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Is it normal for a switch to get zero CS emails ever? - 6/6/2015 4:06:17 PM   
WildlifeSensitiv


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Status: offline 		I think it must be probably normal, but just in case it's not, I wanted to know if it's normal that you get zero CS emails over a period of more than a year?
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RE: Is it normal for a switch to get zero CS emails ever? - 6/6/2015 4:24:11 PM   
RockaRolla


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Status: offline 		It's not uncommon for mail to slow to a trickle once you fall off the new users list after two weeks.

But none at all? Chalk it up to being male, and possibly inactive. Being a switch might play into it, but not to the extent that you think.

You have 3 forum posts so far. Have you been actively seeking, or letting people come to you? If it's the latter, you're going to be out of luck. The general expectation of this site (and other personals sites) is that guys do the chasing. Women are in higher demand, and are able to be picky. The same is true in real life. It may not be fair, but that's the way it goes.

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RE: Is it normal for a switch to get zero CS emails ever? - 6/6/2015 4:40:04 PM   
Snitch


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Status: offline 		I didn't look at the profile but it might be normal to get 0 mails in a day and maybe as long as a week but you would never go longer than that without someone catching wind of you with a basic 5 or 10 mile radius search.

Do you live in the middle of nowhere?

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RE: Is it normal for a switch to get zero CS emails ever? - 6/7/2015 2:06:47 AM   
fetishandpain


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Status: offline 		I believe is because of being a male...

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RE: Is it normal for a switch to get zero CS emails ever? - 6/8/2015 12:28:57 PM   
WinsomeDefiance


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Status: offline 		It is probably several factors any of which would put you off the radar of certain demographics.

I've heard a lot of female s-types express quite adamantly that they are not the least bit interested in male switches.

In general, albeit a consistent generality, women on these sites don't do the initial contacting of men. I've contacted guys initially, but I gather I'm an odd bird from what I hear.

You are 60+ which could easily take you out of the preference ranges for those seeking under 60.

Generally speaking, again, men tend to not get as much mail as women.

Age, gender and orientation aren't stacking things in your favor; so you have to be on the more proactive bent. You can passively wait around for someone to contact you, but from your post that doesn't seem to be working for you.

Best of luck.



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RE: Is it normal for a switch to get zero CS emails ever? - 6/8/2015 6:50:52 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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ORIGINAL: WildlifeSensitiv

I think it must be probably normal, but just in case it's not, I wanted to know if it's normal that you get zero CS emails over a period of more than a year?


Extremely....yes.

Become a Domme.

I run a service for them.

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RE: Is it normal for a switch to get zero CS emails ever? - 6/8/2015 7:04:01 PM   
GotSteel


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http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-case-for-an-older-woman/





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RE: Is it normal for a switch to get zero CS emails ever? - 6/11/2015 11:08:53 PM   
crumpets


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Status: offline 		Standard advice applies.

Go to a munch or two.

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RE: Is it normal for a switch to get zero CS emails ever? - 6/12/2015 1:42:36 AM   
DerangedUnit


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Status: offline 		Wow you don't get any trolls!?!! That's pretty amazing, I don't get many, haven't since I switched my age from 21 to 22 a few years back. But my not many I mean not many I would respond to(2 so far this year other than long time friends) most people on this site are looking for cyber buddies or hookups so 18 year old girls or hot dommes will get the majority of the messages. It has a lot more to do with gender and age than orientation.

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RE: Is it normal for a switch to get zero CS emails ever? - 6/12/2015 4:53:49 PM   
dreamlady


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ORIGINAL: WildlifeSensitiv

I think it must be probably normal, but just in case it's not, I wanted to know if it's normal that you get zero CS emails over a period of more than a year?

The first time I tried to pull up your profile OP, I couldn't access it, because your situation seems quite abnormal even for an older male switch.

Ok, you do ramble a bit much, but so do many of us. What stands out to me the most is your lack of discrimination in what you're seeking. Being overly flexible is not always a good selling point. You've cast your net so wide that you're not catching anything.

You don't list yourself as bisexual but it's apparent from what you're seeking that you are. You also sound as if you don't care whether you would take precautions on who you fluid-bond with, whether they're married or fooling around with everybody and anybody. This is just the overriding impression I get. You might as well put a big red slash across your profile.
If you're primarily interested in female bottoms since you say you're more comfortable Topping, then your profile has zero appeal to them. (Even if you were more bottom-leaning, it would still not be appealing to a female Top unless she were on the hunt for new clients, and you don't fit the target market for a pro Top.)

You're a senior male and you should have something to offer a woman besides NSA play, which they can find just about anywhere. What kinds of contact messages are you sending out? Brief, insipid one-liners? Your entire autobiography in one fell swoop? Nix for either one of those approaches.
If you're sitting around waiting to get contacted first, then you'll be waiting empty-handed on this site for many more years to come. At the very least, fill out your Interests listing and sprinkle some vanilla activities in there, for Pete's sake.

DreamLady

Edit - Sorry, I wasn't logged in so I couldn't see that you had listed your Lives For and Loves. Ugh. . . a Lives For means this is a need you can't do without, nearly a dozen BDSM items. You honestly can't live without these things, or this is where your head is at and nothing more? Not one single vanilla activity to lend insight into you as an individual. Tsk, tsk.

