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pg4g -> RE: Community views on switches? (2/13/2014 5:19:40 PM)
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ORIGINAL: SwitchBloke
Good. One further thing to consider:
When you wake up in the morning next to this person, could you handle knowing you'll always be the submissive in the relationship, or the dominant in the relationship? Do you want the basis of your relationship to be that position? Or do you need your relationship grounded in equality with power exchange something that you need temporarily between you but eventually you need to revert to equality to maintain the relationship?
You've stated in other threads you're military. So how did you feel in basic training? Could you handle the lack of control at all times with a person, and have a more meaningful relationship with that? Or could you have a relationship where you are the leader, and have a more meaningful relationship with that?
Personally, things between my partner and I must have a grounding in equality. Control shifts between us, but we always return to equality at the end of the day. I couldn't handle anything other than this. It would ruin the relationship.
Man, again, very helpful to think about, and I actually agree with you. You and I seem extremely similar.
I couldn't stand it 24/7 as the basis for a relationship. I'm too independent and strong-willed to be a sub, and I'd feel repressive if I was a dom.
Case in point, as FieryOpal said, my current relationship has been quasi-D/s for a while, with me the far more dominant. And I've encouraged for that to end. I want equality. Mostly because I feel uncomfortable being in general control all the time, and it's not helpful for his anxiety issues.
To littlewonder, again I can't apologise enough for getting defensive.
If anyone asks what I'm like from now on, I'm just going to point to SwitchBloke's posts and say '"he's just like me!" [:D]
Sorry for anyone I've confused.
And thank you all for your encouragement. Will be getting out and about in the community soon enough. [:)]
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