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UllrsIshtar -> RE: How long is too long? (3/18/2014 2:27:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rowdy76 In part because of scheduling.. I work full time and go to school. I have at least one thing going 7 days a week. Off work Weds. Thurs, and have lab and class those days. So just jumping in the car and taking a day trip requires scheduling. I even mention in my profile, and added more to that section just now, that I am mainly looking for friends right now because of time constraints. The main reason I asked, and I am sorry I bothered, is because a few have acted like they won't talk unless you meet them after one conversation. Fair enough. Then meet with her halfway. That cuts your time commitments down to 3 hours (1 hour drive there, 1 hour date, 1 hour drive back). Or have her come meet you. There's not reason the D-type always needs to be the one making the trip. I'm with OsideGirl on this: if you don't even have time to schedule a meeting, you don't have time for a relationship, and you should probably let her know that sooner rather than later.

SinFix -> RE: How long is too long? (3/18/2014 2:29:54 PM)
That was my thought osidegirl..... if you can't take some hours to meet someone, I would feel that you weren't that serious and would nix you as a potential immediately

Rowdy76 -> RE: How long is too long? (3/18/2014 2:31:03 PM)
Then I will just delete myself and walk away rather than try to meet like minded people and learn a few things. That's simple. Thank you

SinFix -> RE: How long is too long? (3/18/2014 2:32:57 PM)
Wow.. that comes off petty

SeekingTrinity -> RE: How long is too long? (3/18/2014 2:35:28 PM)
~FRing it~ If you don't have the time and are just looking for friends, Id just say that and cut out any talk of 24/7/365, relationships, or anything like that. My take was your profile is honestly sending mixed messages. If you don't plan on meeting someone for a long time...or ever, just say it. Nothing wrong with that so long as it's all on the table right from the start. Another option is to limit your search for whatever to your immediate area. That way it's all right there in your backyard. Or option #3 is always throwing down a flounce You will get out of this what you put into it. You are never going to know someone in all honesty from emails and phone calls only. I'm not saying it doesn't happen though.

TenderTorment -> RE: How long is too long? (3/18/2014 2:35:36 PM)
A 2 hour drive that could result in 1. You meet, you chat, it's dead you move on. 2. You meet, you chat, no spark but hey you gain a friend. 3. You meet, you chat, insta spark, connection, bingo. 2 hours my friend, surely gotta be better than sitting wondering.........

ExiledTyrant -> RE: How long is too long? (3/18/2014 2:37:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rowdy76 Then I will just delete myself and walk away rather than try to meet like minded people and learn a few things. That's simple. Thank you You should reevaluate your position there and either ignore or put to good use the advice you are getting. There is a lot to be learned from this site, and walking away would be a HUGE mistake. Jus sayin Exiled

UllrsIshtar -> RE: How long is too long? (3/18/2014 2:39:27 PM)
Yeah at coming off petty... If you don't have time for a relationship, that doesn't mean that you can't still use this site to meet friends, and make contacts whom you can talk to online. It's just that your profile makes it sound like you're looking for offline, and if that isn't the case because you're not going to move forward with things, it's not fair to the woma(e)n you talk to if you're not upfront about the fact that they shouldn't expect things to go anywhere.

Blonderfluff -> RE: How long is too long? (3/18/2014 2:42:54 PM)
It's a shame that you started a great thread, and want to walk away because everyone wasn't "rah, ray, you rock". The great thing about these Forums is you will always get an unvarnished answer.

DaddySatyr -> RE: How long is too long? (3/18/2014 2:45:32 PM)
OP, you're forgetting the off-chance that if you stay and re-vamp your profile, you might just meet someone that's in a similar situation to you. I know several ladies who have very limited time due to life circumstances. I'll bet they're having trouble, finding people, too. I think you're missing a bet, my friend.

OsideGirl -> RE: How long is too long? (3/18/2014 2:53:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar Yeah at coming off petty... If you don't have time for a relationship, that doesn't mean that you can't still use this site to meet friends, and make contacts whom you can talk to online. It's just that your profile makes it sound like you're looking for offline, and if that isn't the case because you're not going to move forward with things, it's not fair to the woma(e)n you talk to if you're not upfront about the fact that they shouldn't expect things to go anywhere. I'll also add that someone that doesn't live near you isn't going to relocate to be a friend with benefits. So, I would suggest that you remove the 24/7 references and look for someone local that is just looking for something extremely casual. You're not really in position to be taking on the responsibility of a 24/7 D/s relationship.

TenderTorment -> RE: How long is too long? (3/18/2014 2:56:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rowdy76 Then I will just delete myself and walk away rather than try to meet like minded people and learn a few things. That's simple. Thank you You are meeting like minded people and you are learning a few things, not everyone is going to say what you want to hear, that's the beauty of these boards, you might not like something but that doesn't mean you can't learn from it. Walking away will achieve nothing but leave you looking back in 10 or 20 or 30 years time wondering about what if's, I strongly advise you to man up, suit up and go impress the fuck out of her..simples!

Blonderfluff -> RE: How long is too long? (3/18/2014 2:58:18 PM)
And. There are quite a few "her"'s ^^^^. Up there reading. So. We'll wait....

OsideGirl -> RE: How long is too long? (3/18/2014 2:59:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rowdy76 Then I will just delete myself and walk away rather than try to meet like minded people and learn a few things. That's simple. Thank you Ya know, I view having a temper tantrum as un-Dom-like. No one was mean to you. No one was rude to you. We asked questions and gave our view of the situation....which is what you asked for. We're just not telling you what you wanted to hear.

Rowdy76 -> RE: How long is too long? (3/18/2014 3:00:02 PM)
I apologize I spoke before thinking... I am not walking away, but have hidden my profile and taking a break until I have more time travel. I will simply stick the very small local group instead.

Blonderfluff -> RE: How long is too long? (3/18/2014 3:09:20 PM)
And. You should stick around and keep posting!! Well done for coming back. Now. It doesn't get much worse than this, unless you REALLY say something awful. Or unless you go down to Politics and Religion. ~shudders~ Oh. Unhde your profile. You can always delete anyone far away. And. You never know who could end up in your mail!

Toysinbabeland -> RE: How long is too long? (3/18/2014 3:12:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Blonderfluff And. You should stick around and keep posting!! Well done for coming back. Now. It doesn't get much worse than this, unless you REALLY say something awful. Or unless you go down to Politics and Religion. ~shudders~ Oh. Unhde your profile. You can always delete anyone far away. And. You never know who could end up in your mail! Why not just learn from your errors and progress? We aren't that scary of a group, and you could learn something.

Rowdy76 -> RE: How long is too long? (3/18/2014 3:19:44 PM)
No, I do think I will stay hidden for the time being. Like it was said, I don't have the time to devote to this. So I will take a break from it, and come when I have more time, and less stress and more patience. Reading this while typing a research paper that is already making you want to strangle yourself probably isn't the best idea.

Missokyst -> RE: How long is too long? (3/18/2014 5:26:38 PM)
FR I never understand why people jump up to prevent people from backing off kink. If there is no time for it the best thing to do is step away until there is. Kink is not the be all, end all of life. Sometimes you gotta work.

Blueswordsman -> RE: How long is too long? (3/18/2014 6:26:12 PM)
If you talked for two months and enjoy each other’s conversation, It’s time to meet. Stop worrying about what she wants and give her what she want… A date with a dashing Dominant man. If you have not actually seen each other there is always the possibility she may be shy or worried you may not find her appealing. Go for it.

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