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FieryOpal -> RE: Not yet ANOTHER profile question! (8/29/2014 2:35:50 PM)
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Your profile has a good bit of information. Here's what I get from the content:
-- You say you've already found a poly primary partner, gender unknown.
-- Being bisexual, you seem to be Actively Seeking just about anybody (other than couples).
-- You identify more as a bottom. You do mention learning more about ropes in a Topping capacity.
-- You list many vanilla interests, yet you give no indication that any of this would actually be of any relevance to a secondary or tertiary play partner.
-- Since the word steady relationship doesn't come up, it is unclear what you seek that your primary partner isn't providing for you.
-- Those viewing your profile, knowing that you're looking for somebody on the side will assume you only want NSA casual play; therefore,
-- They really don't care about all your outside interests, just the brass tacks.
-- Your kinks appear to be centered around bondage, penetrative sex toys, and wearing fetish gear. If this is not correct, then you should explain whatever else you're into in a couple sentences.
-- The fact that they cannot be attached but that you are poly comes across as hypocritical. In other words, you want to play on the side but you don't want to be just their side piece.
(You should perhaps clarify how you see the delineation of your relationship dynamics and how a new partner would fit into the picture, how this might differ whether this person is male or female.)
Basically, being a bisexual switch is confusing to anyone who isn't, and it isn't clear what role you want your non-primary partner to play besides not wanting to enter into a D/s relationship dynamic.
Men usually more so than women need to grasp specifics. It sounds as if you might be a 25/75 or 30/70 Top/bottom ratio, and perhaps you can indicate so, unless this fluctuates or is subject to change dramatically in the near future.
Availability-wise, do you want your non-primary to see you once a week or once biweekly? Are you committed every weekend to your primary and only available weekday evenings? (Info like that would be helpful.)
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