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RE: Bdsm with kids? - 1/18/2014 3:36:08 AM

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When my son was little, we discovered that he'd picked up that I was hurting Mum and was afraid that was what marriage involved, so I sat him down and explained that some people, not everybody, enjoy playing games where they get hurt, but nobody has to do it unless they want to. That seemed to put his mind at rest, but we were more careful thereafter. But now he's grown up, we simply have to wait till he goes out to work or the gym.

It's a well known problem. I met a couple once who actually kept a flat purely as a place to play without having to worry about the kids, but most of us can't afford that solution. Others save it for their local club or play party. If you find a better answer, patent it quick, you'll get rich.

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RE: Bdsm with kids? - 1/18/2014 3:50:33 AM

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So fredomdwarf, I guess you think its perfectly ok to have sex in front of your kids as well? Face it, there are activities that are private and shouldn't be done in front of children. Do you shit with the door open, or do you tell the children that going to the bathroom is private and they also have the right to keep the bathroom activities private?

Did I not say to use common sense??
So no, you wouldn't have sex when the kids are running around!!

But equally well, when it's well past kiddies bedtime and they happen to wander down when you're doing something and didn't hear them... it's time for some little consoling explanation and to send them back to bed.

And since you asked, no, we don't always shut the bathroom door.
But, that doesn't mean you go barging in without at least asking first and unless it's super-urgent, you wait until they come out. My kids follow the same pattern - it's just common sense.
They fully understand that it's usually private and you don't barge your way in.

My kids are currently 18 and 20 now. An online test showed them as mental age of 28 and 37 respectively.
We can have useful and constructive conversations about anything and everything without the usual giggles and embarassment.
Compared to their friends of the same age, they are very well balanced, well educated, well mannered, and extremely mature. Should I drop dead tomorrow, they are wise enough and mature enough to lead a normal life on their own without major drama.

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RE: Bdsm with kids? - 1/18/2014 7:14:28 AM

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My kids are currently 18 and 20 now. An online test showed them as mental age of 28 and 37 respectively.
We can have useful and constructive conversations about anything and everything without the usual giggles and embarassment.
Compared to their friends of the same age, they are very well balanced, well educated, well mannered, and extremely mature. Should I drop dead tomorrow, they are wise enough and mature enough to lead a normal life on their own without major drama.

I do think if you approach things with a little diplomacy (depending what age) things can sometimes work out for the better.

On my eldest sons 18th birthday he announced he was celebrating at Torture Garden. My partner was working in the club that night and there was no getting out of it. My son was very proud to tell his friends, 'That's Danny, my mums partner'.

Why was he going to a fetish club? Well I'm pretty sure he had heard and seen stuff we tried to hide from him and he was curious. He's never asked me about any of it but he has said on numerous occasions, 'I think its great that you're so open minded'.

What I never did was beat or torture someone within their earshot. They never saw me in a latex vamp outfit and I'm pretty certain they didn't know I owned a dungeon.

I think kids are incredibly nosey though and unless you have BDSM toys under lock and key, they know full well what you keep in that drawer under the bed!

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RE: Bdsm with kids? - 1/18/2014 12:30:50 PM

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You can look into soundproofing as well. It's not that cheap but if you folks are handy, it will be much less expensive than paying someone else to do it for you. You can order soundproofing materials from Lowes to be delivered to your local store. Order online.

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RE: Bdsm with kids? - 1/19/2014 10:39:59 AM

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My daughter is grown now but when she was a kid, we kept playtime for when she slept over at a friend's house, rented a hotel room, went to a play party. Once in a great while we would play in the basement when she was asleep but it was a rare occasion. We both knew how children can be and can hear things through walls or sneak down in the middle of the night. Now that's not to say we didn't have sex when she was asleep. We did but we kept it ultra quiet which meant no hard play or anything really rough...just basic sex.

I never hid anything from her but I just never felt a reason to tell her anything either since she never asked or saw us do anything. I'm betting a thousand though that she knew because that's the way kids are. Most just simply don't care. They're just like "eeewww...mom and dad are having sex! How grooooossss. Must wash it from my mind!!!"

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RE: Bdsm with kids? - 1/19/2014 7:42:11 PM

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I think kids are incredibly nosey though and unless you have BDSM toys under lock and key, they know full well what you keep in that drawer under the bed!

Yes, when I was 12, I managed to find where my parents stash their porn and watched them! Lock and Key is wise! And they did stash it in quite a good hiding spot, just that I was looking for something in their room, I can't remember what and really explored every possible hiding place in that room!

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RE: Bdsm with kids? - 1/21/2014 6:18:14 PM

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If there is a will there is a way. BDSM parents just like their vanilla cousins will find it. Although kids are curious, most find mom and dad having sex is too much information.

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RE: Bdsm with kids? - 1/21/2014 9:26:55 PM

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Yes, being dominated by the babysitter is really hot!

What? You meant something else?

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RE: Bdsm with kids? - 1/21/2014 10:07:53 PM

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babysitters

Yes, being dominated by the babysitter is really hot!

What? You meant something else?