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Women who prefer to be called "Master" - 11/15/2014 8:16:01 PM

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Recently my fiance and dominant half has revealed that during our sessions she prefers that I address her as "Master". I always associated that with dominant men but she really enjoys hearing it from me.

I guess I wondering if any other women here have a similar preference that they'd be willing to explain.

RE: Women who prefer to be called "Master" - 11/15/2014 9:19:52 PM

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She doesn't post here any more, but Master Fire Ma'am referred to herself that way. And there's a local-to-me called Master Loriel.

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RE: Women who prefer to be called "Master" - 11/15/2014 11:16:43 PM

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Not a similar preference--the opposite. I insist on being calling Mistress by my sub.
These are my thoughts and reasons, which may or may not be shared by other Dommes.

-- Mistress sounds sexier to me than Master.

-- Mistress is an intimate term that is reserved for my sub. Nobody else is permitted to call me that.
(If I'm casually addressed as such, I don't get offended, just as I wouldn't get offended by being called Ms or Ma'am.)

-- I don't do M/s as Master/slave. My sub is not a slave.

-- To me, Mistress/submissive perfectly reflects the structure of my D/s dynamic. I am his Mistress, but he is not my slave.

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RE: Women who prefer to be called "Master" - 11/16/2014 3:56:13 AM

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I know quite a few women who enjoy being called Master, in the same way that many women prefer to be called an "actor," rather than an actress.

Personally, I prefer to be called "Nookie" until I get intimate with someone, then they and I choose a title that is personal to them, rather than generic.

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RE: Women who prefer to be called "Master" - 11/16/2014 5:29:21 AM

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I know quite a few women who enjoy being called Master, in the same way that many women prefer to be called an "actor," rather than an actress.

Don't know any leather Dominants (just an ex-leather trans slave), but I was once advised by a grand old Dame in my FemDom group that if I were to meet a leather Domme, to make sure to refer to her as a Master and not a Mistress. (Not that I would be calling her that directly)

OP, I don't mind neutered terms such as "chairperson" and "spokesperson," or with adaptations that can be made seamlessly, such as "police officer" instead of policeman, "fire fighter" instead of fireman, "flight attendant" instead of steward/ess, "server" instead of waitress or waiter, "ballet dancer" instead of ballerina, etc. Some alterations would sound awkward. A college freshman can be called a co-ed, but a high school freshman is still a freshman, not a freshperson.

In poetic terms, I like appending the "ess" on poetess and huntress. My cousin was the headmistress of a private school and she & fellow headmistresses did not insist or prefer to be called a headmaster. It's just a matter of personal preference.

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Personally, I prefer to be called "Nookie" until I get intimate with someone, then they and I choose a title that is personal to them, rather than generic.

That's nice to personalize, and I also like to use epithets & pet names with whomever becomes my sub. He gets called quite a few pet names. I try not to recycle them, but there are a couple that are favorites, if you know what I mean.

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RE: Women who prefer to be called "Master" - 11/17/2014 12:33:22 PM

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Not a similar preference--the opposite. I insist on being calling Mistress by my sub.
These are my thoughts and reasons, which may or may not be shared by other Dommes.

-- Mistress sounds sexier to me than Master.

This is one of the reasons why I too prefer Mistress. And I wouldn't want to be called Master any more than I'd want to be called Sir. But I know of at least one domme who uses Master. Perhaps she will be posting here.

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RE: Women who prefer to be called "Master" - 11/17/2014 1:11:45 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: neutralobserver

Recently my fiance and dominant half has revealed that during our sessions she prefers that I address her as "Master". I always associated that with dominant men but she really enjoys hearing it from me.

I guess I wondering if any other women here have a similar preference that they'd be willing to explain.

The next time she is flogging you, call her Mister Bitchface and see what happens. Let us know, okay?

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RE: Women who prefer to be called "Master" - 11/17/2014 1:46:28 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: neutralobserver

Recently my fiance and dominant half has revealed that during our sessions she prefers that I address her as "Master". I always associated that with dominant men but she really enjoys hearing it from me.

I guess I wondering if any other women here have a similar preference that they'd be willing to explain.

This question would be best suited to your dominant. People can give you their opinions and answers, but the only one who can give you a meaningful answer is the one who made the request.

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RE: Women who prefer to be called "Master" - 11/17/2014 3:31:53 PM

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I prefer "Master" over many other options. For me, it has little to do with gender and more to do with personal word associations. "Master," to me, brings to mind "mastery" and "mastering" a skill, myself, etc.. "Mistress," to me, brings to mind professionals and secrets.

