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Trans slave seeking new home with a F domme/or dominant... - 5/1/2015 5:42:40 PM   
dannisub


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Status: offline 		Hi everyone.

This is kinder my first genuine attempt on these forums dispite being here 6 years. I guess ive never found much love on these things, especially where trolls and unwanted comments are made. So please take it easy with me. just a lonely slave seeking a new start. :)

Ive been searching for many years now, and for the most part, found very little.
I used to be in the scene persay for 3 half years, where i founded and hosted a local under35's munch. Unfortunately like everything, i received transphobia, and general discrimination within the d/s community, and felt that my efforts were worth going elsewhere, to find friendship, and a possible d/s relationship. An experience i dont wish to go through ever again.
In many respects, my circumstances, arent unique, but very common for those who are trans. A situation where bullying is out of control, and being able to work and live life is very much impossible around where i live. for the past few years, depression and stress has left me house bound, feeling hopeless about life, and being unable to spread my wings and be who i should be. As you may imagine, ive had somewhat of a rough ride, but here seeking closure and a fresh new start.
I guess this is where my AD comes in.

Im not seeking for judgement or sympathy, but to merely look at me as an opportunity for a fresh start in life, to blossom with time, and become someone's love and joy, not just within a relationship, but in a very intensive bdsm dynamic.

So what am i here for? well. Im here searching to find a dominant individual who can take me under his/her wing, giving me the opportunity to eventually relocate somewhere within the UK, to essentially establish a relationship dynamic with, but also for me to find work, and move on from the bullying i have at present.
I have a very deep longing for slavery and everything bondage, submission, pain and pleasure. all the way through to providing for, serving and satisfying someone whom would be my owner.
I consider myself a lifestyler, than anything bedroom related, so i would be seeking for a 24/7 arrangement, and a contract, that would decline me further within the bdsm lifestyle, to deeper darker areas. I would be interested in a TPE arrangement too, albeit, me having control over my finances.

In the ideal situation, i'd love to find myself a gorgeous strict dominant female, i can fall in love with, or not depending on the bdsm dynamic, but to serve, satisfy and live a full on bdsm lifestyle with. Im open to finding a female lead couples, and possibly a male dominant if the bdsm was indepth enough.
I identify myself as a lesbian, although i do have a deep craving tendency of loving cock, hense my thoughts upon a male.

I would write more, but if anyone is interested in me at all, dispite the somber depressing content. Please please take your time to visit my profiles. theres more information on there about me, and what i can provide, and seek for.

(BDSM orientated) collarspace:
http://www.collarspace.com/personals/v/967237/details.htm
(Vanilla orientated (interests/ hobbies etc) Okcupid:
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Danni_xx (find user is known not to pick my profile up) Danni_xx

If anyone wants to know more about me, please send me a Pm. thank you lots.
Slave D.
xxxx
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RE: Trans slave seeking new home with a F domme/or domi... - 5/2/2015 10:39:10 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Hi, Danni. I talked with you on another site.

Nice intro and profile.

Welcome!

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: Trans slave seeking new home with a F domme/or domi... - 5/2/2015 1:38:46 PM   
dannisub


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Status: offline 		Hey Seven.
Which site?

hehe. its an awful intro. but the girl has got to do what a girl has got to do. :(

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RE: Trans slave seeking new home with a F domme/or domi... - 5/2/2015 1:49:38 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Fet. I believe you posted something in a collarspace-related forum there.

Hey, when I compliment you on your intro and you say it's awful, I lose credibility on the Internet! We don't want that.

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"You women....

The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: Trans slave seeking new home with a F domme/or domi... - 5/2/2015 1:57:20 PM   
dannisub


Posts: 8
Joined: 1/11/2005
Status: offline 		Ah. Im no longer on fet because of the bullying. Just on collarspace and okcupid now.
Noooo. I meant awful in that my intro is depressing. not your message hehe.
I know i wont get any luck here since ive been looking for far too long to know that. I got to try though right. :)

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RE: Trans slave seeking new home with a F domme/or domi... - 5/5/2015 8:17:51 PM   
DarkSteven


Posts: 28072
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Status: offline 		Why? The resident bunny, Bunnicula, says that it took her eight years to find her match. I was in the lifestyle about ten years when I met Tasha. You can get a toaster immediately but partners take longer.

Best of luck in your hunt!

_____________________________

"You women....

The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: Trans slave seeking new home with a F domme/or domi... - 5/5/2015 9:34:34 PM   
dannisub


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Status: offline 		you can get a toaster but partners take longer. hahah... like it.

tbh when i used to go to munches, people used to grab relationships so quickly. i was the one just thinking jees. im the only one not getting interest. hehe.

so i got to wait another 2-4 years then. pft....
I guess, the difference is that during that time i can only presume you explored with people to find your "one". Unfortunately for me, in the 6 years seeking ive had no-one. so i dont have the luxury of finding the right person, else ill die single. hehe. The person i find has to be it for me. It has to work, and for me to relocate and get on my 2 feet with work and living etc. so im happy to get to know someone and take its time online,
It just frustrates me that everyone is into fantasist 1 night stand type stuff, and its hard to find a group thats genuinely seeking. all the sites are the same in that respect.

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RE: Trans slave seeking new home with a F domme/or domi... - 5/5/2015 11:36:01 PM   
dreamlady


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quote:

ORIGINAL: dannisub

tbh when i used to go to munches, people used to grab relationships so quickly. i was the one just thinking jees. im the only one not getting interest. hehe.

so i got to wait another 2-4 years then. pft....
I guess, the difference is that during that time i can only presume you explored with people to find your "one". Unfortunately for me, in the 6 years seeking ive had no-one. so i dont have the luxury of finding the right person, else ill die single. hehe. . . .

