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Looking for advice - 8/27/2015 4:53:38 AM

swm1993

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I am not only new to the D/S lifestyle, but trying to find someone online. Can other dome give me some advice on how to start a conversation with a potential slave?

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RE: Looking for advice - 8/27/2015 6:01:27 AM

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I am not only new to the D/S lifestyle, but trying to find someone online. Can other dome give me some advice on how to start a conversation with a potential slave?

Abandon all hope, ye who enter here.

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RE: Looking for advice - 8/27/2015 6:40:13 AM

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Why only the start of the conversation?

I like to start with things like

How did you come to live in <location >?

It always starts vanilla for me.

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RE: Looking for advice - 8/27/2015 7:17:31 AM

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Have you seen the profile? I asked my master to pinch me. He refused, evil bastard that he is!

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RE: Looking for advice - 8/27/2015 11:13:48 AM

ChatteParfaitt

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How do you go about starting conversations with (non-slave type) people.

You *do* know, they are not your slave unless and until you reach an agreement, right?

I most strongly suggest you get yourself over to FetLife. It's a free site, much like Facebook but for kinky types. They have many groups where you can learn. Novices & Newbies is a good one.

This place is not known for being kind to the clueless.

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RE: Looking for advice - 8/28/2015 9:47:13 AM

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I like them to fall to their knees and weep salty tears and offer me all their worldly possessions which I will put on ebay for cash; which i will blow on cat food, cake and cheap chardonnay(bedwetter stuff – comes in super tankers – yes the ship ones). Unless its Tuesdays then I will set fire to all their worldly possessions Yes I also bottle salty tears and wap that on ebay too

Curious as to why you being a male Master seeks the advice off domes to talk to slaves.

You should probably start with adding a profile and then you say hello or words to that affect. But you are man expect almost no replies and take up knitting. Reality is a problem no matter what online site and there is malarkey awaiting everywhere.

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RE: Looking for advice - 8/28/2015 5:22:29 PM

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You *do* know, they are not your slave unless and until you reach an agreement, right?
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That's precisely what people don't seem to know or understand, I don't have the slightest idea how my master makes me obey his orders or why I do it, when he told me that I was now going to be his slave that was simply a statement of fact.

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RE: Looking for advice - 8/28/2015 5:34:04 PM

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Simple, if you want to yell at you just say, "Hey, did you know you look just like my Mom" They will start talking to you really fast, it might not be what you want to hear, then maybe a block afterwards.

Just like in everyday life, pay them a complement, like there eyes, or smile. If they have a picture of there pussy on the profile say, I'm trying to read your profile, but I keep on getting distracted by your profile picture

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RE: Looking for advice - 8/28/2015 6:34:36 PM

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The fact that I couldn't have graduated from high school in Germany writing English like you do kind of does distract me.
"pay them a complement, like there eyes" God, what would my native language look like butchered like that?

Hey, did you know you look just like my Mom" They will start talking to you really fast

Except for the ones you actually want to talk to you ;-P

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RE: Looking for advice - 8/28/2015 7:13:04 PM

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The fact that I couldn't have graduated from high school in Germany writing English like you do kind of does distract me.
"pay them a complement, like there eyes" God, what would my native language look like butchered like that?

Hey, did you know you look just like my Mom" They will start talking to you really fast

Except for the ones you actually want to talk to you ;-P

And what's your point, is your post helping the person out?

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RE: Looking for advice - 8/28/2015 7:47:36 PM

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And what's your point, is your post helping the person out?

Well, if you were standing next to me talking about my mother like that, it would kind of help your dentist.

"Potential slave"... that's a big fat insult to an actual one.

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RE: Looking for advice - 8/28/2015 10:56:36 PM

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And what's your point, is your post helping the person out?

Well, if you were standing next to me talking about my mother like that, it would kind of help your dentist.

"Potential slave"... that's a big fat insult to an actual one.

