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RE: Being who you are, or are you more than one? - 7/12/2006 6:19:55 PM

wandering4u

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Just myself but showing different aspects. but then there are my syblings. They don't live near by and still think of me as the "wayward child".....Wait, maybe they are correct!

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RE: Being who you are, or are you more than one? - 7/12/2006 6:35:08 PM

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I'm always true to myself and my core values but like everyone else I also wear alot of diffrent hats. At work I'm the person people turn to in a crisis, I have to be very much in command.
And of course the 4 cats that rule the roost*s* They have us trained so well don't they ?*s* after all we're the ones scooping their poop lol.

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RE: Being who you are, or are you more than one? - 7/12/2006 6:56:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

My manager and I HATE that------ what a woos butt, but I'm working on it---its the single Mom, single income achilles heel and boy does she know where it is. ARGH

..I can sooo relate to this!.

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RE: Being who you are, or are you more than one? - 7/12/2006 7:29:38 PM

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I wouldn't say that i am more than one person....but rather a diverse person who adapts easily to the people around her. Unlike NakedOnMyChain, i have never found the one person that i can be 100% of me with. As a result, i have a wide array of friends, each of whom identifies with a part of me.

I do not like the person i am when i have any contact with my ex. I never knew this part of me existed. I had trouble accepting that aspect of myself and would much prefer to keep it buried by having as little to do with him as possible.

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RE: Being who you are, or are you more than one? - 7/12/2006 7:50:33 PM

LiliesDoGrow

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I'm a mean person.

I'm a lot nicer to people than I really wish to be for the most part. Really working on inwardly feeling as accepting towards others as I present outwardly. Maybe that's being untrue to my nature, but I call it being polite.

Never really get an opportunity to be "submissive" whatever that means in regards to my normal every day demeanor and actions. My life situation dictates that I have to be in complete control and exert a dominating stance. I'm quite comfortable in this role in daily living.

There is no person that causes me to change who I basically am. I wouldn't wish to be involved with anyone who would create an enviornment where I wouldn't feel comfortable being myself.

So I guess I'm thinking that I'm only "submissive" in a relationship with someone I love and respect. Other than that, I ain't subordinate to nobody.

What was the question?

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RE: Being who you are, or are you more than one? - 7/13/2006 12:00:20 AM

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My Damn Cat..!!! everybody is a servant to her!

LOL my 10 pound poddle does the same too me....

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RE: Being who you are, or are you more than one? - 7/13/2006 2:52:12 AM

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There is no person that causes a change in me, nor do I get any less Dominant. However my normal state is laid back, quietly confident, calm tone to my voice even when giving direction.

Put me in the middle of a problem that needs dealing with right then and there and I turn into my old colour sergeant. RIGHT, YOU, YOU AND YOU. HERE IS THE PROBLEM, THIS IS WHAT WE ARE DOING ABOUT IT. BY THE NUMBERS. MOVE IT!!!

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RE: Being who you are, or are you more than one? - 7/13/2006 3:28:58 AM

srllile7

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My little family members granted I have none of my own but do live with a couple of my sisters little ladies and I am more dominant with them then even my mom and dad are or my sister. Im submissive in any relationship other then this one with the little family members.
There for a while I was also a different person at work feeling that I needed to be more dominant and have no aspect of my bdsm side if you will while working with battered women. But then I figured some stuff out and now I mesh the 2 happily. I find it easier to be just 1 person the 2 person thing was tearing me apart and I found it impossible to have 2 opposing sides in myself.

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RE: Being who you are, or are you more than one? - 7/13/2006 4:43:19 AM

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For me it is my owners. With them i am a slave, loving, soft, gentle.

With the rest of the world i am 110% biker bitch. I worked with guys, played with the boys, i race with men in the men's class. I tend to command almost every situation i am in, make hard and fast decisions and stick to them.

Only my owners see the me inside.

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RE: Being who you are, or are you more than one? - 7/13/2006 4:44:20 AM

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Well, my normal self is neither dominant nor submissive; I am more likely to just go my own way and if others want to follow, then great; if they don't, then it's no big deal. I have strong opinions about certain things and if others don't like it, then, as my Lord says, I will pick up my toys and go to a sandbox where they are doing things the way I want.

Outside of my relationship with my Lord (and my cats), I am not submissive. He inspires me to submit to him and be his slave. I also submit to my boss, not because he is my boss, but because I have great respect for his knowledge. His path and mine are the same, so I obey him. I have had a boss where our paths were different and many times I did the opposite of what she wanted.

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RE: Being who you are, or are you more than one? - 7/13/2006 5:33:14 AM

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My Dad ...... I become a defensive cold bitch

There are issues I can only hope he will clear on his death bed as he seems to have amnesia in daily life ... A question only he can answer

( okay some of the Dominants here will say I am the above but reactions to random stupidity dont count)

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RE: Being who you are, or are you more than one? - 7/13/2006 7:23:00 AM

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ORIGINAL: yourMissTress

Who is it for you? What trips your trigger sending your normal self to the opposite end of the spectrum?

My parents. I take care of so many things for them. My mother, bless her heart, is emotionally immature. I speak to her as though she were an adolescent and she responds wonderfully. My Dad is pretty lost right now as he is losing his battle with cancer, and I accompany him to the doctors and organize his medical notes, and help him make decisions about his health care. I am managing many things for them now, including making sure their finances are organized so my mom can take over when he passes. They look to me for direction. When I behaved as their "child" rather than their "parent," it was a confusing, miserable mess.

Editing to add: I am submissive only to Master. I stand pretty strong and confident at work, with friends, etc. But it is with my parents that I walk in and take over, and guide and direct. My dynamic with them is really the opposite of my dynamic with Master...although I don't whip them (even though I'd like to sometimes!).

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