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joel24 -> online slaves/subs (4/6/2014 10:20:25 PM)

why is it hard to find a slave to serve online and through chat?



Wolf2Bear -> RE: online slaves/subs (4/6/2014 10:23:24 PM)

One of the main reasons I'd have to say is most who identify as slave or sub want that face to face interactions and dynamic. For some people online is their cup of tea yet for others it isn't.



myotherself -> RE: online slaves/subs (4/6/2014 10:58:24 PM)

It's incredibly easy for someone who wants an online-only relationship to find a dominant male. So those that are seeking need to really stand out from the crowd.

Look at your profile - can you, hand on heart, say that it shouts 'I am the online dom for you!'? Does it single you out as being something special, someone other than the run-of-the-mill married guy looking for a bit on the side?

Or does it say 'I'm mostly a submissive male who may, on occasion, fancy a bit of domination'?

That might be your starting point.



MistressDarkArt -> RE: online slaves/subs (4/6/2014 10:58:35 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: joel24

why is it hard to find a slave to serve online and through chat?



For the most part, women of any stripe have no need for online interactions. We're inundated with men willing to spend quality time with us in person.

Women in the lifestyle are usually very discerning. Some anonymous internet dude calling himself sub or slave and wanting online interaction is equivalent in worth to exactly one grain of sand on the longest beach in the world. We're women first, kinky second and expect to be approached as such. We have the same needs and desires for real relationships as other women. To assume differently would indicate typical porn contamination.

I like to touch my partner. I like to do other activities with him beside kink. Frankly, I want to spend less time online overall.

There are no shortcuts other than paying, which you state you don't wish to do. I suggest you step away from your keyboard and get involved with your local kink community. You can find groups near you on FetLife. I didn't check your age, but if you are between 18-35, there might be a TNG (the next generation) group in your area.

An FYI: if you find a 'domme' willing to goof about online without compensation, chances are whoever is on the other side of the screen is a man. Ask yourself if this really matters or not...after all, it's JUST online.

Best of luck Joel, and welcome to the boards. Stick around; you can learn a lot here.



Bunnicula -> RE: online slaves/subs (4/7/2014 1:22:21 AM)

Women choose men who have something to offer. You don't seem to be offering much of anything. Change that and you might get lucky.




InHisHeart -> RE: online slaves/subs (4/7/2014 4:30:39 AM)

Speaking for myself, I have no interest in having an on-line dom. It's the real deal for me, a live, in-person D/s relationship or nothing. As Myotherself mentioned, on-line doms are not hard to come by so you will have to really attract their attention. Ask yourself what do you have to offer a sub/slave that the many other on-line doms don't have.




searching4mysir -> RE: online slaves/subs (4/7/2014 6:56:32 AM)

FR

There is nothing appealing about spanking myself or masturbating for someone I don't have a real-time relationship with.

I also don't get involved with switches. I'm monogamous and it wouldn't be fair to either of us as I wouldn't be able to satisfy his submissive side.



DarkSteven -> RE: online slaves/subs (4/7/2014 7:15:07 AM)

1. You've been here since 3/15.

2. Your profile starts off saying you want a Mistress to serve.



MistressDarkArt -> RE: online slaves/subs (4/7/2014 1:45:23 PM)

^^^A little further down, the OP talks about wanting to be 'Master' sometimes, and lists himself as a switch. Covering all bases, I assume. Too bad he's not bi or gay; he'd be rolling in online offers. As it is, he may yet find a 'domme' of dubious gender if he doesn't screen too well...or care.



NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: online slaves/subs (4/7/2014 2:00:05 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: joel24

why is it hard to find a slave to serve online and through chat?


A lot of subs are wise to the fact that a lot(notice I didn't go so far as to say "all") of online dudes are married & that drives 'em away. Also, I'm just not sure how a person can either really serve or dominate online anyway, unless you're talking cybersex and a lot of people just aren't into that. They want the real time contact with their partner, not just pixels on a screen.

NBMG



seekingreality -> RE: online slaves/subs (4/7/2014 8:57:01 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: joel24

why is it hard to find a slave to serve online and through chat?




Because most women find that boring.



JeffBC -> RE: online slaves/subs (4/7/2014 9:25:41 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: joel24
why is it hard to find a slave to serve online and through chat?

It's not. The last I checked it was trivially easy. Try SecondLife where there is a rampant BDSM & Gor community all doing virtual kink online.

edited to add
You've brought this question to the wrong forum. There is a very, very strong bias against anything virtual, long distance, or online here on CollarMe.



Siu -> RE: online slaves/subs (4/7/2014 10:04:17 PM)

It's not ... at least 50% of the boys who contact me are looking for just that. I've had to be very specific in my profile to try and reduce that amount, but who reads profiles? I think that perhaps you're not looking for a slave but a cam slut. they're different things entirely.



FieryOpal -> RE: online slaves/subs (4/7/2014 11:35:37 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Siu
....
I think that perhaps you're not looking for a slave but a cam slut. they're different things entirely.

Let me fix that for you: "you're not looking for a slave but a FREE cam slut."

Joel, on-line Doms are a dime a dozen. I guess you've already figured out you can't get a Domme to give you a free camshow.
From what I understand, the ones who do that sort of thing are CFNM-Clothed Female Naked Male, and you'll have to pay upfront for the privilege. [X(]

What makes you think you can cajole an s-type to do your bidding just by presenting as a Dom? I'm insulted by this premise, and I'm not even a femsub.



DesFIP -> RE: online slaves/subs (4/9/2014 4:56:10 PM)

How do you serve a cup of tea online? And why would you want it.



Searchinmasteer -> RE: online slaves/subs (4/10/2014 5:06:12 PM)

I love online. I like online doms



DangerousCrves -> RE: online slaves/subs (4/10/2014 6:16:25 PM)

I'll echo the SecondLife..

that's where you'll find a plethora of folks willing to engage in strictly online endeavors.



kalikshama -> RE: online slaves/subs (4/11/2014 2:25:07 PM)

Don't they do this in VidChat?



MistressDarkArt -> RE: online slaves/subs (4/11/2014 4:20:18 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Searchinmasteer

I love online. I like online doms


And your profile as it stands should attract plenty of HNGs. I should also note that it reads as a typical HNG guy posing as a female. If that's not the case, you might want to change it. Welcome to the boards.



littleone35 -> RE: online slaves/subs (4/14/2014 7:46:50 PM)

I could never serve an on linr Dom i need the skin to skin contact. I someone had a hard say hard to hug tehm on line. As ro sex that is a no brainer for me he has to be here ohysically i anint gonnna do cyber sex that is jus bring So that is my take on the subject.

Matt;s litleone



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