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RE: Why are you a findom or why do you seek one? - 2/13/2014 6:09:38 PM

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...and because I doubt any findomme would admit she didn't get many takers - that would shatter the illusion of her being so desirable and superior that people were competing for her attention.

Hold on a second. Aren't you sort of casting findomme automatically into the business category with that assessment. There are at least a few I respect and that automatically means that in my assessment they'd tell the truth about their number of "takers". That being said, I'd also suspect that for the very same reason these women don't have a hard time attracting a suitable partner/finsub/whatever when they want one.

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RE: Why are you a findom or why do you seek one? - 2/13/2014 9:13:26 PM

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OK, you seem like a nice enough fellow, but excuse me if your profile did made me giggle. You have never verified her identity via webcam, nor heard her voice but you heard the voice of her HUSBAND? (Most likely the fella scamming you out of your cash). May not be the case but sounds like classic catfish and you're easy prey, no offense. :)

I don't mean to talk about me on this thread, but since you did ask me, I'm a church goer and I have faith in people.

Then I find it rather odd that you've appeared out of nowhere and using pics belonging to someone else.

http://tinyurl.com/lnk9vfl

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RE: Why are you a findom or why do you seek one? - 2/14/2014 12:42:03 AM

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[Re: FinSubCA]

Then I find it rather odd that you've appeared out of nowhere and using pics belonging to someone else.

http://tinyurl.com/lnk9vfl

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Very interesting...good work. I'd noticed he had only just signed up that very day but may have been using more than one CM profile so didn't think to question how did he get himself into a findom arrangement and been exchanging phone calls so soon.

He appeared to fit the classic case of a married man on this site seeking on-line domination. Probably porn-addicted and porn-fueled. For him to rely on (fake) pics and not expect cam sessions in exchange for doling out his cash did indeed sound odd.

His response to my message immediately struck me as suspicious. Any kink & fetish-driven vanilla man with a religious background would have felt a sense of conviction, a twinge of conscience, which he didn't.

Note almost verbatim as on this thread: http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=4637556

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RE: Why are you a findom or why do you seek one? - 2/16/2014 7:35:04 AM

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It sounds cliché, but my best guys tell me they do it because they are very successful and expected to always be in control at work and at home. They like giving that control over to another.

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RE: Why are you a findom or why do you seek one? - 2/16/2014 2:38:04 PM

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...and because I doubt any findomme would admit she didn't get many takers - that would shatter the illusion of her being so desirable and superior that people were competing for her attention.

Hold on a second. Aren't you sort of casting findomme automatically into the business category with that assessment. There are at least a few I respect and that automatically means that in my assessment they'd tell the truth about their number of "takers". That being said, I'd also suspect that for the very same reason these women don't have a hard time attracting a suitable partner/finsub/whatever when they want one.

I would be honest about it. January is slow as far as new subs ( I still have my faithful ones).
But feb and march are awesome for me. We shall see what April holds.
Now mind you that about 8 out 10 of them are full of shit.

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RE: Why are you a findom or why do you seek one? - 2/19/2014 3:56:06 PM

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I agree 8/10 of the people that contact me are full of shit. It's rather amusing because I can see it a mile away.

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RE: Why are you a findom or why do you seek one? - 2/20/2014 12:40:14 AM

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What does this have to do with anything?

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RE: Why are you a findom or why do you seek one? - 7/18/2014 8:53:08 AM

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Financial domination is one of the few ways a slave can really serve a mistress online. It is no less valid than getting hit with a whip, which nobody questions. Trying to explain a fetish to someone who is not into it is a waste of time, so why would you even bother to ask? Nobody really knows why some things are found to be erotic to some people.

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RE: Why are you a findom or why do you seek one? - 7/18/2014 9:00:33 AM

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I seriously doubt that. A dominant would have to do much more than collect money in a face to face meeting to qualify as prostitution. Putting money into a collection basket at church would be prostitution. A slave worships his goddess and pays homage to her.

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RE: Why are you a findom or why do you seek one? - 7/21/2014 10:38:01 AM

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@OP I am answering this as one psych major to another.

I have engaged in financial domination/fetish blackmail. It has been several things to my servitors.

It can be humiliation, though not one that (usually) requires clinical intervention. This would fall under the sexual masochism section of the DSM V IF it were a disordered behavior in an individual.

It can be a simple act of being rewarded with some kind of attention in exchange for money—how many hot 20-something girls want to interact with an old perv who is their dad's age (or older) and has weird stuff crammed up his ass in all of his pictures? Paying for attention may be the only way to speak and interact with these ladies.

It can be, essentially, professional domination with more of a focus on the money given rather than a BDSM session and the fantasy factor that comes along with it.

It can be that some of these guys have bad spending habits and a Domme's control helps to keep them in line financially.

It can be that giving his Mistress money makes him happy because he knows he is providing her with the service of giving luxury and convenience that he feels a Domme rightfully deserves. It makes sense since service is very much about pleasing the Dominant and deriving pleasure from seeing the Dominant happy. When the interaction is strictly online, this is especially true since a slave often cannot come by to serve in person. The limiting factors of online interactions make the types of service a slave can provide very limited.

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RE: Why are you a findom or why do you seek one? - 7/21/2014 10:39:26 AM

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Well said david!!!!!!

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I seriously doubt that. A dominant would have to do much more than collect money in a face to face meeting to qualify as prostitution. Putting money into a collection basket at church would be prostitution. A slave worships his goddess and pays homage to her.

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RE: Why are you a findom or why do you seek one? - 7/21/2014 1:09:11 PM

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Why is everyone so obsessed with findom this week? lol it seems every other post is about it.

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