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RE: Alternative titles - 7/10/2014 3:53:35 PM   
CloakedProtector


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Status: offline 		That's another 3 posts, did the Mistress give you oats? 'stable' was exactly the word I needed to use, no language problem there.

Maybe you should stop hiding behind the language thing to transform meaning in what you think I meant or what you think you understood or make it fit your reply.

Then again if you have a format, language and spelling fetish I can understand the urge.

Since for the rest there is nothing of consequence in the text you wrote below the lines that you have split up at your convenience there is not much more I need to say about that.

You know where the 'hide' button is. I normally try not to repeat myself but I think in this case, after the huge effort you did on these 6 post that you wrote, I do you the courtesy of reminding you about the 'hide' buttons existence. It will normally solve all your problems.

It is for your own good because if you keep reading my bad English, in the end you will not be able to still write English without spelling mistakes yourself and you'll start doubting every word. And since in your case it is your first language I wouldn't want that to happen, you'd need professional help with English.

Something tells me we are going to have fun you and I. I'd be very disappointed if you don't at least reply with 3 more posts, but then again, that is life.

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RE: Alternative titles - 7/10/2014 6:30:15 PM   
Gauge


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CloakedProtector

Now let that be the particularity of this lifestyle that when the vanilla rules (which I find perfect for modern vanilla relation) start to dominate the BDSM lifestyle you quickly end up with diluted BDSM.



Oh, I would read your additions to this thread but I just spit seltzer all over my monitor from a fit of spontaneous laughter.

You have lost all credibility when you have your own definition of "pure BDSM" a stance which you have not stated outright but implied.

The easiest thing to do is stop the silly assertions that your way is the only way to do things and accept that people do not have to think like you do in order to enjoy whatever their flavor of BDSM happens to be.

The game of semantics online is at best useless and at worst embarrassing for those who claim to have attained dominant enlightenment.

Your assertion that you have a "House" is not something that impresses anyone. While you may well have one, that does not give validity or credence to your opinion. Earlier in this thread I "played the dominant card" and was embarrassed as fuck for doing so because one size does not fit all. I felt cheapened by my stance but still stand by what I said in that I felt that it was up to the dominant, but I am intelligent enough to realize that people are different, situations are different and that the OP was asking for alternates for titles. People have offered many different possibilities, that you don't find them viable is your opinion which you may try to defend as factually based but in truth is simply just another instance of one person's opinion.

Somehow or another you seem to try to assert that your word is BDSM gospel and you only end up looking silly. Don't feel bad though, other people do it too and it doesn't look better on them either. Being dominant doesn't mean that you are instantly supposed to be magically transformed into some Neanderthal that hits his woman with a club and brands her with whatever title you please (for a few this is merely the beginning of a good time). For some this may work, for others they may search for something more meaningful for both parties involved, that is not up to you.


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RE: Alternative titles - 7/11/2014 3:59:23 AM   
crazyml


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Hello CloakedProtector,

Can I give you some sincere and well intentioned advice?

I would encourage you to read your posts and reflect on whether there was anything about them that might be ringing bells, or pressing buttons with people.

Are you, perhaps, writing in a tone which - although I'm sure it's not your intention - might wind people up a bit?

This place has a huge mix of people in it, my best advice is to assume that a few of them will be smarter, more experienced, and wiser than you. [ED to add] --- And I'm not suggesting for a fucking nano second that I am one of those people!

The people here tend to react pretty strongly against people that give the impression that they know all the answers and can identify the one true way of things - because, as I am sure you know, there are billions of paths, nuances and ways of doing things.

Can I give you one example...

quote:

ORIGINAL: CloakedProtector
You will understand that if you seed wind you need to be prepared to harvest storm, do you? For now you must have noticed that I stick to reciprocity. Think hard now!



I am sure you're not a dick. But reading this line made me thing "dick". I mean... "harvest storm"????? This is the fucking internet for pete's sake.

Yep, people will irritate you, and wind you up - and in other parts of the boards there's a much more "gloves off" vibe, but before you post each time remember that at some point in the future a potential playmate might read your posts, and it's worth wondering if there's even a small risk that you might give the, almost certainly wrong, impression that you're a bit of a dick?

God knows.... I speak from personal experience, you'll find plenty of posts of mine here where I think "Fuck me, I come across as a bit of a tosser there..."

< Message edited by crazyml -- 7/11/2014 4:07:37 AM >

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RE: Alternative titles - 7/11/2014 4:31:23 AM   
CloakedProtector


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Status: offline 		crazyml, thanks for the advise.

yes, you are correct I write in a quite direct style. I know that style may, as you suggest, certainly come across differently with some people.

But as you may verify for yourself, I do not address people that way unless addressed as such.

I would make your suggested assessments on my initial posts to OP (excluding all those in which I reacted to posts addressed to me - and in which you may have noticed I at a certain point tried to stop this line until another poster got into it) and, without being surprised, find your comments to hold grounds.

But the style is what the style is and i am writing in my 3rd language. Not that this should be an excuse but I am sure there will be words here and there that come across stronger and for which there may have been alternatives, smoother alternatives that is.

Then I think that those, having the privilege and advantage to post in their native tongue because international sites are mostly in English, which is perfectly fine with me, can consider that too.