It just frustrates me that everyone is into fantasist 1 night stand type stuff, and its hard to find a group thats genuinely seeking. all the sites are the same in that respect.

danni, it's good that you're selective and don't try to latch onto just anybody who comes along who shows you interest. I was once in my mid20's also, and I had girlfriends who were never without a steady boyfriend or else dating a roster of different guys every weekend. Five to ten years later, they were going through messy divorces and having to deal with uninvolved deadbeat dads. Granted, that could happen to anybody, but neither did they see the many red flags along the way.

The longer you stay celibate, the more you start to feel that you don't want to throw your vigilant time away on an unworthy or unappreciative partner, or merely settle for a casual hook-up. I'm speaking for myself, hon, since I've gone as long as 2-3 years at a stretch between partners a couple of times (this last time was for over a year), but I found the longer I waited for Mr. Right to appear and held out, the harder it was for me to give a man a chance with me. I didn't want Mr. Right Now. You are seeking a Mistress or a FemDom couple for 24/7 TPE slavery. May I suggest that rather than putting all your eggs in one basket for the "ideal" fit (I know, I know, it's not easy to "settle" for less than what you truly want), that you give yourself permission to safely experiment a bit? At your young age, the world is still your oyster, and you seem like a good-hearted, lovely person.

On a personal note, the man I'm letting into my life presently, I had originally told that he would make a suitable Mr. Right Now, but that based on other factors, he wasn't Mr. Right (and I gave him 3 good reasons why). He graciously accepted the brush off, but then proffered -- Why not let him be Mr. Right Now? Life is too short with no guarantees that either one of us had another day to live without taking a shot at finding happiness, and that after 12 years (on & off) of searching for the "Right" Domme to become his Mistress, he was convinced that I was the Right One for him. Now, I didn't relent right away, but damned if I didn't find his upbeat attitude every single day a breath of fresh air to look forward to. Later I decided that there was nothing wrong for us to be a comfort to one another, seeing the depth of his sincerity and of his own convictions.

Btw, welcome to the club. Life is crawling with shallow, commitment-phobic one-night stand fantasists. You'll always get your fair share of that lot of curiosity-seekers by being trans, but it can happen to any of us who are fetishist magnets in one way or another. Take a deep breath and shake it off, surround yourself with positive energy whenever and however possible. Ms. Right Now could turn out to be Ms. Right or the right couple for you to become involved with, you just never know.

DreamLady

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RE: Trans slave seeking new home with a F domme/or domi... - 5/6/2015 12:16:32 AM   
dannisub


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Status: offline 		Hi dreamLady.
thank you for such a lovely message. i understand where your coming from with experimenting and letting things just go with the flow.
I really kinder wish i could do that without much conviction of other factors. I know im into bdsm as a lifestyler, since its always on my mind and selfbondage is just normal to me. You deep longing to serve someone, and explore a relationship within such a dynamic, feels so potent to me. having said that, its true that i have little experience in not having those opportunities to explore areas of bdsm, even straight vanilla relationships. My trans side kinder ruined my chances of gaining a relationship early on, being worried about it etc. given that i came out 7 or so years ago, my early teen secret of bondage, grew to a point where i couldnt not hide it, and ignore it anymore. i realised that my longign for bdsm meant that i was heading towards slavery in all manners of the term.
so of course, if i ever find anyone that there will be alot of experimenting and discovery, over limits, likes, dislikes etc.
the factor is that bdsm concerns trust, loyalty and care, and you cant get that from a 1 night stand. you may say well. avoid the bdsm, but thats the thing. my sex is bdsm. I cannot do sex and be turned on in the vanilla aspect. to me its about bondage sex, and everything kinky.

the biggest issue for me is my circumstances. I currently live in a situation where im unable to work because of bullying and feeling unsafe. People tell me all the time. then move. move away. Its easy said han done. you have to have money to move. you have to have a job to maintain a place you move too. why not benefits then? i say well sure but you cant simply have benfits and not seek work because of how scroungers have changed the system in regards to policy. Ive tried everything from internet jobs to tryign to find a small hobby to earn money from. Im just at a loss. so effectively my life is on hold right now. Im unable to gain hormones privately because it involes lots of money. i cant get out and about to the bigger play events, and having transport to find a regional job.

so to roll all these things together, my only real hope i have in moving on, is to try and find someone online i can get to know online. take it slowly, which means meeting eventually, and having that opportunity to relocate, elsewhere, so i can find work, to not only cover my keep but to finally fund my treatment and lifestyle. talking of lifestyle, to enter a d/s dynamic along with it. Only then will my life unravel ticking off all those issues and problems, and finally living a life i can b proud of and happy for.
Having said that, i understand that those 1% who are genuinely seeking relationships online, have set boundaries, and having a trans girl with no money seems like a risk to them. albeit in the 6 years ive searched. ive never once spoke to someone down to earth and realistic. Its all been fantasists speeking to you like a piece of shit, and tryign to con you into paying out money.
I even went that extra mile to found and host my own under35's munch group, that i ran for 3 half years, but when it finally got successful, and numbers became healthy. i started to recieve hate from unknown reasons, which turned out to be transphobic individuals who wanted control over it. In turn i fell victim of their lies, which soon caught hold towards those i never spoke to or met. so i went as far to try and find friends by starting my own munch, but instead of that, i got the opposite. Its at that point i realised that the bdsm community isnt what its shaped up to be in being open minded and friendly to all. I learnt the hard way.

so the moral of all this is that, ive tried my best to get on my 2 feet in multiple areas of my life, but just received hate and badness in return. they say what knock you down makes you stronger, but thats anythign but the truth. it just puts you in a dark place in life. and thats where this Ad amongst having my profile on the net to hopefully find my owner, so i can finally move on and be who iam and enjoy life.
xxx

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