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RE: Left him naked on his porch... locked out of his ap... - 9/9/2014 4:28:51 PM   
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Thank you stef, ExiledTyrant, DarkSteven, CynthiaWVirginia for showing that I'm not completely out of my mind.

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RE: Left him naked on his porch... locked out of his ap... - 9/9/2014 8:29:33 PM   
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Okay look... The only reason it was funny is because it happened and it was over with. It did NOT happen in broad daylight and he was masked by darkness and shadows. In the moment it was humorous because the events did not pan out the way he planned and he ran outside after hearing a voice forgetting the slam lock. (He was also lucky enough to have ME and my car close enough to grab him an extra tee-shirt)

This was NOT something he was asked or told to do. In fact, Fitz was instructed NOT to leave his apartment nude. He disobeyed ME and will be dealt with accordingly. HOWEVER... W/we are laughing at it because the situation was funny. Even though he is aware that he will be punished and I doubt that he will ever do anything like it again.

But the reason "events" like this make it on to a sitcom is because it CAN be funny. I'm well aware of the possible consequences for his actions and when he was told NOT to follow ME out, I mentioned quite a few of the same concerns shared here. W/we are still pretty new to each other and making adjustments.

Never-the-less he was very lucky and BECAUSE of that W/we can laugh about it. On MY drive home we discussed the incident and he heard enough could have, would have, should have happened hindsight lectures (especially because I told him to do something and he failed to comply.) But now that the lecture is over... well NOW we can look back at it and laugh.

It DOES NOT mean that the situation wasn't taken seriously... just that there is no point to being mad when you can laugh at the funny incident in which no one was hurt.


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RE: Left him naked on his porch... locked out of his ap... - 9/9/2014 8:38:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FelineRanger

Thank you stef, ExiledTyrant, DarkSteven, CynthiaWVirginia for showing that I'm not completely out of my mind.



For the record, I'm not disagreeing with any of the possible consequences that could have happened. However, there seems to be the idea that Fitz was TOLD/INSTRUCTED/ASKED to do something irresponsible and dangerous. This happened because he didn't listen... hence "the lesson" was a hard one inflicted on himself. That aside, it doesn't change the fact that it was funny.

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RE: Left him naked on his porch... locked out of his ap... - 9/9/2014 8:53:22 PM   
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Exactly. I'm a Dominant and as such, I am responsible for my submissive. I would be a piss-poor Dom if I acted stupidly without considering the consequences of my actions. Not to mention that a D/s relationship is private and involving vanillas in the kink is wrong.
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Which action of MINE do you consider to be piss-poor? I'm curious...

Telling him NOT to walk out naked?
Giving him a shirt out of the truck of my car to cover himself?
Staying around until he was safely in his apartment?
Talking with him afterwards about the seriousness of his actions?
Giggling and laughing while I looked back on the incident?


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RE: Left him naked on his porch... locked out of his ap... - 9/9/2014 9:08:23 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CynthiaWVirginia

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: stef

Maybe next time one of the neighbors will call the cops and he'll get busted for public nudity or lewd & lascivious and have to register as a sex offender.

Won't that be a hoot!


Exactly. I'm a Dominant and as such, I am responsible for my submissive. I would be a piss-poor Dom if I acted stupidly without considering the consequences of my actions. Not to mention that a D/s relationship is private and involving vanillas in the kink is wrong.


This.

If you get a kick out of doing this kind of thing in public, go to a dungeon or play party and keep it indoors and around fellow kinksters...unless there's a very high privacy fence so that you can get safely naked outdoors.

Our MAsT group and at least one of our groups that host play parties started vetting new people by checking the national sex offender registry. If caught and put on that registry, you would be denied membership to any BDSM group that uses that registry as part of their screening process.

I get it. It was an exciting, dangerous, embarrassing, adrenaline filled power exchange moment for the both of you...I understand this. But please don't inflict this on vanillas again.

Something to think about: What if someone's child had seen this? Would you really want THAT on your permanent record...



Not exactly a power exchange moment so much as a power challenge. fitz stepped out of place by doing something he was told NOT to do. It bit him in the ass. But it wasn't some "lets live out this fantasy" moment. I teased him about a key because I told him that he got what he deserved for not listening in the first place. he was scolded until I reached my front door, and I'm pretty sure he's nervous about our next meeting because he in a great deal of trouble with me. BUT... I don't think much would change the humor in the memory of the incident.

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RE: Left him naked on his porch... locked out of his ap... - 9/10/2014 1:27:36 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: SoccerMomBiDay

Which action of MINE do you consider to be piss-poor? I'm curious...

Telling him NOT to walk out naked?
Giving him a shirt out of the truck of my car to cover himself?
Staying around until he was safely in his apartment?
Talking with him afterwards about the seriousness of his actions?
Giggling and laughing while I looked back on the incident?




So the progress of this seems to be, the both of you left your house, got in your car, where you gave him a shirt from the trunk and kicked him out to go to his new apartment? Piss poor actions? I'd say all of it!

I'm somewhat doubting the voracity of this, but if it is real its pretty bloody horrifying! You say somewhere that he "followed you naked" so why at that point didn't you stop the games, tell him to stop being fucking idiot and put some clothes on? When you were in the car, why not go and get him some clothes and tell him to stop being a dick?

