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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer
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Seriously, folks, what is the point of all this? I see it over and over again and I honestly don't get it. A newbie turns up and makes what he thinks is a valuable point. As a newbie, he doesn't realise that said point is old hat to us regulars. Not one, not two, but lots of people, turn up to point out his failings, at various levels of 'snide'. Eventually, unsurprisingly, the OP gets angry, at which point people will triumphantly highlight his anger as a personality-failing. Then he'll announce his departure, which will be trumpeted as a 'flounce' and a further personality-failing. I mean, really, what's it all about? Do people find this extremely-oft-repeated pattern entertaining in some way that I can't discern?
For me, the irritating factor was that it was yet more in a long line of 'you might be a man' accusations. This is insulting, it's irritating, it feeds into a whole male paranoia about women's identity that ends up with us having to 'prove' that we're not a man with phone calls, photos, skype conversations, etc. And for what? How, exactly, does this benefit us women? Answer - it doesn't. The whole discourse disempowers us, puts us on the defensive and makes any attempts to maintain distance with new contacts or keep our identity private difficult and fraught with accusations.
The very fact that the OP blew up and stormed off when the exact words of his post were turned into a warning for men proves to me that his post was inherently offensive, he just didn't see the offensiveness of it till it was someone else saying it to him.
I don't normally participate in newbie-baiting, but I found this post offensive and I wanted to challenge it. It wouldn't hurt the OP to have a think about why his post was not appropriate either.
Here is an absolute perfect example of why OP's post was taken apart.
Peon posited a point, an opinion. But more importantly, he didn't offend anyone and has ASKED.
Thus promoting a discussion on his posit and question.
OD came back with reasoned debate and why she felt it was irritating and insulting.
OP did nothing of the sort. He just came in and postulated.
His opening salvo was: "FYI Ladies: If your profile picture is a Meme or a Sex Toy or some guy's ass or a series of porn photos, the first impression the viewer will have is to wonder if you might be a man."
Not so much a comment and not even a veiled question; just an insulting statement of his own opinion as if it was a known true fact. One twoo wayism at its finest.
He then goes on to state: "...However, so you know, memes for photos = "Might Be A Man"."
Dictating much?? That in itself is just plain insulting.
Then, to cap it all, he lectures: "That is all."
Seriously.... WTF??? How fucking RUDE is that??
Who the hell does he think he is??? Stephen Hawking lecturing on Quantum Physics?
It showed the most outrageous sense of bad manners and gobshite asshattery.
Someone of his age should know at least some rudimentary manners and etiquette.
As Rocket said: To charge in, sword at the ready, telling other people how to conduct themselves is rude in any forum - digital or not.
And that is why soo many of us jumped on him.
It wasn't because of him being new, or weird, or uneducated.
That fact that he came in here blustering to everyone of his naivety as if it were a newly discovered fact.
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