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LonDom61 -> RE: What's the best way of getting the attention of a Mistress? (2/20/2014 4:08:44 PM)
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Hi peach. Welcome to CM.
I don't know if you're interested in getting input from a man. This is based both on my side of the slash and on general knowledge from being in the community for some time.
First, I agree with Oside that local events are an avenue you should explore. In addition to general munches, you may also find separate events geared for young people.
For the online side, I'd say your profile looks pretty good. Clear not just in what you like, but that it's all up to Her. Not whiny or groveling. Not a shopping list of what you expect to have Her have you do. Those are both profile poison.
You give a good sense of who you are. Interests She may share or find useful or appealing. It's good to show aspects of yourself beyond sex & D/s that would give Her reasons to want you around in general.
You are also clear about findoms, etc.
Just one thing about your profile seemed, to me, like it might be a turn off to someone reading. You switch. That's fine. You give a good snapshot of your inclinations on both sides. But you use the term "you". That says to me that you are presuming Her to be a switch as well...and that you expect, sometimes anyway, to be domming Her.
That may be the setup you seek. It may be findable. It's certainly within the wide range of What We Do, But also in that range are many other possibilities. She may be D only. In that case, you may be ruling yourself out of Her consideration. The Mistress who considers you might expect (and inspire in you) only submission. For your D side, you might have the chance, depending on your discussion with Her, to Dom (or top) others.
I admit I'm not overly familiar with the specific dynamics of switching. I was in initial discussion with a female switch some years ago. I wasn't at all inclined to switch with her. But I would have been open to her topping other men. And even observing or participating (if that worked for all parties). Along the lines of her over him, but me above her.
Just my 5c worth (with inflation).
Regards & good luck.
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