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ChocolateJinx -> Turn New Guy Out (11/22/2004 11:13:19 AM)

How do I introduce new male friend into my money domme world?



sweetpleaser -> RE: Turn New Guy Out (11/22/2004 11:35:31 AM)

Is he willing to support you? Does he know you do not allow sex? Do you think he is the least bit submissive? These are things you have to consider and find out from him before you go on your conversion mission. Then if it is yes on all counts you can mold him anyway you want.



cynnacent1 -> RE: Turn New Guy Out (11/22/2004 2:14:48 PM)

No offence intended ... but ... this inquiry has me wondering why a domme who might be concidered knowledgeable and qualified enough to seek a form of financial servitude does not KNOW how to entice a male friend into her 'money domme world'. Also, of course any submissive's/slave's opinion or reply should be valued, would it not be 'better' to address another Domme who might offer a more experienced/educated/knowledgeable reply?

Regardless ....

i DO know that when my Master 'enticed' me into His world it was by giving me good reason to WANT to submit to Him. IE: Want, needs, expectations and requirements were discussed openly and agreed to. And there was/is that little something extra that i can't seem to put my finger on ... mmmmm ... just 'something' about Him and His existant dominant nature that lured me in ...



MissP -> RE: Turn New Guy Out (11/23/2004 4:01:03 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ChocolateJinx

How do I introduce new male friend into my money domme world?


You, as a Domme are asking subs/slaves this??

Doesn't compute!



conflicted -> RE: Turn New Guy Out (11/23/2004 5:02:11 PM)

ummmmmmm,
you could ask for his credit card details!! *giggles*

i think you would be better of asking "Those Who Must Be Obeyed"

good luck

n



BeachMystress -> This lifestyle is built on TRUST (11/24/2004 12:45:53 AM)


I have a real problem with this! While it is your right to be a money Domme, you need to be up front with the subs you meet. You do not start up a relationship and then all of a sudden turn it in another direction. I have several submissive friends who have been "burned" this way by money Domme. Not one of them continued the relationship. One of the men WOULD have if she had been up front with it. His feeling about it was this lifestyle is built on trust, and if there's a lie from the first, you can never trust.



aliljaded1 -> RE: Turn New Guy Out (11/30/2004 6:42:17 AM)

when you say "turn out" it makes me think prostitute. it makes me think turning someone into something they dont want to be. it makes me think you dont have their best interest at heart and only yours.
i really have a problem w/ the whole $$Domme thing
and this is the Exact reason.


my apologies to the sincere at heart $Dommes. i do understand that they Exist.



slvtoplayfulman -> RE: Turn New Guy Out (12/1/2004 11:34:01 AM)

I didnt realize they allowed prostitutes on this site. If you do not allow sex and you want money what exactly are you doing for them and why are you asking sub slaves for advice. Do you have any idea what you are doing, do you have any real experience, or will you accidently strangle the first person you bind becuase of your stupidity and your greed.

Go prey on people on a different site, this one has real people on it who watch out for each other.



proudsub -> RE: Turn New Guy Out (12/1/2004 12:02:26 PM)

quote:

I didnt realize they allowed prostitutes on this site. If you do not allow sex and you want money what exactly are you doing for them and why are you asking sub slaves for advice. Do you have any idea what you are doing, do you have any real experience, or will you accidently strangle the first person you bind becuase of your stupidity and your greed.

Go prey on people on a different site, this one has real people on it who watch out for each other.


That's a little harsh. There are many real pro femdommes on this site who do know what they are doing and who do not have sex with their clients. I'm sure you will hear from some of them.



BeachMystress -> RE: Turn New Guy Out (12/2/2004 6:12:56 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: slvtoplayfulman

I didnt realize they allowed prostitutes on this site. If you do not allow sex and you want money what exactly are you doing for them and why are you asking sub slaves for advice. Do you have any idea what you are doing, do you have any real experience, or will you accidently strangle the first person you bind becuase of your stupidity and your greed.



I understand your frustration. It is hard to see someone who is planning on "burning" an innocent person in such a way and seems to not have any clue how to do Domination . You do need to separate this person out from Pro or money Domme. Both do exist. Both fill a need. Some men actually WANT to support a woman and get nothing in return. There are not very many of them, but I have met one, so they do exist. There are way more money Domme than money subs. That is why some unscrupulous people do things like try to hook the sub before telling him they are after money. To me, such a person is a con artist, not a money Domme.

A Pro on the other hand provides expert level Domination. (Or they are supposed to.. I had a "Pro" Domme on here ask me advice on buying her first flogger.. ) They are available to men who are not able to find a lifestyle Domme or who do not want a lifestyle Domme. Married men especially benefit from Pros. Also a Pro Domme is not legally a prostitute. There is no intercourse. While you may not be seeking such an arrangement, there are plenty of men who do.

I personally am a lifestyle Domme. I don't take money and I do engage in sexual relations with SOME (not all) of my subs. I generally keep one at a time and have a broader relationship with him that just bedroom sessions. Not everyone is looking for something like that. They want to be submissive in a small area and then go back to normal life. They can't do that with me. I expect more. Pro Domme have a real place in BDSM.



MsHoney2you -> RE: Turn New Guy Out (12/4/2004 7:45:49 PM)

I agree BeachMystress, there is a place for the committed/married man in the Pro Domme world. Many subs think BDSM is a sexual focus only... that they want to scratch their sexual itch and move on. I have been told many times "I have a life, I can give you 1/2 an hour on thursday nights".. well.. needless to say, that's not good enough. I am not someone to be hidden from reality, I am a complete person, and to those subs, I refer them to pros' as that type relationship is not for me.

Good luck all, be real to yourself, know what it is you seek and don't settle for whatever comes along, either Dom/me or sub. It's your body and energy you share, not just time.
Ms Honey



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