Then at the other end to send him to a new apartment where you obviously don't (can't) know who the tenants are, so you couldn't know if there were elderly, mentally infirm, or children going to be around.

So you might be laughing and giggling, but I'm fucking horrified.

ETA Just once I'd like to have a post without an ETA!


< Message edited by AKinkCounselor -- 9/10/2014 1:28:44 AM >


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RE: Left him naked on his porch... locked out of his ap... - 9/10/2014 10:18:44 AM   
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In another universe, not unlike ours, this is probably Mr. Garrison and Mr. Hat trumping up some bidness.

Jus sayin

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RE: Left him naked on his porch... locked out of his ap... - 9/10/2014 1:11:59 PM   
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~FRing it~

Wow, it really is true the old saying about fools and laughing at their own joke

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RE: Left him naked on his porch... locked out of his ap... - 9/16/2014 5:01:42 AM   
SoccerMomBiDay


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Why bother with you at all when you don't even bother to read. Again the sequence of events is wrong. He started followed me out of his apartment and the I told him to put clothes on... he didn't... I was heading to my car to leave... which was parked directly in front of his door. He lives In a brownstone with 2 other tenants. When he got locked out I handed him a shirt from my trunk. And I waited for him to regain entry to his place.

That's it... no more explanation of clear English to idiots who would rather grumble than laugh... not for nothing everyone is in control of their own actions. Even in a D/s relationship. A sub has the ability to not follow what their Domme says. Now I could understand the response if the action was mine... However it wasn't, and just because I can laugh at the incident doesn't mean he won't be paying for it. It just means I won't get the wrinkles and fine lines you end up with because of the continuous grimace you wear for every day life. Shit happens and just because we happen to be into BDSM doesn't mean shit only happens with us. I'm sure vanillas have been caught with their pants down too. This shit makes funny sitcoms for a reason and I doubt the experience was pulled out of thin air. I choose to smile, laugh and not walk around like a sour prick when things don't go as planned. As long as we all learn from it and no one got hurt... why the hell would I choose to be all pissed off and angry. You all can have that. Thanks for being upset for me... lol... so I can laugh about it.


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ORIGINAL: AKinkCounselor

quote:

ORIGINAL: SoccerMomBiDay

Which action of MINE do you consider to be piss-poor? I'm curious...

Telling him NOT to walk out naked?
Giving him a shirt out of the truck of my car to cover himself?
Staying around until he was safely in his apartment?
Talking with him afterwards about the seriousness of his actions?
Giggling and laughing while I looked back on the incident?




So the progress of this seems to be, the both of you left your house, got in your car, where you gave him a shirt from the trunk and kicked him out to go to his new apartment? Piss poor actions? I'd say all of it!

I'm somewhat doubting the voracity of this, but if it is real its pretty bloody horrifying! You say somewhere that he "followed you naked" so why at that point didn't you stop the games, tell him to stop being fucking idiot and put some clothes on? When you were in the car, why not go and get him some clothes and tell him to stop being a dick?

Then at the other end to send him to a new apartment where you obviously don't (can't) know who the tenants are, so you couldn't know if there were elderly, mentally infirm, or children going to be around.

So you might be laughing and giggling, but I'm fucking horrified.

ETA Just once I'd like to have a post without an ETA!



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RE: Left him naked on his porch... locked out of his ap... - 9/18/2014 8:50:01 AM   
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How would this be different if it were totally vanilla? A she and he vanilla couple have hawt sex on the kitchen table and when it is over she needs to go home because she lives there. He begins to follow her out the front door while he is nake(nake being the present tense of naked) she chides him not to be silly and ....
I think all the worry about becoming a "registered perv" might happen on "dragnet or csi" but not the real world.

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RE: Left him naked on his porch... locked out of his ap... - 1/17/2015 4:07:33 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: CynthiaWVirginia

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven


quote:

ORIGINAL: stef

Maybe next time one of the neighbors will call the cops and he'll get busted for public nudity or lewd & lascivious and have to register as a sex offender.

Won't that be a hoot!


Exactly. I'm a Dominant and as such, I am responsible for my submissive. I would be a piss-poor Dom if I acted stupidly without considering the consequences of my actions. Not to mention that a D/s relationship is private and involving vanillas in the kink is wrong.


This.

If you get a kick out of doing this kind of thing in public, go to a dungeon or play party and keep it indoors and around fellow kinksters...unless there's a very high privacy fence so that you can get safely naked outdoors.

Our MAsT group and at least one of our groups that host play parties started vetting new people by checking the national sex offender registry. If caught and put on that registry, you would be denied membership to any BDSM group that uses that registry as part of their screening process.

I get it. It was an exciting, dangerous, embarrassing, adrenaline filled power exchange moment for the both of you...I understand this. But please don't inflict this on vanillas again.

Something to think about: What if someone's child had seen this? Would you really want THAT on your permanent record...


Agreed in my sub/slave days public was a hard limit unless it was somewhere private. Like the woods or on private property out in the county.

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RE: Left him naked on his porch... locked out of his ap... - 1/17/2015 7:31:03 PM   
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Why did you revive this moronic thread?

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