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FieryOpal -> RE: Can I label myself a switch if I only like topping during play? (5/29/2014 2:33:27 AM)
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ORIGINAL: fluffyprincess
I couldn't ever be a Domme, that's just not in my cards, sooooooo not me. But I did enjoy calling some shots in the bedroom in my previous relationship. But how can I fulfill my submissive/babygirl needs, as well as my top needs, with the same person? Do I label myself as a switch because I like having *some* sort of power, or would that just negatively effect me, because of the type of relationship I want, (Daddy/babygirl). Because I enjoy pegging, and I enjoy causing *some* pain (flogger, spanking, paddle...and even chastity devices make me smile, but I doubt I'd ever actually want them to be used as I just love penis too much to keep it caged up), and being in control of some minor things involving sex/activities...lol So do I select Switch, or do I just write in my profile that I like topping? lol
Help me out here, please. xD
This is a tough one. Not for you so much, but because I have a feeling this will irk DaddySatyr to no end. (He's a stickler for full disclosure.) Not intending to deceive anyone, I believe you should maintain two profiles. These really are two separate parts of yourself, and combining baby girl with service Topping in the same profile could sound confusing. Your current submissive profile should describe how you envision your dynamic to be, what you want in a DaddyDom.
Then your other profile can get set up as switch with reference to what Topping activities you enjoy, but that you have submissive needs and are only interested in having a Dominant partner. Some advice, unless you want a boatload of male subs deluging you. You have a couple wildfire words which I avoid at all costs because it will only attract unsuitable bottoms, the kind who are obsessively self-indulgent. They are "pegging" (or strap-on) and "chastity," also "spanking." If you want to include "Ass Play" and "Spanking" in your Interests List, please don't assign them a higher ranking of importance than Likes, for the sake of your own on-line sanity. Normally a Dom isn't going to do those kinds of word searches; only half the "do-me" male subs on this site will. If and when you start exchanging messages with a Dom or Switch, then you can explain why you maintain two profiles.
A high-protocol Dom, a sadistic Dom, and a head-up-his-backside Dom are the only ones who will have a problem with your multi-faceted nature. I don't think you will run into a snag with a DaddyDom. The two who contacted me wanted to be ostensibly Dommed but were just looking to be Topped, not a *real* D/s relationship dynamic as a submissive male. They weren't sadistic, weren't into extreme or edgy play. Both wanted ass play and one also had a foot fetish. One claimed initially after many years, he wanted to turn sub. Needless to say, I didn't believe him, and the only reason I communicated with him was because I recognized him as a match from a vanilla dating site where he hadn't revealed his D/s orientation. After about a month, during a phone conversation where I confronted him, he admitted he was considering becoming a Switch, not fully submissive like he had originally insisted. The other Dom it turned out was a Switch who maintains both Dom and sub profiles, and he was forthcoming about this. He had meant to contact me from his sub profile and had accidentally messaged me from his DaddyDom profile. He wanted to find a Domme who would "train" him to be an "anal slut" and take his anal cherry.
Princess, I have high hopes for you. I think you will find the perfect DaddyDom match for you.
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