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RE: Is it normal for a switch to get zero CS emails ever? - 8/5/2015 11:42:12 PM   
wldflrkate1


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Status: offline 		Change that profile picture!!!! Total turn off. A riding lawn mower? Really????

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RE: Is it normal for a switch to get zero CS emails ever? - 8/6/2015 6:51:55 AM   
Lucylastic


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Status: offline 		Dunno, I rarely get emails...im happy to say.
Ive been here 9 years almost, and I get at the most two a week.
Mind you im not searching for a relationship...
Im happy with the lack of emails.

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RE: Is it normal for a switch to get zero CS emails ever? - 8/6/2015 5:25:50 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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ORIGINAL: WildlifeSensitiv

I think it must be probably normal, but just in case it's not, I wanted to know if it's normal that you get zero CS emails over a period of more than a year?


I've only found that to be true when I was riding a tractor.

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RE: Is it normal for a switch to get zero CS emails ever? - 8/18/2015 12:34:36 PM   
WickedestDesires


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Status: offline 		Yes it’s pretty normal but it applies to all sites.
You are man I have no need to view your profile to come to that conclusion

Let me do some quick maths without splitting them into pictures of them pro element hobgoblin and pixies.
Men online Scotland in the last hour 33
Women online Scotland in the last hour 4

Ratio men to women 8:1

All the main sites will have about that ratio

Shall I do it for London just to see repeatability?

Men online London in the last hour 166
Women online London in the last hour 50
Ration men to women 3:1

Picture of you may help get mail, or just upload some stupid porn picture which is public domain – I never condone that anywhere – but I am aware I happens.

Mail and conversation can be rare anywhere. For most men – not all men wish that they wish the idea of a hump

Perhaps you could send some mails?
I believe ratio of 2-10 men applies to most sites. mean beng about 4:1. Sex sites it will be above 10 men to one pixie


I disagree with the Okc article (but their numbers will be accurate) but the site is not actually well used in the Uk save by the usual attached at it lot (form the majority of the small number of users).OKC (they do crunch numbers and algorithms)article is a better article, which they withdrew when match bought them over for silly money

OKC blog why you should never pay for online datingOKC blog why you should never pay for online dating


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RE: Is it normal for a switch to get zero CS emails ever? - 9/7/2015 6:31:40 PM   
Oneechan


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Status: offline 		it's normal for a man to get no messages. welcome to internet dating.
you have to be the initiator

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RE: Is it normal for a switch to get zero CS emails ever? - 9/7/2015 7:00:11 PM   
dcnovice


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This might help.

For men: how to find a woman here

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RE: Is it normal for a switch to get zero CS emails ever? - 9/17/2015 11:00:11 AM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		I seldom get any mail. I think it's my age. The last one I got ended with "EAT SHIT AND FUCKING DIE." I was just trying to tell them something about their collarchat post.

I'm going to be frank here because I'm even older than you. Gary is 10 years older than me. If he had contacted me online I would have told him "thanks but no thanks". I was 54 when I met him and not looking for someone 10 years older. However, we met at an event. We had fun talking together and sharing meals and even did a bit of time in the dungeon together. When the event was over he kept in contact with me and a few months later came to where I lived to visit for a few weeks in his motor home. He met my family. He took me to meet some of his family that lived in my state. He took me to his doctor visit so I would understand his health issues. In the end I forgot he was so much older than I. I was wowed by his upbeat personality. A few months later I quit my job and moved to AZ for the winter and became a snowbird with him.

Kinky males have told me that 60 was the cut off age for them. After 60 they almost never got an answer to mails they sent out. They never had women making first contact with them. If you want to find people to play with then you need to go to your local munch or events. Join Fetlife to find those munches and events. It's a free site that is geared toward social events rather than finding a partner via online. Make friends at those places. Have fun. I'll bet you will find some who are willing to overlook your age...IF you are the friendly sort.

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RE: Is it normal for a switch to get zero CS emails ever? - 9/22/2015 1:47:44 PM   
ShaharThorne


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From: Somewhere in TX
Status: offline 		I am a switch also but I am more Top than bottom. I prefer to be with Doms who don't mind having a female run the household for him (last Dom I had loved how I ran the household when we first got together, unfortunately my disability reared its ugly head). Now I am on meds that makes it kinda hard to have a relationship.

I do recommend losing the pic of the riding mower. Also there are more women than men on here some we ladies can pick and choose who to be with. Most of us loathe do-me males (men who want their desires fulfilled without paying a price like free sex or other fetishes). Beef up your profile with mundane things, not just kink. Go to munches (I have been trying to go to some in one city when I go down there).

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RE: Is it normal for a switch to get zero CS emails ever? - 11/9/2015 3:48:20 PM   
wannapleez


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Status: offline 		It's your gender, not your orientation in the lifestyle. If you want email on this site, you need to go to Sweden. :)

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RE: Is it normal for a switch to get zero CS emails ever? - 12/20/2015 2:51:43 AM   
ultrism


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Status: offline 		As another male switch, I'd say yes, unfortunately.

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