I could see preferring "Master" if I liked to feminize my men. I don't, but it makes sense to me.

Your best bet is really to ask HER why she prefers that title. The rest of us are guessing.

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RE: Women who prefer to be called "Master" - 11/18/2014 5:22:26 AM

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That's nice to personalize, and I also like to use epithets & pet names with whomever becomes my sub. He gets called quite a few pet names. I try not to recycle them, but there are a couple that are favorites, if you know what I mean.

LOL! Yes, I do. *smiles*

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RE: Women who prefer to be called "Master" - 11/18/2014 4:04:28 PM

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My boy calls me Daddy, originally at my request, but now because it resonates strongly with him, too.

I'm female, but my role in his life is not a "Mommy" role, at least as I associate with parental titles. I take care of him, protect him, sure, but my personal associations see a mother figure as more coddling, even stifling, trying to keep the child figure (not child, we don't age play) young and dependent. Again, just my personal associations. Whereas the father figure inspires, teaches, pushes him to grow stronger and more self-sufficient.

It's also just waaaaaaay hotter to hear "please fuck me, Daddy" than "please fuck me, Mommy." At least to me.

He does also call me Mistress sometimes, when he's "feeling slavey," and has called me Sir in the past. Of the two, I prefer Sir, but enjoy Mistress as an indication of his mindset at the time. He's never tried Master (outside of World of Warcraft :P ), and I'm not sure how I'd feel about it. It doesn't resonate.

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RE: Women who prefer to be called "Master" - 11/20/2014 8:32:30 AM

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I've known lots and lots of female dominant types who prefer "master".

I prefer it in certain social situations, though outside of those I tend to not. In certain social situations in the BDSM scene not being a "master" means you're not legitimate or worthy of any respect... using "mistress" or any female-assigned "the one in charge" indicates to others that you aren't up to the same status as a "master". In those I sometimes choose to use it because I'm already fighting the issue as a female and it helps to use that phrasing.

Other times just the social situation you are in that's the right word to fit without all the nonsense that can come in other ones so I use it.

But on a day to day I don't use "master".

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RE: Women who prefer to be called "Master" - 12/1/2014 4:11:10 AM

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Technically, I am Master Lady Pact. (Pretentious as hell, isn't it?) Any person who has received their cover gets that designation.

Would your gal happen to be interested in leather?

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RE: Women who prefer to be called "Master" - 12/6/2014 1:13:01 PM

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I thought I was the only one :) I also insist on being called Master. I hold the authority, knowledge and experience of one deserving of such a title. Mistress just doesn't do it for me. I do allow Ma'am in the right context.

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RE: Women who prefer to be called "Master" - 12/6/2014 6:07:46 PM

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Much as one does not go around calling oneself a Doctor without recognized credentials, I tend to see Master as a recognized title. At the lower end of the scale, a Dominant can be recognized as a Master by his slave, and that should suffice, as a bestowed title rather than a self-professed one.

LadyPact has earned her title of Master and is duly recognized as such by the leather community. In fact, I think Master Lady... has a nice ring to it. That way, if or when she is with her husband, he can still be Master Pact and the two won't get mixed up. She is an example of being on the higher end of the scale, because she had to prove her mastery in BDSM techniques and in other areas (ethical standards, conduct becoming a Master, etc.).

Having said that, there are loose and/or flexible "community" standards.
There are self-proclaimed Goddesses and Princesses. Notice, though, that nobody with a lick of sense would proclaim himself a God. Maybe a Lord, but even then, expect there to be a few snickers, and a Dom could get away with this on line in his screen name without too much ridicule.

As for the feminization of terms, would it be seemly to refer to Josephine as Emperor instead of as Empress? No, that would be Napoleon Bonaparte, Impérateur.
The Duke and (lady) Duke of Windsor? Fergie, the Duke of York? Could Princess Di have been anything other than a Princess (or future Queen)?
For comparison purposes: Goddess (God), Empress (Emperor), Princess (Prince), Duchess (Duke), Countess (Count), Baroness (Baron), Marquessa (Marquis) <Earl goes w/Lady, knighted Sir and Dame (as a form of Lady; the French Madame means My Lady, as does the Old Italian Madonna)>

Obviously, there is a difference between an inherited title spoken publicly and that which is spoken in private.

I also favor these over the generic masculine versions: heiress, hostess, patroness, prophetess, protectress, seeress, songstress (actress has already been referred to in another post)
Seamstress could be interchangeable with tailor; heroine or villainess *meh*--and authoress does not have a good ring to it.... Just some random thoughts

< Message edited by FieryOpal -- 12/6/2014 6:14:18 PM >

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