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SarahCandy -> Masters asking for gifts (3/20/2015 8:32:53 PM)

Has anyone had any experiences with a Master or Dom offering to take you in as a slave and offering plastic surgery but then asking you to send them high tech laptops, smart phones, and tablets and telling you what clothing and toys to bring when you come to where they live on your own dime?



shiftyw -> RE: Maters asking for gifts (3/20/2015 8:37:02 PM)

Don't do it. That has catfish written all over it.



SarahCandy -> RE: Maters asking for gifts (3/20/2015 8:42:58 PM)

"Catfish?" "School?"



shiftyw -> RE: Maters asking for gifts (3/20/2015 8:45:42 PM)

Ok. Catfish means a fake- using you for those gifts. look up the movie catfish and TV show.

That thing under the line is a signature- it's sorta a joke that shows up on all my posts.



sexyred1 -> RE: Maters asking for gifts (3/20/2015 11:08:50 PM)

Nope, never had your experience OP.

Could be because I don't need plastic surgery and don't fall for Internet bullshit.



DesFIP -> RE: Maters asking for gifts (3/21/2015 7:42:52 PM)

Considering you're demanding he pays tens of thousands of dollars to change you into the image that you desire, not him, it seems only fair that he gets to ask for something in return.

Put yourself through whatever surgery you want, don't treat strange men as cash cows if you want a real relationship.



Apocalypso -> RE: Maters asking for gifts (3/21/2015 8:48:27 PM)

I will answer this post for the price of a coffee. A large coffee. I'm not cheap.



FrankAr -> RE: Masters asking for gifts (3/21/2015 8:50:09 PM)


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ORIGINAL: SarahCandy

Has anyone had any experiences with a Master or Dom offering to take you in as a slave and offering plastic surgery but then asking you to send them high tech laptops, smart phones, and tablets and telling you what clothing and toys to bring when you come to where they live on your own dime?


Greetings sarah,

Have the surgery before you move in. The main question would be...what type of surgery ? For the equipment it might be logical. For instance if the female had four dildos and a whip and a cane and a paddle, would I say no to her bringing them into the house where she would soon be living, and thus not having me to buy them, simple.

Do not really know what type of communication you have had with the Master and your replies to the communication. If he can't afford the laptop or other devices then how can he afford to handle a slave in a financial type of relationship. I myself would have to pay for everything and if the female slave worked then her pay would go into an account just for her and her life after me if I died, simple, but we would only live on my wage.

Just my two cents.

Frank Ar.



Kana -> RE: Masters asking for gifts (3/22/2015 8:05:02 AM)

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Considering you're demanding he pays tens of thousands of dollars to change you into the image that you desire, not him, it seems only fair that he gets to ask for something in return.

Errr, isn't it generally implied that payment in these sorts of exchanges will be made in the biblical fashion



devilette59 -> RE: Masters asking for gifts (3/22/2015 8:15:42 AM)

I don't know what post you read DesFIP but the one I read stated that the "dom" offered. I did not read where she demanded.

I had one Dom tell me that if I became his he wanted me to have breast augmentation to make me "well tittied". However, he did not ask me for gifts or to pay my own expenses to come and visit him. While I am sure he thought his offer kind and something I would find highly desirable, such was not the case. I have no desire to, and will not, have any such surgery. I like mine just the way they are and if I am not what a man is looking for, he needs to move on and find what he is looking for. I have plenty of others who like me just the way I am.

I agree with the catfish comment. This man is just baiting you to get you to send him gifts. I often buy gifts for my play partner and enjoy treating him to dinner, but if and when I do so, is my choosing. He never asks for anything and gives me much in return - not gifts because that is not what I want - but definitely that which I desire and want.



SarahCandy -> RE: Maters asking for gifts (3/22/2015 3:33:31 PM)

YOur perspective seems lopsided. Look, as part of my profile, I offered anyone a simple relationship, symbiosis. If they want to make the woman of their dreams, own the woman of their dreams, and have the woman of their dreams serve them in all way as part of an LTR, then I would do that. The human body can be changed to look like anything wanted. Human movement and behavior can be shaped through bondage and training to be like anything wanted. It seems like a fair trade. A master gets a sexual object and nearly perfect slave in exchange for making that slave beautiful enough to enjoy and excel in service. Call it an investment. The problems is these days so many phony masters want the finished product and one night stands. As well, so many phony slaves think that they can move on if they do not like the situation. The total power exchange has often been lost. So many phony masters and slaves do not even have a clear philosophy, psychology, sociology, and/or theology of how BDSM is the most natural way to live or a most natural part of life. How about this? "It is a law of nature and revelation that anything enjoyed in life requires effort, labor, pain, and/or suffering. If you are not paying for your fun, someone else is. It is wrong to have others pay for your fun, but you must, as a matter of individual responsibility, give something of near equal value in return. All contracts and covenants are only valid if entered into voluntarily, including agreement as to any way in which or through which they are limited in being modifiable." When we are talking about a person giving up their ability to procreate and dedicating their life to another, that often is a covenant for which in some way they are compensated. In my case, I want to be the beautiful woman (bimbo sex slave type in tight shiny and heels) of their dreams in addition to being loved from their heart for being their slave and for what I do for them. My opinions a thoroughly scientific and based on classic observation. They are also very American, and a slap in the face to De Sade, Moh...Mach...Hobb...Reaou, Nei..." So, I am going to send the gifts that he wanted, but I am sending them as a matter of my thankfulness for his giving me hope, even if for a short time. I do not believe that he will keep his word for our relationship, would be very happy if he does keep his word about us, and choose to forgive him if he is not true as eventually doing such harm to other will catch up with him. For now though, I remain hopeful. That is who I am. Even as a slave, I am powerful in making a master's life more bearable and even enjoyable.



