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RE: All I desire... - 11/17/2014 9:19:07 AM   
outthebox


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Status: offline 		I don't understand. Aren't we all here to get some sort of kink fulfilled? I never even so much as implied that I wouldn't do anything in return; I simply stated what I'm after. Apparently this was the wrong board to do that, as it's been pointed out several times that I should have made this topic in the introductions forum. Fair enough. I'm also surprised that some of you are singling out the "Is that too much to ask for?" line, as to me it felt relatively harmless and is usually just meant to imply that one has been trying to reach a certain goal to little/no avail. Oh well. Interesting input!

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RE: All I desire... - 11/17/2014 9:22:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		You're right, you do not understand. A FinDom will fulfill all your kink needs, but on this side we are in or looking for a LTR.

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RE: All I desire... - 11/17/2014 9:23:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		Apparently, I have much to learn. I know not what a FinDom is, nor am I aware of what LTR stands for.

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RE: All I desire... - 11/17/2014 9:28:08 AM   
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Findommes are women who cater to men who want their money to be taken and used to buy the women luxuries. They get off on thinking of her wearing things they don't get to see.

LTR means a long term relationship.

I do suggest you pay a pro domme, not fin, to provide this service for you. Now, there is some risk involved as some diseases can be transmitted through saliva. Usually it's a very low odds, but if you have any immune system disorder, I suggest you discuss the risk with your physician first.

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RE: All I desire... - 11/17/2014 9:29:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		FinDom, pay to play smoking hot babe. LTR, long term relationship with a smoking hot babe, which we have in abundance here.

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RE: All I desire... - 11/17/2014 9:55:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		Thank you, guys. Knowing the acronyms/abbreviations of such terms will help me navigate through the site much more conveniently. Every bit of knowledge helps.

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RE: All I desire... - 11/17/2014 10:47:41 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: UnholyBear

Seems to me that most women don't appreciate being used as a fetish delivery system.


All I want is a woman that wants to be used as a fetish delivery system. Is that too much to ask for?

Sorry, just seemed mildly appropriate to the thread.

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RE: All I desire... - 11/17/2014 10:52:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		OP- slow your roll.

Stop thinking with what is in your pants, and think about WHO she is. No one wants to be someone's "anyone".

Or hire a pro.

Just because a lady is kinky doesn't mean she wants to be used to please you, is going to put out to your every whim, or do the things you see in porn.
If you wouldn't walk into a room full of kinky people in real life and shout out that you like to be spit on, don't do it on here. We're real people. The ladies here are real people with feelings and fetishes. Both aspects of that are important.

Stop using your dick to do your hunting and connect with her on another level first.

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RE: All I desire... - 11/17/2014 2:15:05 PM   
outthebox


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Status: offline 		You're really jumping the gun with a straw man fallacy. And that's untrue -- people DO indeed want to be someone's something, whether it's friend/lover/business partner/whatever. Ultimately, we're all "using" each other in life, but that doesn't mean one's intentions are disrespectful. Human relations are generally shaped by their mutual benefits. I'm currently under the assumption that not everyone here is trying to develop a deep, personal connection with someone(s); some people just want a certain kink satisfied, and are willing to pay for it. Nothing wrong with that. I didn't mention payment in my initial post (was hoping to spark a little curiosity first, rather than the semi-disgust that actually followed), but I also didn't say anything so outlandish that it warrants being accused of thinking solely with my dick/taking advantage of people. The fact that you inferred so much negativity from a simple statement that proposed my desires is honestly fascinating.

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RE: All I desire... - 11/17/2014 2:17:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		I was trying to explain to you why everyone on here- was so short with you, and telling you you had much to learn.

But if you want to pay for it, by all means.

ETA- No one here is going to be your bargain pussy. So yes, you're asking too much.

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RE: All I desire... - 11/17/2014 2:20:26 PM   
littleladybug


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Status: offline 		Ok...the use of the phrase "straw man fallacy" in the same thread as wanting some gal to spit/lick his face...

If I didn't know better, I'd be sure this was some random member of our US Congress....

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RE: All I desire... - 11/17/2014 2:23:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well, fetishes and good vocabularies are not mutually exclusive....

He does have a point now. There apparently is a cover for every pot, unless you are a wok.

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RE: All I desire... - 11/17/2014 2:55:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: littleladybug

Ok...the use of the phrase "straw man fallacy" in the same thread as wanting some gal to spit/lick his face...

If I didn't know better, I'd be sure this was some random member of our US Congress....


Well, is he thinking with his



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RE: All I desire... - 11/17/2014 2:59:09 PM   
littleladybug


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Status: offline 		Now, there's a guy who thinks with his weiner...or is it wiener???

I'm getting an image in my mind of some llama spit coming his way. Is it bad if I'm chuckling at that?

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RE: All I desire... - 11/17/2014 3:02:30 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: outthebox

is a dominating woman to pin me down and lick/spit all over my face while berating me.

Is that too much to ask for?



All a non-kinky guy wants (sexually) is some variety of sticking his penis in a woman's vagina, or getting a blow job, or cumming on her face or tits. He can't expect any woman is going to just say "Sure!" -- and chances are he's probably not as selective as she is. Most women want a connection first. Or romance. Or to be courted. And to be attracted to him.

There are kinky ladies here. Lots of them. But we have our own fetishes. Mine are bondage. Breath control. Desperation. Spitting and drooling on a guy? Not really, no. But I like doing things to a guy that pushes his buttons. So if I was totally nuts over a guy I might consider it. If I felt like he was using me for it, no. If he constantly brought it up, no. If I felt like he only liked me for that, no. If he was creepy about it, no. So that's a lot of layers to get through, and a lot of planets to align. It's not going to happen fast.

First, emails have to exchange, then phone calls, chemistry, photos, coffee, vanilla dates, more chemistry. Normal courtship, just like non kinky people do. Lots of kinky people develop romantic relationships the same as non kinky people do.

You can fast track it by going to kinky parties in your area (google it). Or just go see a professional dominatrix and pay a few hundred dollars and she will do it.

But genuinely kinky women have to have mutual attraction, romance, friendship or lust before they will engage in any sort of power exchange with a random guy.

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RE: All I desire... - 11/17/2014 3:02:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would not seek out a Fin (or Financial Domme) as it seems Financial Donination isn't your fetish. As DarkSteven suggested, try gooing Pro Dommes in your area. I believe there is also a Professional Services section on the forum that may be of use to you. I would actually stay away from anyone who identifies as a Fin Domme as many tend to confuse them with Pro or Professional Dommes.

And I think the reason many people had a less than positive reaction to your initial post was because it was basically the equivalent of going on a message board of a vanilla dating site and saying, "I just want a girl to give me a hand job. Is that too much to ask?" Most women want to be viewed as more than sexual objects. So if you don't intend on seeking out a relationship or an emotional connection I would suggest seeking out a Pro Domme and paying for a session.

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RE: All I desire... - 11/17/2014 5:19:25 PM   
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RE: All I desire... - 11/17/2014 5:56:47 PM   
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RE: All I desire... - 11/17/2014 6:07:32 PM   
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RE: All I desire... - 11/17/2014 6:10:06 PM   
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