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OvidInDallas -> RE: im a slave with online mistress questions (2/24/2014 11:20:13 PM)
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
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ORIGINAL: OvidInDallas
Hi subbjohnn,
Pro-Dommes are sex workers and you are nothing but a paycheck.
NONONONONO!
No pro Domme with half a brain will allow sex as part of her session!
Fella, you just called pro Dommes hookers. I hope the forum is merciful to you....
You don't actually have to have sex with a client to be a sex worker. All that is required to be a sex worker is that the person work in the sex industry. This includes strippers, cam girls and Pro-Dommes who are all providing a sex oriented service even if they don't have direct contact with their employer's genitals. Technically the people who produce sex toys are sex workers. Heck, even the people who work for this website are sex-workers, just look at the ads on the profile side. It's about as neutral a term as you can get to accurately describe their field of employment, like how every health care professional isn't a surgeon.
While you are engaging in the "No true Scotsman" fallacy, I would note that in places where paid for sexual contact is legal there are in fact Pro-Dommes who will engage in genital contact and stimulation as part of a session. The only reason the majority do not (in my opinion) is because it is illegal, not because Pro-Domming is somehow different than other sex work. However, just like a stripper or cam-girl, avoiding direct sexual stimulation of the client is what keeps it legal sex work. It doesn't make it not sex work. I suspect that if prostitution becomes legal in the USA we'll see more Pro-Dommes offering direct sexual services in order to remain competitive in the market, but I could easily be wrong.
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ORIGINAL: Dvr22999874
Why are you down on sex-workers ovid ? It's legal here. It's an honourable proffession, providing a service for an agreed fee and it is the second oldest proffession in the world.
I believe you misunderstand me. I am not down on sex-workers and I think you will find that I did not offer a judgment in my post about sex-workers. I personally think prostitution should be legal so that protections can be more easily provided to the people who engage in it. I have no issue with anyone who chooses to take money to provide sexual services nor with anyone who pays money to have their sexual needs met. It doesn't work for me personally because I want a romantic connection with my sexual partners and enjoy the D/s dynamic. Personally I can't regard an employee as dominant to me anymore than I view my housekeeper as my boss. Some guys obviously can make that work in their heads and that's fine. Different strokes for different folks.
While I am not against sex-workers, I also don't think it is good to romanticize the industry as anything other than what it is: a contract relationship for the sexual satisfaction of the client. Just because the client gets their sexual satisfaction from something other than direct genital manipulation doesn't suddenly make it something more than what a stripper has with their clients. My post was offering advice to the potential customer of a Pro-Domme. He is considering a financial arrangement for a service. It's in his best interest to ensure he spends his money wisely and gets maximum satisfaction for what he spends. When I hire an accountant, I take measures to ensure I hire one that will do the best job for the money I pay him or her. I don't think hiring a Pro-Domme should be any different, get the best one you can find at the cheapest price you can negotiate. I mean, professional is even in the job title.
Honestly, I respect Pro-Dommes. It's not a job I could do and it requires genuine skills to retain clients in what is obviously a competitive market. I'm not interested in their services but I don't see any reason why they shouldn't be available for those who do want them.
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