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crazyml -> RE: What do subs/slaves most want out of a Dom? (2/10/2014 11:24:38 PM)

I hope that this is research as some kind of "hobby" or "pass-time".

As academic research it has less than fuck-all value.




OneSexyGuy -> RE: What do subs/slaves most want out of a Dom? (2/10/2014 11:25:07 PM)

I however didn't anticipate the barrier this forum would provide. My study was to evaluate how trust impacts interpersonal relationships. It seems that since everyone has decided to suggest that I have intended other things is a point I will analyze. I ask any to do the same and feel free to comment. Thank you.



myotherself -> RE: What do subs/slaves most want out of a Dom? (2/10/2014 11:37:27 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: crazyml

I hope that this is research as some kind of "hobby" or "pass-time".

As academic research it has less than fuck-all value.




And an inability to answer, with clarity and honesty, questions regarding this 'research'.

OP - you answered part of the question I posed. Any chance of tackling the rest?



OneSexyGuy -> RE: What do subs/slaves most want out of a Dom? (2/10/2014 11:48:56 PM)

I can't answer any questions only provide my personal opinion or point of view on a topic. My opinion is mine and mine alone. My intent is not to lead anyone to any one conclusion but only share in the opinions of other's in order to gain a general consensus successfully or unsuccessfully and analyze extremes in Emotional and Non-Emotional responses based on my own point of views. I do realize however that my own point of view is not central of others, but it helps provide a point of which I can analyze responses.



OneSexyGuy -> RE: What do subs/slaves most want out of a Dom? (2/11/2014 12:07:04 AM)

Please do not spam the forum. Thank you.



crazyml -> RE: What do subs/slaves most want out of a Dom? (2/11/2014 12:14:25 AM)

Dude, you appear to be replying to yourself.



OneSexyGuy -> RE: What do subs/slaves most want out of a Dom? (2/11/2014 12:27:48 AM)

I encourage any constructive criticism or insight from anyone with valuable experience, however, heckling is immature. I would appreciate that anyone who does not wish to share in a mature discussion not post immature statements in the forum. Thank you.



crazyml -> RE: What do subs/slaves most want out of a Dom? (2/11/2014 12:31:38 AM)

Please point out where I seem to have "heckled", then I can explain to you how it wasn't heckling but sound advice, and then you can be all "mature" and apologise to me.

How's that?



sexyred1 -> RE: What do subs/slaves most want out of a Dom? (2/11/2014 12:33:21 AM)

We just had a long thread on this topic. Search for it.



Rawni -> RE: What do subs/slaves most want out of a Dom? (2/11/2014 12:33:34 AM)

ROFLMAO... okay... that last one got me.

Seriously dude, you are presenting as what? Then doing research, which this could not amount to anything you could legitimately use for research and then you decide how the forum is going to work?

Let me give you a heads up. Anyone can post anywhere within terms of service. Most these people know that and they know that you're just puffin... blowin smoke... and no one is buying it.

You might want to go to bed now because this could get real interesting if you don't. [sm=wall.gif]



Greta75 -> RE: What do subs/slaves most want out of a Dom? (2/11/2014 12:37:17 AM)


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ORIGINAL: OneSexyGuy

As a Dom though I felt as though I was reading a list of demands. If I was to evaluate my potential interest in a sub based on her answers then I would feel as though they presented themselves in a way that made them seem not submissive, and therefor, as a Dom I would conclude that I am not interested in any.


Good luck. Subs are human beings with needs too. If you plan to treat them like robots, who's only purpose in life is to serve your needs, without you putting any efforts into serving their needs as well, I don't think you are living in reality.



GoddessManko -> RE: What do subs/slaves most want out of a Dom? (2/11/2014 12:46:23 AM)

Honestly, I don't believe you ever learn to be a dominant, you can have a predisposition for it. Most people are dominant or submissive to varying degrees, the more you embrace one role or the other, the more it becomes a part of you. Kink allows the D/s dynamic (which exists in almost every relationship including vanilla) even further by kicking it up a few notches.
The only way you can attain a sub and hold her interest is to be the Dom that you proclaim you are. None of us can really tell you how to do that because everyone's approach as well as desires differ, and it works for them. Start with what YOUR desires are and try to find someone who complements that. Maybe that will help you in your search. And LOLOL!!!!crazyml, oh you! :)
PS: OneSexyGuy, you seem like a nice fellow and all but I thought it was kind of funny how you'd post 3 or 4 times to your own post and then demand people "stop spamming". All in good fun though. :)



OneSexyGuy -> RE: What do subs/slaves most want out of a Dom? (2/11/2014 1:13:35 AM)

Very well spoken and I appreciate your comments. Thank you.



OneSexyGuy -> RE: What do subs/slaves most want out of a Dom? (2/11/2014 1:15:25 AM)

In the future I will no longer respond to my own post. As I was new to using the message boards, but I'm sure most reasonable people aren't concerned by that.



HelloKate -> RE: What do subs/slaves most want out of a Dom? (2/11/2014 2:13:06 AM)

Really hard to say
I got one dom abusing me because I dared to question him
Isn't being a dom require pose and self control and patienc?

So many men come across as disrespectful.
Shame.



crazyml -> RE: What do subs/slaves most want out of a Dom? (2/11/2014 2:23:49 AM)

Hello Kate!

I took a peek at your profile and it's clear that you know this already, but I'll say it all the same.

The important thing is what YOU expect in a dom guy, if he doesn't meet your standards (and they seem pretty reasonable to me) you don't have to submit to him.



wittynamehere -> RE: What do subs/slaves most want out of a Dom? (2/11/2014 2:41:33 AM)

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ORIGINAL: HelloKate
Isn't being a dom require pose and self control and patienc?

Nope. There are no requirements. What makes you assume that? Silliness.
Someone calling themselves 'dom' can no more be expected to be patient (or any other attribute you want to assume) than someone calling themselves 'sub' could be expected to love sucking cock.
(Or to be able to spell, or structure a sentence coherently.)



HelloKate -> RE: What do subs/slaves most want out of a Dom? (2/11/2014 3:01:59 AM)

I thank you craziml



myotherself -> RE: What do subs/slaves most want out of a Dom? (2/11/2014 11:14:57 AM)

Yup, just as I thought you'd respond.

Bless yer heart [8|]



orgasmdenial12 -> RE: What do subs/slaves most want out of a Dom? (2/11/2014 11:58:08 AM)

This is such complete and utter bollocks that it's difficult to know where to start.

A little info - I have a first class honours degree in social research. I *have* used online websites to carry out research. Not one damn thing in your entire thread could conceivably be described as research. You have not notified us of the nature and purpose of your research, you have not provided contact details where we may gain information about your organisation, our data protection and ability to withdraw consent for our answers to be used in your research. You have not vetted respondents to ensure they meet the sample type and size that you were looking for and you have not advised us of what publications, if any, our data and answers may be used in. What's more, and this should be really obvious to anyone in the BDSM field, you have not given us the opportunity to give informed consent to your research.

To put it simply, if this really is research, you are criminally unethical.

Finally, you are heckling anyone who asks you questions about your 'research' and writing off other answers as 'spam'. What part of this seems like objective, reliable research to you?

Not that I believe it is research. I believe that you are a wannabe Dom who is posing as a researcher as some sort of pathetic cover for your ineptitude and inability to respond to normal social cues. Basically, we all think you're a liar, and we're wondering why you are continuing this laughable charade.



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