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SusanofO -> How common is it to fall in love with a submissive or Dominant (7/14/2006 4:34:41 AM)

Just thought I'd drop this bomb-shell question I've always wondered about before I go take my daily rest.

I truly am not "pushing" here for or against "loving" someone (what I define as deep, deep caring about another person - others may have other definitions), or "justifications" for either opinion-requirement.

I am (really) purely wondering how common it is for people to love their Dominants/Masters and - or submissives-slaves (or not).

- Susan 



Level -> RE: How common is it to fall in love with a submissive or Dominant (7/14/2006 4:39:22 AM)

The only submissive I've had I also loved. It do happen.



subedana -> RE: How common is it to fall in love with a submissive or Dominant (7/14/2006 4:46:04 AM)

I think it may be more common than most people think. After all we're dealing with a lot of basic emotional things.
Not to mention just the trust issues, which is the basis for any relationship.



PrincessH -> RE: How common is it to fall in love with a submissive or Dominant (7/14/2006 4:50:16 AM)

I believe it is nearly impossible for a sub to not fall for her dominant.  I know I have and I have come to expect it... at least on some level.



agirl -> RE: How common is it to fall in love with a submissive or Dominant (7/14/2006 4:52:45 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SusanofO

Just thought I'd drop this bomb-shell question I've always wondered about before I go take my daily rest.

I truly am not "pushing" here for or against "loving" someone (what I define as deep, deep caring about another person - others may have other definitions), or "justifications" for either opinion-requirement.

I am (really) purely wondering how common it is for people to love their Dominants/Masters and - or submissives-slaves (or not).

- Susan 


Hello SusanofO,

I have *deeply caring* feelings for my Master; I respect and adore him.

I have him *Right up there next to Jesus* as one disgruntled dom-hopeful described it.

The dom-hopeful was correct ..... but my Master earned it; he didn't demand or ask for it and doesn't *need* it.

Regards, agirl









FangsNfeet -> RE: How common is it to fall in love with a submissive or Dominant (7/14/2006 5:10:11 AM)

How common is it for someone to fall in love with another who takes them out for drinks, a bite to eat, and a movie every two weeks? One is invited in for coffee, they have sex, and decide to add sex to there status quo of seeing each other. How common is it for people to fall in love with each other who start out with such simple routines?

The same things apply to people participate in BDSM.
Personaly, I wouldn't want someone calling me there master if they didn't love me.
Untill I hear and or say the L word. We're a kinky play partners who are more S&M and less D&S.   



twicehappy -> RE: How common is it to fall in love with a submissive or Dominant (7/14/2006 5:24:55 AM)

The only way i've ever been collared has been to someone i loved. For me it is an absolute requirement. 



yourMissTress -> RE: How common is it to fall in love with a submissive or Dominant (7/14/2006 5:31:31 AM)

I have loved each and every sub that I've had the pleasure of calling Mine.  However, I've never been in love with a submissive until My girl came along.  I fell in love with her almost immediately.



SusanofO -> RE: How common is it to fall in love with a submissive or Dominant (7/14/2006 5:36:23 AM)

Thanks for the replies, folks. I cannot sleep (been having trouble w/that lately so I just got up and read the responses so far). I appreciate the answers. I know it sounds like a silly question, but I really want to know. Thank you.

- Susan



MrrPete -> RE: How common is it to fall in love with a submissive or Dominant (7/14/2006 5:47:16 AM)

I would never collar a woman without loving her. But that's not the question.

I think it's very common.

One of the problems with out language is often we only have one word for something
that has many different facets. We have to add idetifiers: mother's love, brotherly love, plutonic love etc.
Personally, I've never played with anyone that I didn't have some feelings for even if it is just lust. :)



SusanofO -> RE: How common is it to fall in love with a submissive or Dominant (7/14/2006 5:51:36 AM)

My guess is that it is fairly common, too.

Okay. I define "love" as deep, deep caring for another person. I'll delineate that to
describe what I more specifically mean in this instance:

*Hot, erotic sex, as well as more "mellow" sex (that includes, or can include, intercourse), plus (or including) bdsm activity, plus a D/s or M/s relationship, And deep, deep concern and active caring for the partner's welfare.

- Susan



talibahh -> RE: How common is it to fall in love with a submissive or Dominant (7/14/2006 5:55:10 AM)

hello SusanofO,
 
i don't think it's *silly*... its nice to be reading positive *stuff* [;)]  and to see that others have the same kind of experiences/feelings etc.
 
i was going to write a lot here... but i think it's best said simply...
 
i love my Master  [:)]
 
tali



SusanofO -> RE: How common is it to fall in love with a submissive or Dominant (7/14/2006 5:58:50 AM)

Thanks for your reply, Tali.

- Susan



sweetnurseBBW -> RE: How common is it to fall in love with a submissive or Dominant (7/14/2006 6:06:26 AM)

I have been inlove and loved all my Dominants except one. Thats because I found out he was a player the first time I met him.



MrDiscipline44 -> RE: How common is it to fall in love with a submissive or Dominant (7/14/2006 6:58:21 AM)

I would say it happens more often then not. I've had submissives that I didn't love before, it helped me to see their actions for what they were and keeps from drawing out a relationship that should've ended.



CreativeDominant -> RE: How common is it to fall in love with a submissive or Dominant (7/14/2006 7:07:40 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SusanofO

Just thought I'd drop this bomb-shell question I've always wondered about before I go take my daily rest.

I truly am not "pushing" here for or against "loving" someone (what I define as deep, deep caring about another person - others may have other definitions), or "justifications" for either opinion-requirement.

I am (really) purely wondering how common it is for people to love their Dominants/Masters and - or submissives-slaves (or not).

- Susan 


I think it is probably pretty common, especially if it has become a long-term relationship. 

The answers given here by others do a fairly good job of explaining why, especially when taken all together.

When you think of the intricacies of a D/s relationship and the complexity of the feelings engendered within the relationship, it becomes easier to understand.




Caretakr -> RE: How common is it to fall in love with a submissive or Dominant (7/14/2006 7:12:20 AM)

It's to be expected, but we don't all express it the same way.



NyxNymph -> RE: How common is it to fall in love with a submissive or Dominant (7/14/2006 7:23:35 AM)

I wouldn't take or give a collar unless on some level I loved the person.. I realized I loved my Man about 2 days before BDSM started filtering in, that was the only way it was going to happen, before I'd drop everything I had to be sure there was mutual love, respect and caring



juliaoceania -> RE: How common is it to fall in love with a submissive or Dominant (7/14/2006 7:44:19 AM)

I loved my first dominant, and I have already become attached to Sinergy even though we have been seeing each other a couple of months. I do not get excited over a dom that I do not think I could fall for in a big way or see a future with because Ds is a lovestyle to me. People look for differing things in their interactions though.



popeye1250 -> RE: How common is it to fall in love with a submissive or Dominant (7/14/2006 7:46:07 AM)

Of course it happens. I'd like it to happen  too.
I like the feeling of owning a sub and of protecting and rewarding her as well.
And of course sex and bondage are much better when a sub and a Dominant care about each other deeply!
I believe in love at first sight but most of the time love takes it's own sweet time.
I like reading about all the Doms and subs in here who are committed to each other and in love and I want that for myself too, that's why I'm in this site.
I like cooking for my sub as a way of "caring" for and "protecting" her. I like being able to provide her with a nice place to live for the same reasons.
And I like having her on my arm in public as a way of showing that I own her.
I'm a very good cook too!



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