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subdrop - 4/14/2014 9:56:57 AM   
slavescarlett70


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Status: offline 		I was wondering is it possible to have 'subdrop' during a scene?
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RE: subdrop - 4/14/2014 10:35:20 AM   
sandyTheSub


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Status: offline 		Hello.

Of course it can happen, though I think during a scene it will be very unlikely. Normally it happens after a time of separation (at least this is one thing I am struggling with) but I heard about it also after some heavy physical discipline - which could happen in a scene. The subdrop won't come after the endorphines left your body, basically having you crashing from a high. So the scene needs to be pretty long for that to happen.

In general a subdrop is more or less just a crash after a high. So first there needs to be a high and then there needs to be enough time for that high to end. So I think during a scene it will be very unlikely but possible.

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RE: subdrop - 4/14/2014 12:44:18 PM   
angelikaJ


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Status: offline 		It is possible to have emotional issues during a scene.

Also... sometimes activities can trigger a bad headspace or one can feel very disappointed when a scene does not make the transition from the realm of being a hot fantasy to reality well.

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RE: subdrop - 4/14/2014 1:53:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		Depends on your definition of "scene". If it includes aftercare, then definitely.

It should be possible to engineer a scene to have a lot of whipping and impact play, followed by corner time or isolation to bring about sub drop within a session, but I don't see any reason to do so.

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RE: subdrop - 4/14/2014 3:36:39 PM   
orgasmdenial12


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Status: offline 		A person can feel emotional, confused and depressed about anything at anytime. Stop thinking of it as subdrop and start thinking of it as a feeling and you'll see why it doesn't make sense to limit when it's possible to experience it.

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RE: subdrop - 4/19/2014 1:01:17 PM   
TiedUpReady


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Status: offline 		I'm not overly fond of the phrase "sub drop" because not everyone who experiences it is a sub. It's the come down from an endorphin high, so yes it is possible to experience it during play, but unless the play is long lasting, I can't see it happening often.

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RE: subdrop - 4/21/2014 1:21:25 PM   
Submisquiz


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Status: offline 		Sorry to jump on this thread, I have no idea how to start a new question!

I was wondering what the best ways are to overcome sub drop or possibly how to prevent it?

I had a serious drop not so long ago where I just wanted to sleep all day and it felt like I had the flu. I had no idea what it was at the time and the Dom I was seeing wasn't very helpful / sympathetic. So I started looking into it to see what it was and how to handle it next time, so if anyone has any tips they would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks in advance xx

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RE: subdrop - 4/21/2014 4:12:50 PM   
sandyTheSub


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Status: offline 		As I said in my first post here: a sub drop is basically crashing down from a high.
So to prevent it, you need to stop the crash. Depending on what caused the high this can be easy or hard. If pain caused the high there is often nothing you can do.
But you can always make the crash more pleasent by loving aftercare.

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RE: subdrop - 4/21/2014 6:42:10 PM   
TieMeInKnottss


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Status: offline 		I think it is more common to have it after. It is the drop in hormones..sudden change.... In the scene, it is more likely that some shift occurred that threw you off. I was once playing with my Dom, very into it...he slapped me in the face (something that normally I like)..I burst out crying. Don't know why and he immediately went into aftercare which fixed it.

The person who asked about how to help sub drop. Mostly the type of stuff EMTs and first responders do for accident victims...chocolate, warm drinks, blankets, reassurance... We usually do cuddling, he strokes my hair and tells me what a good job I did. The next day.,he should still check on you again if you live apart. You can also help yourself by making sure to get some exercise and eat healthy food for the next couple days.

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RE: subdrop - 4/22/2014 12:27:05 PM   
Submisquiz


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Status: offline 		Thanks for the advice!

I was told by my last (and only) Dom to push through and concentrate on pleasing him and I would get over it. I had a feeling that this may not be the best advice to follow! xxx

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RE: subdrop - 4/22/2014 1:06:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sorry to hear your former Dom was so inconsiderate of your needs. Aftercare is essential for me when I'm in sub drop. Master makes sure he takes good care of me, a nice massage, cuddles, talk about how I feel if I want to talk, makes sure I get fluids in me and a lot of reassurance.

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RE: subdrop - 4/22/2014 2:10:05 PM   
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RE: subdrop - 6/7/2014 5:52:41 PM   
slaveoubliette


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