 'flesh out the bones' on some of the lame premises a little to make the experience more 'believable'? Hell, I could probably dissect one of my throwaway stories and rewrite it as a screenplay and do better than that. Oh, and by the way, I've got six of the cheesiest VHS BDSM movies on Earth. Anyone interested can Cmail me for 'em [;)]



StrongSpirit -> RE: Do you watch Bondage moves and do they turn you on? (1/19/2014 5:45:15 PM)

I have generally found that there is too much variation within bdsm to reliably find kinky movies that I enjoy.

The closest I have come is found parts of them I like. But the people at kink.com let you preview films. If you have the inclination, I suggest you preview 20 or so. You might find one or two you like.




MasterCaneman -> RE: Do you watch Bondage moves and do they turn you on? (1/20/2014 10:56:03 AM)

While I haven't watched a 'scene' porn movie in years, I have viewed clips occasionally, and while Kink.com comes close in some respects, it still boils down to roughly the same thing. Pretty girl comes in, there's some off-camera banter, and then bam! they get down to it. One second she's kicking back on the stool or bench fully clothed, a couple seconds later, she's buck-naked with her arms and legs akimbo swaddled in a half-mile of rope.

Worse still are the ones where the 'victim' is trussed up in perfectly aligned and tied ropework, her hair, nails, and makeup is perfect, and she's still wearing her court heels and lingerie without a seam out of place. Nothing against the shibari artists, they have a passion for it I can't match, but I like to see the roughness and rawness of the scenes I used to play out. I like to see hair gone wild, smudged lipstick and makeup, clothing askew or missing altogether. And while I love seeing high heels and boots, in a 'real' scene, they're gone because they simply get in the way, at least for me.

Another thing that irks me is when you see a 'victim' (note I don't specify gender here) on a leash and standing while their ankles are bound together. And wearing six-inch stilettos (okay, that's a woman, for the most part). The first healthy tug and she's gonna hit the ground hard. Believe me, I know it's staged for effect (see my post in Off-Topic on Porn Isn't Real), but most of it smacks too much of unreality to me.

For that reason, I find myself attracted to amateur porn because the producers tend to be more 'into' their particular scene and the situations presented are more familiar to me than the glossy, overproduced stuff that's out there, but that's just me. Just once, I'd like to see a flick that has a real plot, believable action, and convincing ending. With a real script and characterization, not "Mistress So-and-so demands strict obedience!" or "Master punishes his naughty slavegirl!" It's old and overdone.

On that note, while I'm not a fan of John Norman, I can see his novels being adapted to film (and I believe that some were, although I may be wrong). Another good one would be Heinlein's Citizen of the Galaxy, which uses the interstellar slave trade as a major plot vehicle. There are probably hundreds of stories that could be adapted into a more cerebral BDSM porn movie, but the problem is that the producers always aim for the lowest common denominator, it seems.



Runningkc -> RE: Do you watch Bondage moves and do they turn you on? (1/20/2014 11:09:55 AM)

Okay then, I will be the first one to admit to never having watched anything more than redtube type porn. It's not that I'm against it, it's just that I hate trying to find anything worth watching. I'm intimidated by all the BS on porn sites.

I may love it, I'm just not sure. What are some reliable free sites that can give me a taste of it?



MasterCaneman -> RE: Do you watch Bondage moves and do they turn you on? (1/20/2014 12:21:57 PM)

I haven't gone there in a long while, but there's a video link on ImageFap I've used once or twice. You'd have to wait for the others, because I simply refuse to waste bandwidth on most of the tripe that's out there.



NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Do you watch Bondage moves and do they turn you on? (1/20/2014 4:35:43 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Blueswordsman

There are a million Bondage sites with tons of bondage, S&M and sex. Do they turn you on? Do you watch them with your Dom or Alone? Is their something you seen that you would like try? e.g. waxing, whipping.

I've seen xhamster.com a few times, well, more than a few.[8|] I checked out xbondage.com a couple times too. I normally watch it alone, I'm shy that way. The stuff I watch mostly, of course, is the F/m stuff. And the whipping and the strap-on stuff. I can't relate to M/f and I'd like to learn how to handle a single tail. As for the strap-on, well....... [:D] Yeah, sometimes it turns me on.

NBMG



Page: [1] 2   next >   >>

Valid CSS!




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy
0.046875