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FieryOpal -> RE: hazing new posters (12/11/2014 8:03:35 PM)
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ORIGINAL: cloudboy
(2) What you term hazing I often see as projection. Malesub has an off-kilter kink -- say human toilet or sissy maid service. Women as a general rule (99% or so) hate these kinks and then project that repulsion / intolerance onto the person seeking a partner. Personal advice and criticism offered in posts is actually nothing more than bigotry and intolerance. Frankly, my heart really goes out to others with off-kilter kinks.
(3) Those (M-F) with mainstream interests: impact play, power exchange, and headline BDSM interests fare better.
Actually, sissy maid service is not off-kilter or an off-the-wall fetish. However, for every sissy who wants to dress up as a maid, or go around half-dressed while performing houseboy-maid services with an audience in tow (and then do a lackluster job while doing it because his focus is not on cleaning or performing housekeeping services, it's on gratifying his fetish-kink), there are exponentially more women who don't get into indulging that sort of fetish-kink. The usual question is "Why aren't more women into this?" or "Where can I find a Dominant woman who will [act out my fantasy script for me]...?" Then when those of us who aren't interested inform the OP why or why not, we are giving him our own points of view for his erudition. What happens in the case of sissyCDs is that posters become polarized on sissyCD-dom in itself, which is as much a subjective smokescreen projection of sulky and puerile wishful thinking as any other kind of perceived projection.
If the OP doesn't like the sampling of answers he gets, then why bother asking the question in the first place? We're all adults here. Everybody who posts is posting his or her opinion. Nobody is out to persecute others for their particular kink or fetish. Opinions will vary. Nobody is obligated to embrace anybody else's kink or fetish either for themselves. There are no equal opportunity kinks or equal opportunity fetishes when it comes to our own personal preferences in a partner. Therein lies the difference.
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ORIGINAL: cloudboy
(4) Women fare better than men. I think Hillwilliam actually posted about how men get beat up here much more so than women.
I don't ordinarily see a female poster leading with her kinks & fetishes (unless she states that she is an lg, or has a bisexual-poly orientation, or some other pertinent info), and I've read up on hundreds of threads, and perhaps those OPs who are more receptive to hearing advice will receive a better reception.
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ORIGINAL: cloudboy
(5) One time I conducted an experiment. There was a trainwreck thread in the ASK A MISTRESS FORUM. I thought the OP asked a valid question. I can't recall it now. He was pretty much run out of town. So, I made up female proflle, and posted a mirror question in ASK A MASTER. There was a night and day difference in how that thread went. Now I can't remember the details. In general, men just seem less harsh/incompatible with Femsub interests, whereas women are much less indulgent, patient, etc. (That's how I see it.)
P.S. I understand that women have to deal with a bunch of male creeps, liars, and rude assholes -- to me that's the female cross to bear here on CM, but I don't think that's super true of the CMMB. But I think bearing that cross -- sometimes leads to some overly critical posting.
All these observations might be outdated b/c I've pretty much retreated from all posting except for politics. The scrums there pretty much go in predictable circles.
I wish you could remember the particular topic in question. Content and phraseology does make a difference as well. Also, what Doms are into activity-wise and their priorities are not always alike as with Dommes, and the same goes for male and female subs having their own variances, not to mention S/switches.
Thanks for your personal insights, btw. It would be nice if you would start posting your PoV over here more often again. [:)]
ETA: Roxie, I just saw your posts. CMMB = CollarMe Message Board(s) ... which would be CSMB instead nowadays.
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