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RE: Going "sight unseen" - 9/1/2014 10:25:33 AM

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And Cherry mash.

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Yes please. Gawd, now that's all I'm gonna think about. Dammit

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RE: Going "sight unseen" - 9/1/2014 10:27:31 AM

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Muhahahahah! Forgive me a cruel chuckle ;)

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RE: Going "sight unseen" - 9/1/2014 10:34:09 AM

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We need to get back to the OP, before we get in trouble. You are always getting me in trouble...

Your picture is horrible, but thank you for sharing. Blue is not my color, and foreheads do not turn me on...I'm sorry, it can never be....

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RE: Going "sight unseen" - 9/1/2014 10:37:10 AM

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I understand that there are many reasons why someone would choose not to show their picture on sites like this. A desire for privacy is perfectly valid. That said, I personally don't want to get involved with someone who has such a strong desire for privacy, for reasons that are my own and will get into shortly. I respect one's decision, but I acknowledge that it isn't for me.

Looks also aren't a big factor for me, especially when I get involved with men. I've been with all types. I do have a favorite physical "type" when it comes to my partners, but for the most part the winning factors are how much chemistry we have and certain personality traits. It would not bother me if a potential didn't look like an underwear model.

My reasons for refusing anyone without face pictures is 1.) I've encountered too many guys who used the standard "hiding from my boss" reason as a cover for "hiding from my wife," and I'm cautious by nature. 2.) I tend to go for people who are transparent with their needs/interests, have no "filter," and honest without apology. This is a "need" for me. I find that this type of personality and a willingness to show face pictures go hand in hand. Consider it my own "preliminary test," except it's more for compatibility than how obedient one is.

Like littleladybug, I wouldn't consider getting involved with someone who not only refuses to show their face from the start, but continues to refuse ever after and expects that to be just fine. It goes double in a M/s relationship where the s is expected complete obedience while the M is an unknown. I can't function in a relationship with that much lack of trust. No doubt that one had something to hide.

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RE: Going "sight unseen" - 9/1/2014 10:54:18 AM

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You left out the sadistic joy factor of kids being confronted by their peers... " dude, I just saw your Dad/Mom on a kinky website and he/she is a fucked up FREAK! You know what they say, the nut doesn't fall too far from the psycho that dropped it."

If that doesn't make them popular in their peer groups I don't know what will.

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RE: Going "sight unseen" - 9/1/2014 11:01:25 AM

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Of course all these kids would be eighteen.

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RE: Going "sight unseen" - 9/1/2014 11:02:16 AM

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Naturally, and at band camp.

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RE: Going "sight unseen" - 9/1/2014 11:05:35 AM

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You left out the sadistic joy factor of kids being confronted by their peers... " dude, I just saw your Dad/Mom on a kinky website and he/she is a fucked up FREAK! You know what they say, the nut doesn't fall too far from the psycho that dropped it."

If that doesn't make them popular in their peer groups I don't know what will.

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The natural response being "Dude, what were YOU doing on that site? You must be a freak too!"

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RE: Going "sight unseen" - 9/1/2014 11:33:16 AM

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~FRing it~

Would I do it? Nope.

I'm all for this guy living in his dream world full of sweet dreams about all the slaves who will happily accept ownership of the unseen "Master" he wishes to be. It's a free world and any kook can have any kooky dream he wants

However it does bring to mind fairness. If he wants them going in blind for him, is he willing to accept ownership of a new slave sight unseen too? I find the thought of expecting Stephanie the slave to show up at the door and having Steve show up instead worthy of a good chuckle on this fine morning

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RE: Going "sight unseen" - 9/1/2014 11:51:01 AM

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I don'#t meet men whose pictures I have not seen (in confidence) nor do I expect them to meet me without seeing me.

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RE: Going "sight unseen" - 9/1/2014 12:09:43 PM

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I don't post a picture here, but do share after chatting. Its the "unknown" of that stattement that is ludicrous and fantasy driven.

After all, looks change and physical attraction can be different for everyone, but there needs to be more common interest than one is slave the other master. If the two don't have mutual interests, even if only for kink, the whole thing will fail.

This is a guy who doesn't understand that satisfaction has to be had by all parties (regardless of what that satisfacttion is).