SarahCandy -> RE: Masters asking for gifts (3/22/2015 3:37:06 PM)

He made first contact because he said he believes I have the will to be completely transitioned, live the lifestyle, and will keep my word.



SarahCandy -> RE: Masters asking for gifts (3/22/2015 3:40:19 PM)

With a respect for cultures, I believe he may be asking for the exchange of gifts to mark the agreement. However, he has not stated such, but rather based it on the sentiment of the exchange. I am just not sure. So, the gift is being sent.



JVoV -> RE: Masters asking for gifts (3/22/2015 3:55:35 PM)

If it is within your budget to offer these gifts, and you enjoy doing so, without expecting anything more, I see no issue.

I would be careful about future demands from him or similar profiles though. Unless a true relationship is built.



Gauge -> RE: Masters asking for gifts (3/22/2015 7:54:10 PM)


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ORIGINAL: SarahCandy

Has anyone had any experiences with a Master or Dom offering to take you in as a slave and offering plastic surgery but then asking you to send them high tech laptops, smart phones, and tablets and telling you what clothing and toys to bring when you come to where they live on your own dime?


So, they promise to give you plastic surgery, and then they ask you to send them laptops, smartphones and tablets? Do you always send gifts to people that promise you something without a guarantee of delivery on said promise?

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So, I am going to send the gifts that he wanted, but I am sending them as a matter of my thankfulness for his giving me hope, even if for a short time. I do not believe that he will keep his word for our relationship, would be very happy if he does keep his word about us, and choose to forgive him if he is not true as eventually doing such harm to other will catch up with him. For now though, I remain hopeful. That is who I am. Even as a slave, I am powerful in making a master's life more bearable and even enjoyable.


Rock on.

Look, I'm not going to put you down if this makes you happy, but I will tell you that your brand of servitude is expensive and you can get taken advantage of easily, if that already hasn't happened. Hell, I can give you hope for free. Free I tell you.

You seem to have a good and decent heart albeit a bit misguided in practical things. All you have to do is be patient and not fall for everyone that gives you a song and dance. Go get involved in your local scene, find a munch, go to events, hang around here, whatever you must do to figure out what it is you want from a partner. At least you would get some experience in things because, frankly, you sound new to this... that is a blatant assumption on my part and I admit that I could be way off base by saying it, but it is the impression you give. If you do that, you might find someone that fits what you are looking for and you won't have to send them what amounts to tribute. There are plenty of guys that would love to meet someone like you that has a servant's heart.

Please, think it over.



UnholyBear -> RE: Masters asking for gifts (3/22/2015 8:01:41 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: SarahCandy

He made first contact because he said he believes I have the will to be completely transitioned, live the lifestyle, and will keep my word.



In the end, will the price be worth it?

just sayin



SarahCandy -> RE: Masters asking for gifts (3/22/2015 8:14:05 PM)

I owe you and the person who made the catfish comment thanks. Thank you both. I am going to take your advice and proceed with caution in more than simply the gift giving, including the standard old school alphabet soup protocols, just to see if he is true to his word. When I go to his country to meet him, if he is not true, I can discard everything, and will only be a short distance away from another location where I can pick up a contracting job easily. After all, I have skills. I was simply trying to figure this out, and to see if such gift requesting has ever been seen through CS. His culture is modern and from the middle east. In the socio-economic class and traditional culture where I came from, New England, making requests like such is considered out of hand, but for all I know it could be the basis for a relationship where he comes from. More over, in the two ethnic cultures that I adopted when I was training and then dominatrixing, Korea and Japan in respective order, senior and junior relationships were filled with gift giving, some sincere, some for appearances, and some for both. These days it is so difficult to see if other have honor. Chingu ya. Dashi Komapsumnida. I will post again upon things playing out.



shiftyw -> RE: Masters asking for gifts (3/22/2015 8:27:37 PM)

Here are a couple of stories:

My aunt. She flew from NH to Miami. After a year and a half where she didn't date anyone else cause she thought this man was the one. She met him, but they didn't click and the relationship didn't work out.
My aunt being silly- did this again- only with a man in CA- she met him too. He was married and just liked the attention she gave him online.
My co-worker- met a man from Nigeria- who was at the time living in paris- before she met him, she got his name tattooed on her ass. She flew, on her own dime to paris, he proposed! YAY right? He was supposed to move to the states 2 years ago. He is still in Paris, no visa, or greencard, and she's only seen her fiance one time.

I hope that he is real and these are not false promises- but do proceed with caution.



JVoV -> RE: Masters asking for gifts (3/22/2015 8:30:54 PM)

I'd be more concerned about travelling to the Middle East than sending a gift.



Gauge -> RE: Masters asking for gifts (3/22/2015 8:36:15 PM)


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ORIGINAL: JVoV

I'd be more concerned about travelling to the Middle East than sending a gift.



Thank you. You beat me to it.

This is totally a red flag and I would really have a good think as to why you cannot find someone from your own country. Not saying not to go, but you need to proceed very, very carefully, because you will be in another country, knowing exactly no one, and if you cannot see how risky that is, I don't know what else to say.



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