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RE: Master is ignoring me - is it over? - 7/30/2015 12:09:59 PM

PrincessBlue31

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Thank you for very insightful posts.

Taking step away from my experience - I understand ignoring might be used as a form of punishment, I believe however such tool should be discussed before.

I believe a lot of subs are dealing with trust issues - in such case being ignored may cause significant anxiety issues, influencing off limit areas like work, family and friend. Seems plain cruel.

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RE: Master is ignoring me - is it over? - 7/30/2015 12:45:24 PM

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You also have to think that I do not deal with subs in a relationship, only slaves, and only more so a TPE relationship. I know what is best for my life and if the female wants to be a part of that journey then she has to understand what the implications are, TPE, simple.

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RE: Master is ignoring me - is it over? - 7/30/2015 12:50:38 PM

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Seems plain cruel.

Yes, I agree. To me it is exceptionally cruel, juvenile, ridiculous, and so many other not so nice things-- bottom line, it's something that I will not deal with in a relationship that I choose., whether as a sub, slave, or any other "title".

You know that this won't work for you- now to find someone who feels the same way. And best of luck to you in that quest.

(For the record, this has NOTHING to do with TPE, CNC, or any other acronym. It has to do with what you want and desire in a relationship. Period.)

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RE: Master is ignoring me - is it over? - 7/30/2015 5:09:55 PM

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I agree as well. Anyone who gives the silent treatment, is worth nothing to me as a partner.

I am all about discussing an issue, not pushing someone away so they are psychologically suffering.

I guess that's the intent, but not for me.

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RE: Master is ignoring me - is it over? - 7/30/2015 6:47:04 PM

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Same goes for me, being ignored, silent treatment, cold shoulder would not work with me. The only thing it would do is make me lose all respect for him and I'd walk away from the relationship.

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RE: Master is ignoring me - is it over? - 7/30/2015 8:18:57 PM

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It does do more of a wake up call instead of a physical punishment, like the whip or cane or paddle.

I get beaten with a sturdy piece of wire, one end twisted into a loop to form a handle and slightly bent to fit my buttocks. I doesn't look very spectacular nor do the marks it leaves (thin and precise) but I can tell you that thing is evil.
Every time I'm told that I'm in for it my heart sinks, often that is enough to get me back on track and Master doesn't even have to go through with it. The big advantage is of course that it takes only a minute and we can get back to our business and I don't have to worry that he's lost interest in me.

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RE: Master is ignoring me - is it over? - 7/30/2015 8:46:29 PM

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Yes, I agree. To me it is exceptionally cruel, juvenile, ridiculous, and so many other not so nice things-- bottom line, it's something that I will not deal with in a relationship that I choose., whether as a sub, slave, or any other "title".

But you've seen it umpteen times on TV where it is portrayed as normal. With friends, after a row, I've given it, I've gotten it, not so bad, cooling off.
With my master it's different, I ask him ten times a day whether I'm still his slave boy and he can't get around that, even if he'd slap me in the face every time I do it I'd still do it.

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RE: Master is ignoring me - is it over? - 7/31/2015 3:22:05 AM

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I consider the silent treatment the worse kind of emotional blackmail.

However, the man in this case didn't just give the silent treatment, he disappeared when it became clear an in person meet was imminent.

And that is a huge level of dishonesty and betrayal. Unfortunately, he is almost certainly looking for or engaging with his next victim.

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RE: Master is ignoring me - is it over? - 7/31/2015 5:55:25 AM

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I have "denied access" to a sub in the past for some terrible behavior on their part (something self destructive such as sneaking a cigarette after a written promise to QUIT or other bad habit I want nipped in the bud), however if I do this I TELL THEM, and the time limit is given, "Do not attempt to contact Me for three days". It's not a disciplinary tool unless the reason and duration are well defined.
I'm not one for the passive-aggressive "silent treatment" that is uselessly undefined and keeps the recipient GUESSING. I'm more the "rake you over the coals" type. I SPECIFY what is WRONG, firmly reprimand (they might seek a rock to crawl under), and then I'm done and we can move on to other things.

Most likely your "Dom" is one of those online poser types that takes it right up to the point of actually making it real, but instead ENDS it at the point where he gets an agreement to meet and triumphantly puts a trophy notch on his laptop. He's probably collected quite a few with his game. I've heard of this type from both sides. Good luck with the next one .

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ORIGINAL: PrincessBlue31

Thank you for very insightful posts.

Taking step away from my experience - I understand ignoring might be used as a form of punishment, I believe however such tool should be discussed before.

I believe a lot of subs are dealing with trust issues - in such case being ignored may cause significant anxiety issues, influencing off limit areas like work, family and friend. Seems plain cruel.

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RE: Master is ignoring me - is it over? - 7/31/2015 8:29:47 AM

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I couldn't agree more -- very word.

Denying access is to me not the 'silent treatment.' I define the 'silent treatment' as not communicating, and never bothering to say WHY or for how long.

Thanks for clearing that up!

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I have "denied access" to a sub in the past for some terrible behavior on their part (something self destructive such as sneaking a cigarette after a written promise to QUIT or other bad habit I want nipped in the bud), however if I do this I TELL THEM, and the time limit is given, "Do not attempt to contact Me for three days". It's not a disciplinary tool unless the reason and duration are well defined.
I'm not one for the passive-aggressive "silent treatment" that is uselessly undefined and keeps the recipient GUESSING. I'm more the "rake you over the coals" type. I SPECIFY what is WRONG, firmly reprimand (they might seek a rock to crawl under), and then I'm done and we can move on to other things.

Most likely your "Dom" is one of those online poser types that takes it right up to the point of actually making it real, but instead ENDS it at the point where he gets an agreement to meet and triumphantly puts a trophy notch on his laptop. He's probably collected quite a few with his game. I've heard of this type from both sides. Good luck with the next one .

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RE: Master is ignoring me - is it over? - 7/31/2015 1:39:07 PM

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Denying access is to me not the 'silent treatment.' I define the 'silent treatment' as not communicating, and never bothering to say WHY or for how long.

True from either side of the kneel. If you aren't ready to communicate with the person you've chosen as a partner, it's worth stepping back and taking the time to discern why. Otherwise, you let lots of potential issues build without a reliable method of resolution.

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RE: Master is ignoring me - is it over? - 7/31/2015 4:00:51 PM

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Denying access is to me not the 'silent treatment.' I define the 'silent treatment' as not communicating, and never bothering to say WHY or for how long.

True from either side of the kneel. If you aren't ready to communicate with the person you've chosen as a partner, it's worth stepping back and taking the time to discern why. Otherwise, you let lots of potential issues build without a reliable method of resolution.

That is why the COMMUNICATION aspect is always the utmost in a relationship. You have given fair warning, and still it does not get through, so you take out the physical and do the mental treatment and you let them know why, for how long, and then it does kick them in the butt. Especially one that I have done is withhold the net apart from work and emergencies like family, like for 3 days. It does give them a wake up call and allows them to think of their ways and why it did happen and how they can re group to become stronger.

It also then leads them to re discover that the net will always be there in 3 days and they start to enjoy life like to read a book, go out for a walk, do some outside photo taking, do some writing, catching up with friends face to face, instead of online all the time, apart from the ones in another state. It also can easily be written on the facepage or insta page that she is off reading or enjoying life for a few days. simple.

Frank Ar.

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RE: Master is ignoring me - is it over? - 8/8/2015 8:56:44 PM

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Online relationships fucks - not.
If you cant deliver pussy, of course he seeks for some who can.
Not a riddle.

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