As for your question about harvest storm. I think you'll understand it matches the kind of language as addressed to me in:
"Another piece of advice, which you can thank me for in the future. You do NOT want to tangle with tx. "

If you read my initial posts to OPs you'll never find such stuff directed at anyone. Only, people mostly understand the type of language they are using themselves so I adapted for the poster in question.

Sorry for the overhead on the board.
Thx for your reply.

< Message edited by CloakedProtector -- 7/11/2014 4:37:15 AM >

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RE: Alternative titles - 7/11/2014 11:18:03 AM   
Moderator3


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Status: offline 		We don't want to over moderate, but we do have to step in from time to time.

A number of posts have been removed for personal attack or responding to/quoting a removed post.

Please take your feisty comments to the proper forum or go by guidelines.

Thank you

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RE: Alternative titles - 7/11/2014 11:28:00 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		The scary thing in this thread is that if the comments which have been allowed to stand are the mild ones, then I'm glad I didn't read it before it was moderated.

To ignore the deliberate thread hijack by the new poster, I'm going back to the original poster.

I actually used captain for a while in the beginning. You can do it in front of anyone if you add 'aye, aye" to it. Her mother, or your coworker will just think it's cute. And it's important that you be able to use the same name in front of anyone, as otherwise you will eventually fuck up and say Master while referring to your partner and speaking to your boss.

So I suggest you think about this from that point of view, and from the corollary of how you will refer to her. Especially if your mother will hit the roof should you refer to a woman you claim to care about as whore or cunt.

Words are important and you cannot unsay them.

Hell, even some of the things the mods have removed will be remembered and will always color the sayer in some of the other members' eyes as coming from a person who will never deserve any respect.

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RE: Alternative titles - 7/11/2014 11:42:36 AM   
FieryOpal


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP
<snip>
I actually used captain for a while in the beginning. You can do it in front of anyone if you add 'aye, aye" to it. Her mother, or your coworker will just think it's cute. And it's important that you be able to use the same name in front of anyone, as otherwise you will eventually fuck up and say Master while referring to your partner and speaking to your boss.

So I suggest you think about this from that point of view, and from the corollary of how you will refer to her. Especially if your mother will hit the roof should you refer to a woman you claim to care about as whore or cunt.

Words are important and you cannot unsay them.
....

That's a winner, DesFIP, especially if the man happens to like boating or the sea, or was once in the Navy, Marines or Coast Guard.

(Dang, wish I would have thought of that. )

However, I have noticed that retired military prefer not to go by their former rank, in case he really did serve as a Captain in the armed forces.

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RE: Alternative titles - 7/13/2014 8:37:28 AM   
thompsonx


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However, I have noticed that retired military prefer not to go by their former rank, in case he really did serve as a Captain in the armed forces.


That might depend on his particular service. A captain in the navy is one step below admiral. A captain in the army would be 4 steps below.
Then again "aye aye pivate first class jones fails to convey any real authority to the one being addressed.

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RE: Alternative titles - 7/13/2014 8:44:50 AM   
FieryOpal


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quote:

ORIGINAL: thompsonx

ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

However, I have noticed that retired military prefer not to go by their former rank, in case he really did serve as a Captain in the armed forces.

That might depend on his particular service. A captain in the navy is one step below admiral. A captain in the army would be 4 steps below.
Then again "aye aye pivate first class jones fails to convey any real authority to the one being addressed.


Growing up, we frequently had retired military over to the house. Out of respect, I always addressed them by their officer rank, and was always told that since they were retired civilians now, this was unnecessary.

Both my uncle and cousin had been Colonels. Even when I was a grown woman, they were always "Colonel ___" to me not only until the day(s) they died, but to this day. Perhaps this was disrespectful of me not to honor their wishes, but in my mind, a rank earned is forevermore.

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RE: Alternative titles - 7/16/2014 2:54:39 PM   
hisfktoy


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Early on I told her that I hadn't earned Master yet and told her to call me Sir. She actually felt otherwise and preferred to call me Master. I've allowed either and she switches between them

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RE: Alternative titles - 7/16/2014 3:57:39 PM   
CreativeDominant


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Status: offline 		Sounds like a wise choice...I've been called everything from my name to Master. Many times, this was preceded by the simple term "my". That was our safe way for the submissive to show respect in public because no one else was " My Sir, honey, guy, heart"...only Me. Alone, it actually became commonplace for her to use "my", even up to and including "my Master or my Owner".
It worked...though there were times when I swear I heard "bastard" after punishments or discipline. You know:
Me: do you understand now?
her (with tears): yes my Love...(under breath)bastard"

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RE: Alternative titles - 7/16/2014 4:08:47 PM   
subrosaDom


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Status: offline 		For myself, the tone is more important than the title (obviously "Asshole" is unlikely to be an acceptable title, although in the political forums, I realize there is a host of others who wouldn't agree with me!), but the point is that one can respectfully be called "John," if that is one's name or "Sir" or one can be addressed that same way in a pejorative tone. So while one's wishes ought to be honored in terms of address, it is equally and if not more important to listen to how that address is made and where it is made, for timbre, volume and other aural clues offer more insight into respect than does a title alone.

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RE: Alternative titles - 7/16/2014 4:44:03 PM   
CreativeDominant


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Status: offline 		Agreed!!!

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