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How many of you would enjoy topping another sub given t... - 6/8/2015 4:35:21 AM   
femslut4u


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Status: offline 		Seems like many couples that are open to having another sub join them either for play or even long term often declare that they want the already established sub to be the "alpha". (which I suspect is often more about insecurity than anything else but that's another subject for another day lol)

Oddly enough I'm really turned on by being the "beta" or "omega" in this scenario.

I've become increasingly more and more aroused by the cuckquean idea. For those unfamiliar this should give you an idea of what I'm talking about:

http://newyork.craigslist.org/que/cas/5044515719.html

Thing is, I know most Dommes are not particularly drawn to being with a Dominant man, and I'm not sure a "true" switch is the right fit if they're someone that ideally enjoys switching with the same partner. Master wouldn't be into submitting and honestly I'd rather be submissive to her whenever we're together as well.

So what I'm wondering is how many submissives out there would even be excited by the idea of being submissive with a Master, while also having the opportunity to be in control of his sub when they're together?
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RE: How many of you would enjoy topping another sub giv... - 6/8/2015 6:01:24 AM   
themuseling


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Status: offline 		It has been something that I have been asked before, both on Collarspace on an old account and on Fetlife. As much as I am not at this point comfortable with non-monogamy coming into my relationship with my Master, in theory it is not a relationship system that I think that I would adjust poorly to. I'm a submissive-heavy switch so, there is a side of me that is inclined towards dominating another. Although whether or not it would arise in such a situation is again, unknown.

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RE: How many of you would enjoy topping another sub giv... - 6/8/2015 3:59:31 PM   
DerangedUnit


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Status: offline 		Ive had my girls and run a house... dont like it, sexually anyways. It doesnt turn me on. Its more like being a mother. I still have the scars on my hand after one of my girls lit the house on fire because she wasnt getting enough attention.... its work. Caring for the emotional states of numerous already unstable people doesnt tend to make a relationship better. Just like bringing a new girl in wont change the old ones dynamic. If she was submissive before, she will still be submissive, if she was angry and bitter the new girl will become that too. I see way too many people trying to add more when they dont even have control over what they have, expecting new to somehow magically fix the mess they made.

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RE: How many of you would enjoy topping another sub giv... - 6/9/2015 12:54:47 AM   
fetishandpain


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Status: offline 		I'm the same place you are, just don't have the same opinion on the alpha thing lol I will switch if necessary, but I've seen too many people looking for the unicorn, usually because the male doesn't want the female to play with others males I think...

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RE: How many of you would enjoy topping another sub giv... - 6/9/2015 9:56:31 AM   
sweetieDA


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Status: offline 		Nope, not at all. Partly because I don't find submissives attractive and partly because I'm straight and wouldn't want to have sexual contact with a woman. You'd be better off looking for a Master / switch couple.

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RE: How many of you would enjoy topping another sub giv... - 6/9/2015 11:12:21 AM   
MageDrayG


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Status: offline 		On this topic I have had enough experience to know when an add in sub or subs are included, I try to keep their roles as visual stimulation, not physical contact. It just works better that way for most people.
This technique works very well and adds depth to the experience without detrimental fears.
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RE: How many of you would enjoy topping another sub giv... - 6/9/2015 6:24:40 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		A true switch is simply someone who enjoys sometimes being the top and sometimes being the bottom. It can be with the same partner or with different ones.

I suggest you folks get to know people in your local community and make friends. If someone feels the necessary chemistry to enjoy topping you while you feel the necessary chemistry to bottom to her, then discuss boundaries and try it.

Just like meeting any new partner, date and talk. Not necessarily in that order.

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RE: How many of you would enjoy topping another sub giv... - 6/10/2015 4:23:29 AM   
experiment2


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Status: offline 		as a submissive/slave with a Domme as my Mistress, i have no interest in topping anyone. my personal driving force is to serve my Mistress and please Her as much as i am able to.

it would seem that a sub who would enjoy toping a Masters other sub, is really a switch.

