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orgasmdenial12 -> RE: The Punishment Dynamic (2/25/2015 10:30:17 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Greta75
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ORIGINAL: orgasmdenial12
I am sure you understand that many vanilla people see 'rules' and permission as being treated like a child and not a full grown woman and yet, we know different, right?
Actually, I do see it as people having the fetish of being treated as a child. They enjoy it.
You see submission as 'being treated as a child'?
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ORIGINAL: Greta75
Looking to be with someone you feel constant fear and anxiety from.
No, you misunderstand. Fearing someone and feeling 'constant fear' is not the same thing. I fear falling off a cliff, so I stay away from cliff edges. I do not 'feel constant fear and anxiety' about falling off a cliff because I take sensible precautions against it. Likewise, I fear punishment, but punishment is very rare and is always deserved, so I do not 'feel constant fear and anxiety' about it because I take sensible precautions to avoid it.
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ORIGINAL: Greta75
I never saw this as part of BDSM. I never associated Fear or distress with BDSM, I associate that with real abuse. I always saw it as utter trust in someone to be into bdsm, you trust him so much that you allow him to do all that seemingly "nasty" and "dangerous" and "painful" things. But never fear. As the only reason why you trust him to do all that to you is because you know deep down he will never truly hurt you.
If you don't understand that BDSM can involve pain, suffering and fear then you don't understand BDSM.
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