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RE: Going "sight unseen" - 9/1/2014 12:12:50 PM

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However it does bring to mind fairness. If he wants them going in blind for him, is he willing to accept ownership of a new slave sight unseen too? I find the thought of expecting Stephanie the slave to show up at the door and having Steve show up instead worthy of a good chuckle on this fine morning

MMMMMM....catfishing.

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RE: Going "sight unseen" - 9/1/2014 1:21:05 PM

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You left out the sadistic joy factor of kids being confronted by their peers... " dude, I just saw your Dad/Mom on a kinky website and he/she is a fucked up FREAK! You know what they say, the nut doesn't fall too far from the psycho that dropped it."

If that doesn't make them popular in their peer groups I don't know what will.

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The natural response being "Dude, what were YOU doing on that site? You must be a freak too!"

So, it's safe to assume that any blowback from your actions that your friends and family may have to endure is acceptable collateral damage, right?

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RE: Going "sight unseen" - 9/1/2014 1:26:24 PM

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You left out the sadistic joy factor of kids being confronted by their peers... " dude, I just saw your Dad/Mom on a kinky website and he/she is a fucked up FREAK! You know what they say, the nut doesn't fall too far from the psycho that dropped it."

If that doesn't make them popular in their peer groups I don't know what will.

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The natural response being "Dude, what were YOU doing on that site? You must be a freak too!"

So, it's safe to assume that any blowback from your actions that your friends and family may have to endure is acceptable collateral damage, right?

Sorry, I didn't realize that this was a serious hypothetical scenario that we're talking about. Which side am I on in this case?

Though personally I avoid children whenever possible. Damn anklebiters...

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RE: Going "sight unseen" - 9/1/2014 1:36:35 PM

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<--- doesn't post pictures on here in which you could actually tell it was me.

Only half my face is sexy.

But really, I've been followed by private eyes when I was involved in a car accident- basically, my lawyer told me to 'disappear' and I'm paranoid as shit now. He put the fear of god in me, and being legally stalked was so creepy, I can't imagine what a stalker who is dangerous would do. There are ramifications for posting your face online- beyond "dude bro you're into kink too?!"
While the case settled in my favor, the fact that anyone was watching me online creeps me out.

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No I would probably not even meet someone sight unseen.

Eta- autocorrect thought I should use tin instead of in

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RE: Going "sight unseen" - 9/1/2014 1:37:42 PM

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Unfortunately, children must always suffer for their parents deeds. Look how fast Shwarzeneger's dad became Hitler's right hand man.

When it became apparent that my oldest um was going to qualify for MIT, I became more obscure than before. I didn't want my actions to effect the possibility. Although I was always pretty vague, unless I knew someone pretty well, I got more obscure and cautious when that eventuality presented itself.

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RE: Going "sight unseen" - 9/1/2014 1:39:50 PM

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<--- doesn't post pictures on here tin which you could actually tell it was me.

Only half my face is sexy.

Sadly, the other half is just run of the mill gorgeous.

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RE: Going "sight unseen" - 9/1/2014 1:55:06 PM

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<--- doesn't post pictures on here tin which you could actually tell it was me.

Only half my face is sexy.

Sadly, the other half is just run of the mill gorgeous.

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I mostly just think it's funny people accept that as a picture of me. It's a third of my face for starters. It says in my profile I'm into film and photography- homegirl knows her way around Photoshop. And that picture is me, but you know, enriched with great lighting and angle. My eyes are blue, not brown as that picture would imply, and I think it's hysterical when someone tells me how lovely and "telling" my eyes in that photo are, and how they can tell I want to be a real slave because they can see into my soul. And I'm like "uh huh.."

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RE: Going "sight unseen" - 9/1/2014 1:55:11 PM

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Misplaced? It's probably still sitting next to the canopic jars.

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Ah.....found it! The Master of all things wise is right once again.

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RE: Going "sight unseen" - 9/2/2014 7:18:34 PM

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Well, the idiot who was quoted doesn't seem to realize there's a difference between being The Man's slave, and slave to anyone else. Never was, never will be. He's the only one I've ever met who I find sufficiently excellent in decision making that I'm okay letting him be in charge.

With that said, we didn't exchange pictures. I told him I'd be wearing a red short sleeved shirt and he told me he'd be in a blue one. We met for coffee. But photos can't tell you if there's chemistry. And to me, that's important. I know some people who judge by whether the other person smells right. That's something that isn't going to be conveyed through a photo.

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