Well first of all, I never used the term Potential slave, and as for the mother term, it was suppose to be negative, in other words, "do not do that".

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RE: Looking for advice - 8/29/2015 8:31:49 AM

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Currently as the way things stand on here Op has zero chance. Even on Ashley Madison the chances were 0.007% was it female users. Granted your odds are better here methinks, by a wee bit/ More so if you wish to part cash to as scammer promising you the idea of a relationship or one of the hot lesbian profiles or iffy bisexual profile pictures (all come with archaic stolen pictures – usually a give away)

The origins of the quote I am not sure – it certainly appears in the witches of Chiswick

All this talk of mothers

That’s no way to speak to your mother
You’re not my mother
If i was your mother, I’d give you poison
If you were my mother I’d take it

The olde ones are indeed the best.

By all means hang about here and check out fet and join some mainstream sites where the odds are more in the favour of you getting one reply

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RE: Looking for advice - 8/29/2015 11:03:00 AM

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Well first of all, I never used the term Potential slave,

OP, my sincere apologies.

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and as for the mother term, it was suppose to be negative, in other words, "do not do that".

There are things that you simply don't do, not even as a dominant playing with your slave. In my book, that's one of them.

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RE: Looking for advice - 8/29/2015 11:43:02 AM

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Well first of all, I never used the term Potential slave,

OP, my sincere apologies.

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and as for the mother term, it was suppose to be negative, in other words, "do not do that".

There are things that you simply don't do, not even as a dominant playing with your slave. In my book, that's one of them.

Yea, I agree with you, but you shouldn't use this site, or the internet as a sole way of finding a special somebody. There are plenty of brunches going on, meet ups, and classes, and clubs.

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RE: Looking for advice - 8/29/2015 11:51:54 AM

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Well first of all, I never used the term Potential slave,

OP, my sincere apologies.

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and as for the mother term, it was suppose to be negative, in other words, "do not do that".

There are things that you simply don't do, not even as a dominant playing with your slave. In my book, that's one of them.

I took what Michael said, "Hey, did you know you look just like my Mom" as being a tongue in cheek statement. In other words, don't say something stupid that is going to piss off the person you want to get to know.

As far as the OP using the term "potential slave", why would that be a big fat insult to a slave since she wouldn't be his slave but might be a potential slave to him.

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RE: Looking for advice - 8/29/2015 5:08:08 PM

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"Hey, did you know you look just like my Mom" as being a tongue in cheek statement.

Like I said, there are some things that simply can't be understood that way.

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As far as the OP using the term "potential slave", why would that be a big fat insult to a slave since she wouldn't be his slave but might be a potential slave to him.

Because it's like the difference between playing doctor when you are eight and actually be one.

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RE: Looking for advice - 8/29/2015 11:09:10 PM

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I didn't see the OP's profile (it seems to be gone now) but I don't see his use of "potential slave" as offensive. The use of the term "slave" as an identity and as a relationship status are both common and it seems clear that the OP was using it in the relationship status sense. I don't think this usage is quite the same as telling someone who identifies as a slave that they are only a potential slave.

Of course, the usefulness of starting a conversation with someone you haven't met specifically to see if they would like to be your slave can certainly be debated. It can come across as similar to introducing yourself to someone in a bar and quickly asking if they will go steady with you. It is also kind of how Collarspace is set up though, with lists of people (or at least the appearance of such lists) who are looking for some type of D/s or kink connection. "What is a good way to find what I am looking for?" is a natural question to ask.

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RE: Looking for advice - 9/1/2015 3:37:15 PM

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I didn't see the OP's profile (it seems to be gone now) but I don't see his use of "potential slave" as offensive.

I understand what you mean, but: Master said "Do you think you're entitled to talk like that, boy?" - "I kind of do, Sir." - "Go down on your knees and lick the floor." Not inside the house either. You see I earn my right to talk like that, I'm not just dreaming and I reserve the right to be proud of it.

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