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HeartAndSoul31 -> RE: Breaking it off with a Dom (7/26/2014 11:13:40 AM)
Yes I genuinely came on here for advice from strangers. Why is that so hard to believe? At risk of sounding like an asshole, not a rose, I'm normally dominant not sub, you don't get to play the Dom card with me. I'm not in the greatest of moods so spare me a lecture ArturAss. Much love to the rest of you who understood. I meant no disloyalty and if I displayed it, my bad, live and learn. Ok no reason for me to post anymore on this. Have a good day.

CreativeDominant -> RE: Breaking it off with a Dom (7/26/2014 11:45:58 AM)
Personally, I'm with the majority on the board. She didn't come on here and call him names, she DID ask a question about a statement he made that concerned her and filled in some info around that statement. Over and above everything, she is a human being that chose not to submit any more. Hell, I'm a dominant and I'd be concerned with a statement like that coming from a vanilla, let alone a submissive. Even given the emotionallity of the moment, it does ring warning bells.

RockaRolla -> RE: Breaking it off with a Dom (7/26/2014 12:09:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Arturas quote: ORIGINAL: Arturas quote: You seem to be under the impression that the previous four years were amazing for her. My interpretation was different. Hell, she even stated (and you quoted) that she wasn't perfectly happy with the arrangement. It is entirely possible that she wasn't feeling euphoria for all that time and stuck with him for her own reasons I don't "seem" to have ever said the last four years were "amazing" for her. If you don't agree with my post that's okay but don't pretend I said something I did not. Notice I quoted you here. It's a good practice. It's entirely possible because I disagree with your position on her drama here that you are now forced to spin my most amazingly accurate position with 'things I did not say. For you, let's even rephrase my earlier post to match your feeling she stayed with him "for her own reasons" and see if that works better to your position. I do know she should not come here and bad mouth him if for no other reason than she enjoyed him for four years and should be loyal enough not to bad mouth him just for drama is now...I do know she should not come here and bad mouth him if for no other reason than she used him for her own reasons and should be loyal enough not to bad mouth him just for drama Hmmm...even with your words she very much sucks. Big time. So you have sympathy for her...well... Take your own advice. I never stated that she used him. Hell, considering how both parties felt he was the one using her. Unless you want to assert that doms can do no wrong? You're the one who insisted that she "enjoyed him for four years." Even when she stated otherwise.

CreativeDominant -> RE: Breaking it off with a Dom (7/26/2014 1:52:21 PM)
RockaRolla, you forget the Main Golden Rules: 1. The Dominant is NEVER wrong 2. If you suspect the Dominant IS wrong, IMMEDIATELY refer to Rule 1 [:D][:D][:D]

marie2 -> RE: Breaking it off with a Dom (7/26/2014 2:18:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HeartAndSoul31 His response is " it ends when I say it ends" It ends when you stop participating.

RockaRolla -> RE: Breaking it off with a Dom (7/26/2014 2:52:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant RockaRolla, you forget the Main Golden Rules: 1. The Dominant is NEVER wrong 2. If you suspect the Dominant IS wrong, IMMEDIATELY refer to Rule 1 [:D][:D][:D] I knew I was doing this whole sub thing wrong. I guess I just have a fetish for "topping from the bottom." [:D]

BrownEyes76 -> RE: Breaking it off with a Dom (8/2/2014 10:49:58 PM)
It doesn't really sound like he's much of a Dom to me. Kinda sounds as if he likes the title but isn't interested in living up to his title. My Master would be disgusted that you are not pleased or satisfied but then tries to order you around. You deserve much better and deserve to be taken care of by a real Master.

BecomingV -> RE: Breaking it off with a Dom (8/2/2014 11:16:32 PM)
Once again, Dark Steven nails it!!! quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Based on everything you've posted, I suspect "Go die in a fire" might be the appropriate way. Look, you feel you owe him because you learned a lot about yourself. You would have gotten that out of any relationship. You owe him nothing. And, I'll add... lots of great advice here already (sans Arturas who appears to have read what you wrote and it hit a nerve) Here's another option... Tell him, okay, the relationship may continue but the terms must shift. He can stay in your life IF he gives you gifts regularly... great ones! AND that you could use him to explore what it's like to be the receiver of sexual satisfaction without reciprocating. (that'll get him running) ETA - okay, just caught up in reading the whole thread... Congratulations on the end of that dissatisfaction and best wishes for a better future. :)

Gauge -> RE: Breaking it off with a Dom (8/3/2014 12:40:44 PM)
This is a fast reply. I have a very serious problem when someone comes on here and appears to be asking a sincere question and it gets turned around to be them "bad mouthing" someone just for shits and giggles. I think the majority of people here understood the intent behind the post and offered advice accordingly. The post was general enough, did not name anyone and could have applied to a dozen or more situations that happen here every day on good old Collarchat. OP, glad things worked out. Use this as a life lesson and use what you learned. Good luck to you.

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