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RE: How many of you would enjoy topping another sub giv... - 6/10/2015 7:19:53 PM   
InHisHeart


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Status: offline 		Having another sub join us for play would be fine but I'd have no interest in topping her. If Master wanted me to, I would try and do my best but I'd probably suck at it, it's just not in me.

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RE: How many of you would enjoy topping another sub giv... - 6/11/2015 5:13:02 PM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		Been there. Tried that. It's not my thing.

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RE: How many of you would enjoy topping another sub giv... - 6/11/2015 8:09:11 PM   
shiftyw


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Status: offline 		I feel toppish to the ladies sometimes? Idk I don't like submissiveness in men, but I think it's sexy with girls (just my personal tastes- I have no problems with being friends with a submissive make and do your thing!)

I don't like cuckqueen stuff though. I don't like being called alpha or beta or whatever really either. But I would be into topping a girl with my guy while remaining his bottom as well.

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RE: How many of you would enjoy topping another sub giv... - 6/12/2015 8:16:49 AM   
kallisto


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quote:

ORIGINAL: shiftyw

But I would be into topping a girl with my guy while remaining his bottom as well.



I think I see that in you ...

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RE: How many of you would enjoy topping another sub giv... - 6/13/2015 7:29:55 PM   
TheWriter13


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Status: offline 		I don't like the idea of an alpha sub or slave because it can open up a whole can of worms now a big sister would probably be a more appropriate title to me at least.

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RE: How many of you would enjoy topping another sub giv... - 6/15/2015 1:00:46 PM   
shiftyw


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kallisto


quote:

ORIGINAL: shiftyw

But I would be into topping a girl with my guy while remaining his bottom as well.



I think I see that in you ...



Thank you!
I also wanted to mention I'd also be into being the girl being double topped.

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RE: How many of you would enjoy topping another sub giv... - 6/17/2015 4:30:50 AM   
xXTonyFordzXx


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Status: offline 		I have been in the past in live in situations where I was topped by other subs or slaves, and it was a serious turn on! Then again having any hot female top me who is on the bottom like me is a turn on, even if I don't feel submissive towards them, this its more of a mind fuck!

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RE: How many of you would enjoy topping another sub giv... - 6/21/2015 10:49:14 AM   
Subano


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Status: offline 		To each their own.

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RE: How many of you would enjoy topping another sub giv... - 6/21/2015 12:58:26 PM   
daniel1973


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Status: offline 		The idea is not without merit but as a submissive you have but one master/mistress. That is kind of the point that you just can't share it as you wish.

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RE: How many of you would enjoy topping another sub giv... - 7/21/2015 5:56:30 PM   
hejira92


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From: Palm Beach County, Fl
Status: offline 		As an owned submissive, if He decided He wanted to watch me top another female submissive, I would. My enjoyment really wouldn't be the focus or the goal. HIS is. And, as my happiness is making Him happy, I would, therefore, enjoy it.

We had another female sub for awhile, years ago, but He wanted the energy solely focused on Him; while we interacted with each other (including sexually), we were not allowed to incorporate power dynamics between us.

But, btw, if He did want it, I would ROCK it.

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RE: How many of you would enjoy topping another sub giv... - 7/22/2015 3:23:58 AM   
spellslave


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Status: offline 		In the context of scenario with Master, not so much. But then again, he doesn't like the idea of multiple subs in a scene; he's happy with just me. Outside of that, he's fine with me sort-of topping a mutual friend of ours while at a munch I'm going to, because I get to practise my rope-work actually on someone rather than on myself. Technically as the guy is a switch (as am I), that counts as topping another sub? He's a combination of chaperone and non-sexual play partner, or will be if only for this meeting because of the nature of the event then afterparty that we are going to.

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RE: How many of you would enjoy topping another sub giv... - 7/22/2015 1:58:56 PM   
RemoteUser


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Status: offline 		What do you want, and what does your partner want - and where do those desires meet?

The rest is pretty much semantics.


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