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rcpwookie -> Ky submissive male looking for Ebony Goddess. (5/17/2015 1:46:16 PM)

Hello lovely Dominant Ladies. At the advice of others this post will concentrate on the vanilla aspect of my personality. I hope it leads to further communication in which we will discuss the kink we both like later. This is the bottom half of my profile paragraphs, FYI.

*OUTSIDE THE SCENE:
(Although my mind is never really out of the scene, lol)
*Love movies: action, comedy, sci-fi, horror. Every once in awhile a chick flick or drama will catch me. I go from John Wayne to Robin Williams to Hugh Jackman to Scarllett Johanson to Angelina Jolie to Melissa McCarthy.
*Am an ex jock in high school and college; FB, BB, and track. Love watching college FB; love March Madness. Keep up with Bengals and Reds. And the Cats.
*Have a VERY sarcastic, fairly quick sense of humor. If I'm not picking on you, you've lost my interest. Richard Pryor, Don Rickells my comedy idols. Bill Cosby, Robin Williams, Sam Kinnison too.
*Mixed with the sarcasm, though, is a poet from time to time.
*Also an animal lover. Love dogs, hate cats. Kittens get a pass till they grow up however.
*Like barhopping and dancing from time to time. This white boy CAN dance pretty decent if I do say so myself.
*Love amusement parks and roller coasters. HATE rides that spin!
*Love Halloween and haunted houses. I decorate my front yard for all Oct.
*HATE petty bullshit and drama. Went to high school once and hated the drama then, have no tolerance for it as an adult. Dishonesty disgusts me.
*Believe total, absolute honest communication is the key to ANY relationship, but even more so in The Scene.
Thank you for your time.



rcpwookie -> RE: Ky submissive male looking for Ebony Goddess. (5/17/2015 5:50:32 PM)

OK Ladies, Here is the Kinky list:

SCENE-WISE:
*Am submissive to very strong dominant women. Would not consider myself a slave, though, as I'm still an alpha male in the "real world."
*LOVE women in tight leather and high heeled leather boots! Tight sexy clothes and heels of any sort will do though.
*Love a women that likes to flirt and seduce. Sexiness is more mental than physical any day. Love a woman that knows that and uses it to her advantage. Whole heartedly believe any strong woman can seduce any man she wants any time she wants.
*After much consideration, though, I must qualify myself as a switch, as I love playing a woman's body like a fiddle from time to time.
*LOVE bondage in both directions. Love being tied up and helpless, and at the mercy (or not, lol) of a wicked domme.
*Am NOT a pain slut, but will accept some if you tie me up first. Not into enduring pain without the bondage.
*Am looking for an eventual femdom relationship, but am willing to play some while searching.
*Am looking for an eventual emotional connection to go with the kink.



Moderator3 -> RE: Ky submissive male looking for Ebony Goddess. (5/17/2015 6:07:40 PM)

Please hold off on any response you all may want to make. I will give this a few minutes before I move the thread.

EDIT: Actually I have changed my mind. It will be easier to leave it here where it is almost on topic and give you all permission to respond in any manner you feel like responding in based on the posts. Normally this section is an area where everyone is expected to be nice, welcoming and not critique the post or poster.

You have the freedom to respond to this thread.



dreamlady -> RE: Ky submissive male looking for Ebony Goddess. (5/17/2015 6:59:59 PM)

This is what I wrote earlier in the day before your original post (OP) was changed, and it primarily applies to your topic title. I can't remember how much of it you revised, but both your posts here cover what's already contained in your profile. You actually toned things down to not come across as overly fetishy, but perhaps someone else can benefit from what I couldn't post earlier?
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Welcome back, and better luck this go round. I've also taken a hiatus from this site here and there over the years. It's good of you to indicate in your profile that you have some switch tendencies, to put it out there and not try to hide that aspect of yourself.

Please take this as a constructive comment and not as criticism. You are certainly entitled to own your fetishes. However, when it comes to Dominant ladies, we tend to not like being sexually objectified or defined by a sub's fetish(es). Why? Other than the glaringly obvious and objectionable objectification part, fetishists are essentially saying that any woman fitting the bill, will do. This is depersonalizing and doesn't treat a Domme (or any other person) as an individual.

I know many women of color who are turned off by men with ethno-racial fetishes. I happen to be one of them. If a man comes to me saying that he has an Asian female fetish and/or mistakes me for a Latina or some other ethnic group, he can talk to the hand. If he says he prefers exotic women, then I won't hold that against him. Do you see the distinction?

There are African-American Dommes who do not want to be referred to as an "Ebony Goddess," whether they are relationship-oriented or not (which you say that you are). In fact, I had a sub contact me who kept going on and on about "ebony" this and "ebony" that. I replied only to bring it to his attention that I am not black. His reasoning was that the "Other" category meant I must be an Ebony Goddess for his unworthy self to worship. [8|]

I'm not saying that there aren't Ladies who don't prefer having a "white boy" sub, but by focusing on this or other racial characteristics at the forefront of your search, you and others are declaring loud and clear that unalterable external features and outward appearances are your highest priority to the exclusion of all else, and it can make you appear to be shallow, indiscriminate, and overly slutty -- and there is already a glut of those kinds of males everywhere. Not an prudent selling point given the scarcity of what you seek.

Just sayin'

DreamLady



rcpwookie -> RE: Ky submissive male looking for Ebony Goddess. (5/17/2015 7:13:12 PM)

Thank You DreamLady for your polite response. My intent is not to offend anyone, but to simply find what I am looking for. While I will consider any Domme that is interested in what I have to offer, I have simply been highly attracted to black women since I attended a black school system from K to 7th grade. Obviously if my verbage does offend someone, then they are not what I am looking for.
I am VERY respectful of all women at all times. Also, I attempted to make it very clear that I am looking for an emotional connection, not just kinky. The two do go hand in hand imo if communication occurs. Thank You again



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