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WickedestDesires -> RE: Basic Guidilines for a sub to please her Dom? (8/23/2015 8:26:21 AM)
I used to make them bring me a muffin - Now what I am (insane aside) is, I am a man of absolute (unwavering) equality and fairness who dislikes all who claim, yet deviate from such idealistic malarkey – no secret there (consider the possibility I do not do that for myself) - Sure my man musk may whiff a bit of cats and cheap Chardonnay. But I am inherently designed in simplistic terms. But my point was a simple gesture, or a tribute, it need not cost the world asking to be pleased/what pleases. & what makes a soul, or a wretched creature like me happy. A cuddle, a kiss – and if they lob in their soul and don’t mind being subject to a several ravishing, the likes they have not remotely encountered before, that causes steam to shoot from there nether regions of want. Then i am fine with that too.

Kayleigh133 -> RE: Basic Guidilines for a sub to please her Dom? (8/23/2015 8:47:55 AM)
Good break through. Hate to admit but communication is key. I'm more clear what he wants. He's now more clear what brings that out in me. All is well in the universe ;))

DannyIsNotWelcom -> RE: Basic Guidilines for a sub to please her Dom? (8/23/2015 2:38:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kayleigh133 Good break through. Hate to admit but communication is key. I'm more clear what he wants. He's now more clear what brings that out in me. All is well in the universe ;)) So you both win. That's the point. Congratulations!

DannyIsNotWelcom -> RE: Basic Guidilines for a sub to please her Dom? (8/23/2015 3:06:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar The way it's been done with me is by expecting me to behave as if I already had the qualities they seek to improve. Here's a different perspective: faking something is the absolutely last thing I'm allowed to do. When I don't like something - too bad, when I do like it, good for me. Trying to paint over the difference would be cheating. Failure is a regular part of my life. I am trained to not feel frustrated or even ashamed about it. That's simply how I learn best: make me sweat, desperate even ... and when it comes to what you really want I'll do it in a breeze, reliably, and with a genuine smile on my face. I still can't beat the feeling that that's a gender thing.

UllrsIshtar -> RE: Basic Guidilines for a sub to please her Dom? (8/23/2015 3:45:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DannyIsNotWelcom Here's a different perspective: faking something is the absolutely last thing I'm allowed to do. When I don't like something - too bad, when I do like it, good for me. Trying to paint over the difference would be cheating. That's not what I said. It's not a matter of "painting over the difference". It's a matter of having standards set for my behavior that I was expected to maintain regardless of how I felt. The change in feeling came because of the practice of maintaining the standards regardless of how I was feeling, not because he expected me to fake how I felt. Feeling angry, frustrated, selfish, impatient, annoyed and so on was all fine. Letting standards slip because I was feeling such ways was not.

DannyIsNotWelcom -> RE: Basic Guidilines for a sub to please her Dom? (8/23/2015 5:29:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar It's not a matter of "painting over the difference". It's a matter of having standards set for my behavior that I was expected to maintain regardless of how I felt. "I was expected to display patience whether I felt it or not." I can't display patience. I can display impatience, by twiddling my thumbs, for instance and I can be forbidden to do so. I can be told to wait. I can also be allowed to twiddle my thumbs while I wait. I strongly suspect you mean the not twiddling kind of waiting. quote: Feeling angry, frustrated, selfish, impatient, annoyed and so on was all fine. Letting standards slip because I was feeling such ways was not. I find that really confusing. I obey orders and follow rules because that's what I signed up for, no matter how I feel about it in a particular situation. Sometimes I don't like it and that may even be the point of the exercise. In any case, my poker face is off limits.

CaptHeisenberg -> RE: Basic Guidilines for a sub to please her Dom? (11/14/2016 7:39:03 AM)
Enthusiasm should be the minimum benchmark for consent in most matters. If not, discuss.

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Basic Guidilines for a sub to please her Dom? (11/14/2016 8:32:29 AM)
Do what you agreed to do.

smartsub10 -> RE: Basic Guidilines for a sub to please her Dom? (11/15/2016 8:36:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kayleigh133 Funny. I've heard that more then you can imagine. "OBEY" I feel it would be so much easier with an exact checklist rather then a blanket statement Don't know why it seems complicated. Him: Please get me a glass of Pepsi. Me: Coming right up! Easy.

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