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The most important things to remeber - 11/13/2015 12:10:19 PM

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So I was wondering. What are the most important thing to keep in mind when looking for a sub? Also what is the most important thing to keep in mind about a scene?

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RE: The most important things to remeber - 11/13/2015 12:43:01 PM

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That the other person is a person in their own right, not just a fetish delivery system. As such they are entitled to all the respect you would give any other person you date. The fact that they don't want to be in charge does not make them sub human, stupid, or someone to look down on. If you want authority over someone else, then you better be able to demonstrate that you deserve it.

As far as play goes, don't pretend to knowledge you don't have. Don't do stuff you haven't learned how to do safely and haven't practiced a lot.

About your profile, I'd eliminate your last paragraph. Scammers won't read it and everyone else is put off by negativity. And turn your picture so it isn't sideways.

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RE: The most important things to remeber - 11/14/2015 12:51:07 PM

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The most important thing is to remember where you set down your sharp as a razor combat knife in the dark public dungeon . . . or you may castrate yourself when you sit on it. Hope this helps. I got a thousand more tips almost as important as this one.

The questions in your OP are too vague to answer. For example, each type of scene has a different set of priorities. You don't watch for blue fingernail or toenails with knife play... that is for bondage. Please refine your questions and we can refine our answers. In the meantime, here is a tip... don't bump against the hot branding iron.

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RE: The most important things to remeber - 11/15/2015 10:26:34 AM

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Well i guess what are the most important thing to keep in mind just a a general rule when it comes to safty and first aid when atempting a scene.

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RE: The most important things to remeber - 11/15/2015 8:13:12 PM

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what you want and like and desire and find someone that is able to fulfill you. knowing what you want and need will help you find someone that find you worthy of their submission

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RE: The most important things to remeber - 11/15/2015 9:35:09 PM

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Well i guess what are the most important thing to keep in mind just a a general rule when it comes to safty and first aid when atempting a scene.

Yes. Common sense goes a long way. Communication is always a big help... "is this too tight", "is that to hard" etc.

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RE: The most important things to remeber - 11/26/2015 4:25:38 AM

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So I was wondering. What are the most important thing to keep in mind when looking for a sub?

Bread is everything. Meat comes second, then condiments. But if the bread sucks, so will the sub

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Also what is the most important thing to keep in mind about a scene?

To pay attention to the scenery because life is about the journey, not the destination

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RE: The most important things to remeber - 11/26/2015 4:53:25 PM

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having open dialog when choosing a sub letting the sub have input and giving input as well knowing that a Domme is just as human as the sub and things happen

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RE: The most important things to remeber - 11/29/2015 8:54:20 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

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So I was wondering. What are the most important thing to keep in mind when looking for a sub?

Bread is everything. Meat comes second, then condiments. But if the bread sucks, so will the sub

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Also what is the most important thing to keep in mind about a scene?

To pay attention to the scenery because life is about the journey, not the destination

Ok this reply made Me smile.

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RE: The most important things to remeber - 11/30/2015 3:06:19 AM

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finding someone that can be a fulfilling part for you outside of kink like being able to participate in the rest of life like shopping and cleaning and repair cleaning the litter box

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RE: The most important things to remeber - 12/1/2015 1:39:13 PM

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She must be skilled in the art of Sword swallowing(hehe) to scone baking....its a very long list i cant be bothered typing.

Or is it her soul to my soul blah blah now fetch me a plate of scones

On-line scene take most with a pinch of salt and have you correcting mace to hand and plate of scones in the other hand.

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