|
dreamlady -> RE: Help me help her (9/26/2015 9:38:49 PM)
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: SDFemDom4cuck
Frankly chastity and cuckolding are a very special subset of D\s. Not every Domme is into it or even understands it. But it is definitely something one either loves or they don't. You can't make her think like a Cuckoldress, and having her go through the motions simply to give you what you want is not going to be very fulfilling in the long run. I cannot tell you how many married cuckold wannabes have asked for advice on how to introduce it to their significant other. In 30 years of this life My advice is always the same...
You can't. She either naturally has the mindset of a Cuckoldress or she doesn't. Forcing a square peg in a round hole simply to have your fetish fed is not going to work well in the long run. As far as being married to a vanilla wife and being a cuck on the side...I don't know a Cuckoldress that would be OK with that. Perhaps seek out some one else that is married or even a Dom/Domme couple that would be OK with a few hours of fantasy play. Not even close to living the life of a cuck in real life but probably as close as you will get in your situation. There is someone for every one out there.
^This^ [sm=applause.gif]
I don't even try to talk any sense into these (married) vanilla fantasists. Not about chastity, not about cuckolding. Thank you, though, for telling it like it is because there are only certain Dominant women who get into these things with their own partner(s) and ordinarily wouldn't want to be a married man's "dirty little secret Mistress on the side."
In a way, it's the same sort of visceral reaction that we have to sissification and/or crossdressing. We're either open to the idea or else find it repulsive in our partner(s). At the very least, those who are on the fence MIGHT tolerate it to a limited extent; however, there is a significant difference betwixt them separately.
Just as a woman can't be a little bit pregnant, embarking upon incorporating chastity and/or cuckolding (oftentimes, the man will want to do both) is not a halfway endeavor. You either sink or swim.
(With indulging your sub's desire, or with a sub indulging his Mistress's desire to have him crossdress, even the smallest element of reward or as occasional disciplinary humiliation can easily be accommodated in manageable increments.)
I used to think of these practices as more of a lifestyle choice than a fetish or kink since I don't consider BDSM to be an integral component, along the lines of swinging and wife-swapping -- neither of which requires BDSM or D/s to factor in whatsoever.
I do view it a little differently nowadays, as more of an all-consuming fetish obsession on the part of the MALE partner -- a kind of addiction where a husband would sooner destroy his marriage than give up his "drug" of choice.
It becomes his fantasy opiate, much to the chagrin of most of the wives who inexplicably find themselves caught up in this tangled web the do-me husband has woven, as he tries to control his wife while proclaiming how much he wants to be dominated by her instead.
(Which means, therefore, there is no authentically submissive desire for the husband to actually relinquish control to his wife.)
Ime, this is the common denominator I've identified between fetishists and male chastity *slaves* or men who want to be cuckolded.
Not in all cases, depending on the level of D/s involved, but in many of them.
DreamLady
|
|
|
|
