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kkaliforniaa -> RE: Friends and family (3/18/2014 4:09:16 PM)
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Page 2: Thank you AlexisANew, DaddySatyr, FriendlyMuppet, JeffBC, LadyConstanze, your responses have been the most helpful and supportive!!
The thing with making friends with people at munches and gatherings is, it usually takes a while to develop a great relationship with someone. And even then, there is no guarantee that you'll be good friends with them for very long. Factor in outside influences. I had a friend who recently left everything kink because the person they are married to finds it repulsive. This is a person I had been friends with for about 5 years.
Wow! Just wow! That friend of yours AlexisANew. It's good, if that's what you want it to be, that you're friends again, but talk about closed minded!!
To Lafayette: Yes, I've read news stories about people who had been attacked and such, although kink was never mentioned, so it can only be assumed that all the situations were vanilla. But once kink enters the picture, close minded people could think stuff like, "but I thought you liked that sort of thing" or "you should have known that it was dangerous", etc.. .. And yes, I do meet in public places, but not all clubs are in locations with dozens of other clubs or businesses, which is where a risk could come in. Especially if you are walking to and from the club.. .. Call me a boy/girl scout, "always be prepared" *haha*
To JeffBC: Your answer is helpful, and while it may seem like I was talking about just sex, I didn't mean for it to appear that way. Going to bdsm clubs and such doesn't mean you'll be engaging in orgies and such, but sadly, that's what people may think happens.. .. You asked, "What would it mean to you if one of your [alleged] friends turned out to be unable to like you if they found out you like <insert weird sexuality here>?" It's one thing to lose a friend, but to lose a family member because they are soooo close minded!! Especially a parent. I mean yes, I am old enough to make my own decisions, but they are still my parents, and if something happened, like I'd hope with all parents, I'm sure they would be very sad. So it's a tough decision to make. Tell them and become further alienated, or find someone else who would be more understanding, and if my parents needed to know, would only tell them the bare essentials.. I think someone had mentioned, basically, treating all situations like vanilla situations. But if something happens.. Example, you get mugged in a part of town you don't go to very often, the question becomes, "what were they doing there?"
I just remembered, the original reason for posting!!, "how do you learn if a friend of family member is open minded enough to accept your interest in the taboo?"
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