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FieryOpal -> RE: Consideration of a slave (3/22/2014 9:51:14 AM)
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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders
Great, it sounds like you're making the concept work, but that doesn't make Windchyme's point invalid. There are lots of doms doing exactly what she described.
Personally, I dislike the concept because it implies the sub has to prove his or herself to the dominant to demonstrate their worthiness. I sort of feel that both parties are equal until the day the power exchange is agreed, so the dom should be doing as much proving as the sub.
From a woman's perspective, weighing your options and being cautious with any prospective match is the best course to take. More so with an on-line connection, because nothing is *real* until the two of you actually meet in person and have real-time interactions.
Nevertheless, there are so many male subs who want to latch onto a Mistress to call their own ASAP that I find utilizing this concept of Under Consideration helps to define boundaries so there is no misunderstanding that just because I have taken an interest in somebody, that doesn't mean we're an "item" yet. Other Dominants may go about this differently, but when I zero in on a prospect, I'm not spreading myself thin by considering multiple subs simultaneously. So in my mind, there is a mental quasi-exclusivity during this consideration phase, where neither one of us should be leading the other on. In one sense, we are "going steady" tentatively but no commitment(s) have been made yet, and certainly nothing has been solidified.
I would not use the term "collar of consideration" since the s-type is either collared or s/he isn't. Since I don't have more than one sub at a time, once mine is "collared" we then belong to one another and cultivate our newly formed partnership from there.
ETA: BlkMastIndy, you might want to check out this discussion thread on "Under consideration" from January for an interesting read. http://www.collarchat.com/m_4621455/mpage_1/tm.htm
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